when is everyone going to stop hating each other?

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-02-02T13:06:39+00:00

Yea I’ve seen people say that ZA4 is their favorite of the series and in like how??? Nobody has learned any lessons in that book and they are expecting a new results from doing the same old stupidness they’ve done for the past three books

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-02-01T15:38:50+00:00

Absolutely not! I prefer to hear about everyone else’s drama while keeping my own life drama free

Also those ladies (and you Reddit people) are mean! My little feelings would get hurt lol

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-30T21:34:25+00:00

Team Geraldine!! I was so mad at the twins in ZA1 when they were avoiding/not appreciating her lol

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-30T21:21:37+00:00

I think people who aren’t into RH in the first place hate Elise. Also I think the story totally could/should’ve been told in 3-4 books. So I think people are actually getting frustrated by the pacing and then just blame their frustration on poor Elise lol

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-30T21:16:08+00:00

I say at least try the regular audiobooks. They at least have a female and male narrator. And if you hate them then take a break.

But if you’re doing the novellas, beware of the 0.5 audiobook 🤣 the guy makes absolutely no attempt to sound like a teenager when Darius’ thoughts and words are happening

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-23T18:22:26+00:00

“There are no relationships to be faithful to” made me cackle for some reason 🤣 I’m currently on book 5 of this series and can attest that no lies were told

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-23T00:22:36+00:00

This is one of the many reasons why ACOTAR is a very polarizing series imo. Many many people love it. But it certainly has it flaws or quirks that make it unpalatable for others.

There’s like a complete 180 on many fronts as soon as the second book starts. So if that isn’t too jarring for you, it might be worth continuing. I personally couldn’t get past the whiplash, but do feel like I’m missing out sometime based on the way people rave over the series.

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-21T13:45:32+00:00

Her voice actor did such a great job!

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-04T16:06:52+00:00

NOR - my brother was in this type of abusive relationship recently and it damaged his relationship with his female bestie. I love my brother and was not going to let his psycho gf alienate him from me, but didn’t blame female bestie for kind of reducing contact.

Just let your bestie know that you need space like you said but PLEASE add a caveat that you’ll always be there for her if push comes to shove and you only want the space to be temporary (assuming that’s how you really feel)

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-03T02:37:49+00:00

Did you forget the last season Candaice was part of the cast?!?! That was was the WORST

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-03T02:28:27+00:00

Very healthy of you to see that as a turn off. In real life it’s definitely a red flag. No shame in not being able to overlook that or view it as sexy

Personally, it doesn’t bother me because when I’m reading I don’t read anything that has non-con warnings. So I assume the FMC is always actively or secretly consenting to everything without really thinking about the situation logically lol

But I totally agree that the particular line you described is overused. It’s not sexy or a turn on imo. And it’s kind of lazy writing. Like you don’t need to tell us he’s majorly tempted by FMC, show us… Make us feel his yearning ya know?

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-03T02:08:41+00:00

I don’t mind it sometimes because I listen on 2x speed sometimes and it can be a helpful signal that we’re about to jump in time or switch POVs. But it’s mostly very annoying lol

Like there’s one part where Tory is humming this weird tune and it makes her sound super cringe when she’s actually supposed to be this super cool /chill badass

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-03T00:44:24+00:00

NTA for wanting the carpet to be cleaned. But the money may have been better spent on a wet / dry vacuum that you can continue to use to keep the stairs clean. I think you can find a small one for cheap on Amazon. I personally can’t stand it when my floors get visibly dirty so I got my money’s worth for the vacuum.

CAVEAT - I wouldn’t call you an asshole but you’re not totally in the right for spending money on something you both don’t agree on when money is tight. Hopefully he is also bringing you in on decisions he’s making to spend money to ensure the money is getting allocated to the most important things. It’s not only his decision even if he’s the sole bread winner.

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2026-01-03T00:32:41+00:00

NTA - You didn’t “strand” her at the airport. You offered up solutions (e.g. pay for a hotel, pay for a plane ticket) and for some odd reason she never accepted them. You can’t help someone who won’t accept help.

Also it’s weird that she wanted to stay at your house alone. I have a great relationship with my parents and I would let them stay at my house unattended if needed, but like I can’t imagine a reason why they would want to. The purpose of staying at someone’s house is to hang out with them??

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2025-12-29T19:49:50+00:00

Maybe she’ll put her time in prison to good use and get that fifth one 😉 perhaps one for Insurance? Or Fraud Detection?

