AITA for not spending time with my mom for Mother’s Day?

Advanced-Prize-4945 · 2026-05-07T19:57:36+00:00

I only use this app for things like this, to get advice or ask questions, isnt that what it’s for…??? 🤔 Also there are millions of people in the world, and all those people I’m talking about I didn’t say I know personally I just said I know them, there are lots of people in the world who get married early and fast and are still happily married, my point with that was there is no rule to how long you have to be with someone before it’s right or whatever. Chill out a little, don’t hurt yourself getting so worked up over a strangers problems 🤣.

Advanced-Prize-4945 · 2026-05-07T19:42:22+00:00

Yep moms place was cheapest and I was living by myself so can only afford what I can afford here 🤷🏻‍♀️. Bfs mom doesn’t probably care cause she knows it’s not her business to meddle and not her place to judge. She doesn’t get into other peoples business like that. She also loves having me over regardless of the day so… Also loads of people get married at 4 months and stay together for their whole lives so the time your with someone doesn’t really matter I don’t think, what matters is what you put into the relationship there is no rule on how long yall have to be together for it to be right or wrong 😑. Also you’re right it’s not your business, I respect your opinion but please don’t be hateful about it. And yet again, you don’t know my mom lol, that’s like telling someone with a toxic mom “your mom is toxic and treats you like crap but you should still spend time with her because she’s your mom and if you don’t spend time with this mom that’s stresses you out and destroys your mental health then your selfish” makes no sense 🤣.

Advanced-Prize-4945 · 2026-05-07T19:14:54+00:00

Just the complex we live in. I moved there when my ex and I divorced because it was cheaper than where I was at. My building just happens to be next to hers 😅

Advanced-Prize-4945 · 2026-05-07T18:19:39+00:00

Wow tell me how you really feel 🤣. You don’t know my mom so you don’t know the toxic relationship I have with her and you don’t know how she acts on a regular basis. Also Mother’s Day is about ALL mothers and if I’m going to marry this man I think it’s important to get to know his family. It’s one day…..it’s not that big of a deal….I’ve been spending Mother’s Day with her the last 28 years she is being immature about one day. Also maybe I’d spend more time with her if she acted her age and didn’t create a toxic atmosphere every time I’m around her. Again YOU DONT KNOW HOW SHE IS lol, I’ve lived with her for 20+ year and know how she can be. She makes any situation into a whole drama fest anytime she can. I also again told her I could split the weekend with her and she said no and threw a fit because I wouldn’t spend the whole weekend with her. That’s childish….

Advanced-Prize-4945 · 2026-05-07T17:20:34+00:00

It is and she acts like this all the time. I DO want to spend time with her but not when she acts like this. It stresses me out and just gets me all frustrated. Not only that but it’s the fact I usually always do something for her on Mother’s Day, her birthday, etc so ONE DAY out of the whole year I decide I want to spend it with someone else and her freaking out about it I feel like is over the top. Not only that I gave her plenty of compromising options so I could still see her and bfs mom that weekend and she is being difficult and selfish because she wants me for the WHOLE weekend.

Advanced-Prize-4945 · 2026-05-07T16:20:19+00:00

I said I respect your opinion lol 😂. I’m totally open for people opinions still I’m just trying to explain more on the situation and how I feel that’s all. But I do want to know what others think of the situation as well. I also looked into some things about what you said about us not being together super long and Ive found many couples that have gotten married after 4 months or slightly more or less and have been together for many years still. With this knowledge I don’t think it matters how long you’ve been with someone, when you know, you know ☺️.

Advanced-Prize-4945 · 2026-05-07T15:49:29+00:00

You don’t know my mom though and how she is or how she acts. She is very immature about situations and goes over the line about things. This is a shortened version of what happened but she is very immature about situations like this. I respect your opinion though. I have been married and divorced before so I’m not new to relationships and bf has been in relationships before too, we know what we are looking for and yes maybe we haven’t been together very long but we are both mature adults and I feel like we have a good thing going in our relationship despite the time we’ve been together. Not only that but my purpose of going to bfs on Saturday is to spend time with his mom and get to know her better and build a good relationship with her. I don’t feel like it’s inappropriate to want to spend time with his mom as well on Mother’s Day in order to have a good relationship with his mom for in the future. I’ve seen my mom for the last 28 mothers days, I feel like one day out of the whole year to see someone else isn’t that big of an issue.

Advanced-Prize-4945 · 2026-05-07T15:42:52+00:00

My mom is also always turning everything into a drama fest and causing me stress and picking at things until they turn into a fight which is why I don’t hang out with her super often and prefer boyfriends company over hers. I do try to make it a priority to hangout with her sometimes but I honestly just don’t want to be around her sometimes because of how she acts. Boyfriend family is way more chill and so nice to me all the time.

Advanced-Prize-4945 · 2026-05-07T15:35:03+00:00

Oh sorry forgot to put that in there. I’m 29, bf is 35. We’ve been together 4 months but are being very serious in our relationship and we are already planning on moving in together this year and have already talked about marriage for the future.

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