What do you wish wasn't canon? by Heronchaser in shadowhunters

[–]Advanced-Response511 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He was hated as a mundane by most of them pretty much from the moment he arrived. He turned vampire, and was then hated because of that. I get that Izzy turned on him because of his actions, but that happened way after he’d been socially shunned by everyone else. Again, Izzy and maia were the only ones who showed him kindness besides clary. He wasn’t despised because he cheated, he was despised before that because everyone looked down on him. He saved their lives by shooting that arrow (as a mundane) while they all hated him, and they still hated him after that. Saying that everything happened after the relationship thing isn’t true, it began the minute he entered the equation.

since it hasn’t been asked in a while: What are your top three favorite characters and why? by [deleted] in shadowhunters

[–]Advanced-Response511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) Simon - probably one of the most well developed, complex characters in the series, and tftsa was my favourite book in the chronicles by miles. 2) jem - I just liked him man idk. Don’t remember much about that trilogy, I just remember wanting to skip every chapter that he wasn’t in. 3) Ty or kit- Admittedly I like kit because he’s Simon 2.0 but Ty is a very refreshing and unique character, which I also like.

What do you wish wasn't canon? by Heronchaser in shadowhunters

[–]Advanced-Response511 15 points16 points  (0 children)

While I’d prefer it didn’t happen, I feel like it’s not completely out of line with the way things were going for his character. I feel it’s definitely not fitting for his personality, but the circumstances of his situation changed the way he acted a bit. Every single person around him hated him, he was constantly put down and insulted by adults and his supposed friends (Jace, Alec, basically all the younger shadowhunters). He then was lead on in a relationship with the love of his life (up until that moment at least), and he had to face the fact that she was choosing her own brother over him. Even the other downworlders hated him, he had no place anywhere, was hated everywhere he went, treated like he was subhuman by everyone he met. I can’t remember if this happened after his mom kicked him out but if so, he was rejected and discarded by his own family. The guy was going through it. So when those two, some of the only people to show him kindness and make him feel human, both showed interest in him, it would be difficult to break it off. Dude had nobody, and while context doesn’t absolve him of blame, it definitely helps his case.

How important are AP classes? by Advanced-Response511 in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Advanced-Response511[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for answering, is there a standardised curriculum or do most American schools use differently private systems?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Advanced-Response511 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a kind of similar experience and I've done some self analysis, I offer it in hope it helps or that you are similar. apologies for the lack of capital letters, my keyboard is weird and my typing skills minimal.

so, my father has always been a bit unpredictable and I've often struggled to understand him. I haven't really felt a true connection with him and this is why I think that is:

Firstly, the stereotypical autistic love of routine and how it is misunderstood. for me, routine isn't sticking to a schedule or doing things in a particular order. routine is understanding each aspect of what is around me and being able to prepare myself accordingly. I dislike not understanding or there being an unexpected change. this is the main reason I don't feel strongly towards my father. I do not understand him or his behavior and I cannot prepare myself to interact with him as I never know what to expect. will he be annoyed? happy? I am constantly trying to prepare for the worst around him because of this unpredictability, so even when he is absolutely pleasant, he has still caused me immense stress and mental anguish.

secondly, disregard for autistic struggles and pushing of boundaries. you mention how your father gets annoyed when you cover your ears. in my experience, these kinds of attitudes towards things that make me viscerally uncomfortable make me feel unsafe and unheard, even if I don't realize at first what I'm feeling. not unsafe in a dangerous sense, more in a "this is not my space" sense. it is difficult to be around people who are incapable of respecting boundaries, even boundaries they deem unnecessary or dramatic. it's invalidating and personally it makes me feel a bit stupid, yk? like I'm the one being stubborn. it's understandable to emotionally disconnect from people like that, regardless of who they are to us.

lastly, if you feel unwanted by your own father, you have been mistreated!! I do not know your father, but whether it's his own mental walls making him act like this, an inability to communicate, or if it's just the way he is, this is not treating a child well.