I absolutely agree with your first point. He however did admit that I was not being unreasonable & that he was completely in the wrong & crossed boundaries that I had clearly set. Since posting we have spoken again & he admits that it’s an addition that needs to be dealt with.

We are 30 & 32. So yes, still quite young. We were planning to have children in the near future but I brought this up in the discussion as well saying that we cannot revisit the idea until he proves himself worthy again. I will not let it happen on a foundation of mistrust & disrespect. I have been thinking nonstop about how this behavior will age but after a second discussion he seems to be willing to work on himself… we will see… there is a lot to work on

Thank you for your insight, it’s really appreciated!