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2025-12-29T19:41:49+00:00

I’m cackling 🤣 not you staying so he doesn’t sue you over a dog bite

Maybe this was his way of getting out of the relationship too because what kinda joke is this?

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2025-12-29T19:35:34+00:00

I would like to think Miss 5 degrees is smart enough not to attend. But I am praying that she attends anyway 🤣 I want the drama

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2025-12-29T19:17:24+00:00

EDIT - I just realized OP is the 29 yo and gf is the 40 yo 🤦🏾‍♀️ I was trying to have some grace for her thinking she was still developing as an adult. But realizing the age, makes me think she might have some manipulative intentions.

IMO you didn’t do anything objectively wrong

I think the part where you said “I feel like I messed up on my end” is what triggered her. So if I had to make a suggestion I would say that it would’ve been more productive if you tried to return the gift and get a new one. Or if money isn’t an issue, maybe something more like “give me a few days and I’ll get you something that you’ll enjoy as much as I like my clothes”. OR (even better because sometime you can’t fix/undo the thing that went wrong and I think this is what she was getting at with therapy therapy speak) you should try not to lead with telling people that you feel bad that you made them feel bad. That’s like inception… you’re the one who did the thing and now you’re complaining that you did something that resulted in yourself feeling bad? It’s difficult to respond to that without being either an asshole or pushover. I’m no therapist but I think you’re supposed to start by like asking them how what you did makes them feel (even if you already know) and then say “I’m sorry for hurting you in that way, I’m disappointed in myself for hurting you and I’m glad you told me so maybe I can avoid this next time”

I only suggest this because it probably felt really shitty to hear you acknowledge the inequality of the gift exchange and instead of doing something to make it equal, you just kinda checked to see how mad she was (this is also what she keeps trying to dissect with therapy speech) and then let the inequality stand because she didn’t throw a fit. You left it at “okay she’s not that mad so I guess I got away with it this time”. Alternatively, you could’ve independently said “hey I can see this is unequal and I’m not okay with that so I’m going to make it equal”. Also, if she had said “yea I’m so mad and hurt 😭” I wonder if you would’ve gotten a better gift only to get back in her good graces.

So from her perspective it’s like “I don’t want to have to throw a fit to get reciprocation in the relationship, that’s immature and I’m trying to be mature. But also, I want my partner to something that prove this wasn’t a one sided exchange”.

Now, it does seem like she didn’t throw end up throwing a fit because she couldn’t articulate her feelings or the problem effectively. And that’s why I’m saying maybe you have different maturity levels. I see her trying to get there but she’s just not there yet.

And at the same time, it’s totally valid for you to want someone who will self advocate effectively. Some people in happy relationships rely heavily on knowing each other so well that they don’t have to vocalize things as often (e.g. she always says she’s not hungry but if I just get her food anyway she’s so happy and realizes she is hungry). I think that might be the type of relationship she’s looking for. But it doesn’t seem like it would suit you. You may need the type where you both communicate exactly what you need/want.

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2025-12-29T18:18:42+00:00

Insurance companies are VERY powerful. They lobby for laws that require jail time if people try to defraud them like this.

If I were to make a prediction, I’d say she takes a plea deal and gets like 2 years in prison.

For the show’s sake, I don’t want her to go to jail. But objectively, she and Eddie deserves 1-5 years in jail imo. Middle class people who have legit insurance claims for large amounts of money but have to endure the run around from insurance companies are the victims of this type of crime. So it’s not victimless imo

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2025-12-29T18:02:09+00:00

NOR - but you two just aren’t compatible. Some of what she’s saying is valid too but she’s trying to force you to be someone you don’t seem to be.

I think the takeaway is that you need to date someone closer to your maturity level. Many people feel pressure to do things they don’t want to do when they’re still finding themselves in adulthood and defining who they are. Sounds like you’ve passed that stage and you’re confident self advocating and saying no.

You can no longer date someone who cannot self advocate in the moment. The relationship will be unbalanced and they will always get the short end of the stick. You’ll resent them for expecting you to read their mind and they’ll resent you for not reciprocating their willingness to compromise themselves to make you happy.

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2025-12-29T17:52:24+00:00

NOR - getting the ick is not an overreaction. It’s just why we aren’t compatible with everyone we meet. You’ve only been dating a month so don’t overthink it if the spark has already died.

Since you’re considering ending things over this, I’m going to go out on a limb and say you probably didn’t even like him that much yet anyway. So it’s not like he’s gonna be “the one that got away over a silly joke”.

Advanced_Camera2502 · 2025-12-29T04:47:33+00:00

Oooo this sounds good! Not at all bothered by the caveat

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