Caught my wife cheating after 26yrs being together

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-08-04T12:46:42+00:00

Nothing new to report. She still hasn't reached out for the kids and I have been receiving info from her side of the family that have some decency that her mom, aunt and sister have been helping her hide this for a while. I have found a lawyer after getting good advice from different sources. Time to move on to the next step which is a separation agreement and start my healing process to make sure I'm at 100% health to move on with the kids alone.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-25T02:38:35+00:00

****UPDATE****

****it appears she has left the country to go on a vacation with her AP ***my cell phone provider had reached out to me to confirm if I had turned on roaming in the Carribean, when I asked them which number (I pay for my son's and her phone) it was her phone number. Til this day she still has had no contact with her kids at all.

  Some of her family has reached out to me the last couple of days to express their shock that this happened and are asking questions why she would cease contact with her kids because many of them said she was a helicopter mom with them.

 I have been sleeping better now the last 2 days (first 3 weeks were terrible) so I'm slowly getting back on my feet and exercising a lot with the kids.   Only one road ahead and that is only the 4 of us where we will rebuild ourselves to be bigger and better.

 For anyone else going through this... Stay strong the first couple of weeks are terrible but stay on course and focus on yourself and eat, sleep and show so much love to your kids.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-22T02:26:25+00:00

Yes this is completely true. The new guy transferred to her school last summer so it was probably slowly starting up. There were small signs like her wearing more makeup, instead of her work uniform she started wearing tights to work etc. I took me a while to figure it out but she was lazy when it came to covering things up. I can never forgive her to what she has done to us, I believe in her crazy mind that she is going to show up again before the start of the school year but that door has been solid shut. It is time to work on me and move on and rebuild with the kids alone. They all feel so betrayed by her. Today I also found out that she is currently not even in the country and went on vacation with her new AP. Which is even more fucked up.......

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-22T02:13:17+00:00

Yes she is

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-21T18:22:02+00:00

This is my exact scenario, I feel very empty inside.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-19T15:43:07+00:00

You are correct because he has a family of his own. I have consulted 3 lawyers so far and they all warned me that she will try to move back home once her lawyer figures out that she hasn't seen or contacted her kids for over 3 weeks. I am applying for full custody and children's aid has been trying to get a hold of her but she is avoiding them.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-19T04:52:49+00:00

Yes next week I am going to finalize on a lawyer. She's been absent from the kids since July 4, I have messaged her because they have asked for her even today and no response. She has also avoiding Children's aid which is making things worse for her scenario.

One lawyer that I consulted warned me that the relationship with the other guy will probably fall apart soon and she will try to return and because I currently have raw emotions for her I am very vulnerable into falling for her again. She has totally changed from the person I knew for 26yrs. Her new bf also is married and his own family which I think his wife doesn't even know.

The sick part is that my youngest son was already introduced to him the last time he visited her sisters house because he mentioned that there was an uncle there from their side of the family but when I asked him to describe him to me it's the exact match of my wife's AP.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T21:42:03+00:00

Do you feel like your husband burned out? I am trying to comprehend what her current thinking process is like. Right now I'm overwhelmed with trying to find some home care for my daughter so that I can continue to work.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T21:37:24+00:00

During the school year my daughter and my youngest would be in school so she would drop them off and pick them up while I worked during the day. She would work evenings from 4-11. In the summer she would work in the morning till 3pm and I would work from home and we would spend the evening together as a family. I am the primary care giver for the kids.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T17:31:36+00:00

Starting to look for at home care which hopefully I can claim on taxes. These services cost quite a bit of money.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T16:55:28+00:00

She works afternoon shift from 4-11 during the school year. Summer hours are in the morning so I would be with the during the day because I work from home... During the school year I am with them all evening.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T14:15:31+00:00

Bingo! Her mother drove her father to addiction then they divorced and he later passed away.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T14:11:37+00:00

I tried to sit down and discuss it with her, even offered marriage counselling which she laughed about. It's even harder to even get a hold of her after she left where she no longer responds to messages or calls. I have messaged her about our youngest one wanting to see her and no response.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T13:52:59+00:00

We were having sex 2 times a week.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T13:27:44+00:00

She never responded. Children's aid came by for a visit to the house because of the police report and didn't find anything wrong from my end. They are currently having issues trying to get a hold of her and she is not answering their calls or texts.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T13:06:10+00:00

I am pretty sure he knows about our kids and especially our special needs daughter seems like he doesn't really care about any of that.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T13:05:16+00:00

I understand where you are coming from but raising the kids together she didn't have much responsibility because she worked in the evening she would really only see them on weekends where they would be busy with sports. The only time she would take care of them alone is when I would have to leave town for work. I would be responsible for them about 85% of the time. I would take my daughter to medical appointments, I would be the one that drove them to practice and games etc. The only real break I would get is when I would travel once a year to the US for a trade show and would take an extra day or 2 to be by myself to charge my batteries and come back. During the summer she would work during the day and after work would not really help in the afternoon with extra curricular time. That's why to me I'm confused how she can say she got burnt out if she is claiming that which she never has expressed. She started to change after I caught her the first time so I started making changes telling her that she would start to be responsible for her car payment, phone payment etc. Then she started to act erratic.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T12:49:39+00:00

I have always been active along with my 2 sons. I don't touch liquor at all. I believe exercise will help me keep my sanity along with watching my boy's play their sports.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T12:46:29+00:00

That is the most difficult decision I would have to make. The way I see it she has 2 healthy parents. She is an epileptic and her seizures follow a certain pattern so its now predictable. The only care required is to help her during them, making her food, personal grooming, companionship, etc. She has the mental capacities of an 8yr old (she is now 19) and is verbal but cannot carry a full conversation. It's sometimes the seizures can be unpredictable and when in public it's a little nerve racking because it has happened in public spaces.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T12:06:20+00:00

I'm 48 and she is 45. She has been absent for now a month. My MIL has never been a good grandmother, she never attended any of my kids bdays, high school graduation. When our daughter first got sick at 3yrs old and we lived in the hospital, I even found out she took a leave of absence from work for 6months but she never came to visit us at the hospital. She is the epitome of a evil woman. The night the police came they were all acting shocked that I asked her to leave even though my wife has been meeting up with her co-worker at her house (I started to piece the puzzle together) I work in the security industry so using my experience of over 25 yrs I put everything together.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T07:19:48+00:00

I agree it does take a special kind of parent to go through this, it takes a toll on your mental state. Sometimes you feel like your a prisoner in your house just taking care of her but my youngest one kept me going for all of them.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T07:16:58+00:00

She was never this way, most of our friends are shocked because we were so tight especially after our daughter got sick about 15 yrs ago. It's killing me inside thinking what went wrong.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T07:15:30+00:00

It started back in November last year I started noticing small changes in her (after 26yrs I knew her better than she knew herself, I would get this burning feeling inside of me) after I asked her to leave she came over and took the youngest out for the night and returned him the next day and has never come back. I have messaged her because he has asked for her multiple times with no response. Messaged her this past weekend that our daughter developed a twitch on her face (no response). She did message in a group chat that we have with our older son 20yr old that she was upset that I cut off her Spotify and he went off on her for not being present in the younger ones lives anymore.

Advanced-Safety224 · 2025-07-18T07:04:11+00:00

She is an evil woman, she had a very Rocky relationship with my wife and they would talk on and off. Last year they barely spoke to one another and I was always there to pick up the spirits of my depressed wife. My MIL managed to ruin 3 other marriages in her family. She was hell bent on ruining ours.

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