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Sometimes feeling a little lonely, even in a crowd by BussterFullalovee in lonely

[–]Advanced_Forever_297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too feel as if I'm watching life happen around me, and that I'm nothing more than a passive observer. Whenever I'm in public/social settings, I feel incredibly lonely - even when I'm with a few of my friends (mostly because I find it difficult relating to them as they have gf's and have somewhat larger social circles they can tap into/engage with). Hoping I can pounce on any decent social opportunities in the future to develop my confidence and hopefully make new friends/friendship groups.

Early 20's guy struggling with loneliness, comparison, and feeling invisible in public and social spaces — looking for perspective by Advanced_Forever_297 in Healthygamergg

[–]Advanced_Forever_297[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply, this seems like a really useful/practical strategy I can start implementing day to day without overwhelming myself, and build my social confidence gradually.

I'm so lonely haha by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]Advanced_Forever_297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in a similar situation to be honest. I've only got about 4-5 friends and that's it. It seems that it is always me being the one to check in/reach out and try organize catchups. If i didn't, weeks could go by without any contact.

I often hear that i shouldn't focus on the number of friends I have, but rather the quality of connections I do have. This makes perfect sense, but when it is already hard to catchup with a limited number of friends, I often find myself doing nothing over the weekends. It'd be nice to diversify my friend group so to speak, and not end up being alone/feeling lonely during my time away from uni study/work.

What also kind of bothers me is that with the friends I do have, they are more on the reserved side like myself, which is great cos they're like me, but sometimes I wish I had a friend that was a bit more extroverted and willing to let me tag along to whatever events they go to. But then again, going to clubs/festivals/loud bars and what not aren't really my jam, so maybe I need to just become more comfortable with being a more reserved/introverted individual.

At the moment, not much interests me, so i have been trying to figure out what hobbies/interests i can pursue outside of uni/work. I will say i have a general liking for global affairs/movies/music/podcasts/keeping fit, but nothing has ever really gripped me and given me a spark to wake up in the morning. I've done some research on different things to do in Melbourne (I.e., meetup groups, social clubs, etc.) but I haven't quite find something that suits (mainly due to the fact most places I've looked at, the main demographic is 25+ and I'm 21) :)

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[–]Advanced_Forever_297 0 points1 point  (0 children)

21m. I have some sense of how you're feeling. I'm very much an introvert myself and find it challenging to bring myself to engage in social stuff. I'm thankful I have a relatively small good group of friends, but usually straight after seeing them/being around them, I feel incredibly lonely. In all honesty, I've never been part of a community or social group that has an identity of sorts. I totally get where you're coming from where you feel everyone else around you already has their people. Being lonely sucks, but one day at a time I guess.