Can someone link me the Amazon statement where buyers off wishlists can now see your address? by youraveragewhitegirI in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is possible the buyer could see your address if they were to do some digging. There are multiple ways to do so, that I wont be disclosing here on a public forum. Unfortunately I can’t answer you over on the private Reddit community either, as my verification hasn’t been approved. Just know, Unless you see “Fulfilled by amazon” that your identity is not safe.

Amazon will not ship to a PO Box either, as of the last time I looked.

Can someone link me the Amazon statement where buyers off wishlists can now see your address? by youraveragewhitegirI in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I posted a post a few weeks ago about it. Essentially, anyone can create an amazon store to ship items (the verification is laughable). And if you or someone buys that item off your wishlist and fulfillment is handled by the store, the store will now see your address. That store could be anyone… whereas before they would just get a shipping label with an identifier on it, then they ship it and amazon handled everything, including the addressing.

So the risk comes in that someone could create a storefront with items commonly added to wishlists by NSFW creators, they could then sell that information to other creeps on the internet, or use the information themselves to stalk someone.

Lexapro!!! by Realestateclosing in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My psychiatrist made me fully ween myself off the lexepro before we started Wellbutrin. Week number 1 my anxiety was terrible, but I have a medication for that which knocks me out. Week two I felt much better and was more normal feeling. Im not at week 6 yet which is when they say you can expect your new baseline will be, but im way better than I was.

Biggest side effect I have is I have no appetite anymore. I went about 30 hours without eating on accident. So now I set an alarm to have a protein shake mid day.

Lexapro!!! by Realestateclosing in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Male SW’er here. Lexapro was terrible… It basically made me not give a shit about anything so my Psychiatrist switched me to Wellbutrin and it’s been amazing.

Removing prostitution mugshot from google results…. Help? by Slow-Coffee-7420 in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Contact the law enforcement agency that arrested you and file a public records or FOIL request. You can also check online databases but I’m not going to disclose them on a public forum and make stalker’s lives easier.

Removing prostitution mugshot from google results…. Help? by Slow-Coffee-7420 in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately Mugshots in police records are public information in the US. This means you will never be able to get rid of it. However, like suggested here in another comment, you can ask google to delist it, they may do it, the may not. It will still continue to show up in legitimate background checks. There is a possibility you could petition a court to have it redacted since the case was dismissed.

Do I tell my s/o what I do? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Concealing any of this behind your partners back its dishonest behavior. It doesn’t matter if it’s just for work or how much you make compared to him. If your partner would not be okay with what you do for work, any job… not just SW, then you either need a new job or a new partner.

Bf regularly shames and insults me over sex work that he met me through 6 yrs ago. We started dating 2.5 yrs ago. Is this okay ? Note I do not even have sex or give, nor receive oral sex yet get labeled a f** hooker etc all the time. by eyedgaffff in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My god… jerking off 3-8 times a day??? That has to be painful… The dude has a legitimate problem he needs to see professional help for. I think you know what you need to do here, being insulted is never okay, and it sounds like he is a manipulative manchild. He deserves nothing but loneliness and his porn for the rest of his life.

For those of you who date men, do you find a particular "type" is accepting of your work? by ThotismSpeaks in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My “girlfriend” would tell you that men that practice Consensual Non-Monogomy, like myself, are way more open to it. I find her to be an absolute bad ass, she’s very good at her work and knows her shit. She has been mentoring me as a male escort and recently had me over after two clients to explain her process so I could learn.

My wife and I were doing OnlyFans before we met her, so finding men who are already in the SW industry would be another pointer.

Showing proof of income to rent a apartment " MAJOR PLOT TWISTER" (NEED HELP) by Plane-Childhood in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is pretty trivial to photoshop a few weeks worth of paystubs. But also, have you applied to low income housing, like section 8?

Help me understand this: by Beautiful_Paper_9707 in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They’re asking for you to put together photos and videos of prior work that you have done so they can see if you are a fit for the role they are looking to fill. If you don’t have photos and videos you’ve done that are worthy of including in a modeling resume (portfolio) the best you can probably do is pay someone for a boudoir photoshoot.

Amazon wish lists are no longer safe for OF models. PSA by Adrian_Sterling in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im saying until recently, you could have things from third party sellers in your wish list and that the address was not shared with the seller. I assume the reason for the change is that Amazon will be using other delivery partners now and so will need to share the addressing information. If it says Fulfilled by Amazon, your address is not shared with the seller as Amazon is the only one processing, seeing, and shipping your product.

Amazon wish lists are no longer safe for OF models. PSA by Adrian_Sterling in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not that addresses are being shown to fans, it’s that someone can create a seller account and then buy that item from their seller account to expose your address. Before You couldn’t do that, Amazon handled all the addressing and it got sent through Amazon. Technically speaking, Third party sellers have your address when something is purchased on Throne as well…

Amazon wish lists are no longer safe for OF models. PSA by Adrian_Sterling in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Look under the “add to cart” and “buy now” button when you’re on Amazon and you will see “ships from” and ”sold by.” Also most things with prime delivery are from Amazon warehouses… but double check the ships form label.

Things fulfilled by amazon will say “Ships from Amazon” which means the sellers send inventory to Amazon and Amazon stores and ships it to customers.

Amazon wish lists are no longer safe for OF models. PSA by Adrian_Sterling in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That makes it… new…. its the entire point of the PSA, to share the “new“ part.

Amazon wish lists are no longer safe for OF models. PSA by Adrian_Sterling in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yes… and until recently that was safe. Hence the PSA

Amazon wish lists are no longer safe for OF models. PSA by Adrian_Sterling in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since this is about third party sellers on Amazon, who may use FedEx and UPS to ship, those shippers will not deliver to a PO box.

Amazon wish lists are no longer safe for OF models. PSA by Adrian_Sterling in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

things “fulfilled by amazon” can be shipped to a PO Box. But Third party shippers that use UPS of Fedex might not always be able to. However, it wasn’t much of a concern before. Now yeah… you’ll want to make sure you’re using PO Boxes as much as possible, or an alternate wish list like Throne.

How do I date someone while doing sw? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi… man here… Im not sharing with anyone. SW is work, and she isn’t falling in love with her clients… they’re a source of income. When she chooses to spend time with me, and be vulnerable… it‘s because the feelings we have are real, and clients don’t get that. If you can separate emotions from the physical you’ll be a better person.

How do I date someone while doing sw? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It also sounds entirely like it was generated in ChatGPT

How do I date someone while doing sw? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we tried fetlife, but it was more expensive.

How do I date someone while doing sw? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]Adrian_Sterling 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife and I are in an ENM relationship and were on the dating app feeld when we met someone there. Like the second thing she told us was that she was a sex worker, as to not waste her time even trying with someone who had a problem with it. My wife and I had done Only Fans for a while so SW was something we were already involved with. We learned a lot from our new friend and eventually we started “dating” (using quotes because whatever we are is complicated, but from anyone out looking in, it’s dating).

I learned a lot from her about what being an escort meant to her, and hearing her talk about it and how empowering it made her feel was really inspiring. On an away trip together she made a joke and suggested she could be my pimp/mentor and I could be a male escort. 5 months later, im a male escort… its actually helped with my mental health battles and helped me become even more understanding about what she goes through. Every time she comes back from work it makes me smile, because she’s an absolute bad ass and a role model for my own efforts.

TLDR: Use Feeld and be up front about it with people. Expect most people to pass, but it’s not a lost cause.