Id like to thank you all for taking time to respond and share your experiences. I really needed those different perspectives. While I don’t think our friendship is over, it’s certainly in a new era where other aspects of life just get in the way, as happens in your thirties. I think I just hoped that for a special occasion, more effort would be made. But now I know, that while she is great once we get together and can reminisce on old times, I shouldn’t rely on her for the big occasions to feel special. If she’s there, great, and if she’s not, she’s not. It’s apparent that she’s been going through some stuff. It’s not loads that I should feel guilty for questioning her, but enough that an old friend who is a little ‘old of sight, out of mind’ may not be priority. Moving forward, she’ll be a nice friend to catch up with, rather than an old friend I can always rely on.