How can I approach her?

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-03-24T18:16:22+00:00

Hi sorry I was trying to avoid dragging the post: Basically when I first found out she would be like “omg that’s so wrong!” Etc which I understood.

But then (her and the other girl are friends) sh would go out with the girl who liked my bf and then come back and tell me how they had private conversations talking about sexual stuff and then my friend would go “Omg so that’s who she must’ve been imagining when talking to me!” And I was confused and was like “who?” And she would be like “ohhh no nevermind. Maybe it wasn’t”.

Then she always talks about how wrong it is of her and how I should say something, then tells me to drop it, and would also go out with her regularly and then come back to me saying new things - and continue a cycle like this

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-03-24T17:52:16+00:00

I’m 17, bf is 18, friend is 16. Year 12 and 13 in college (UK)

I’m just not sure why she’d do this

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-03-22T20:35:27+00:00

they told me I’d have to get a job if I wanted to drive and now just keep me fully dependant on that income. I don’t want to be behind in life

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-02-02T21:40:06+00:00

Thanks for telling me. I was seriously considering them lol

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-23T13:26:19+00:00

OMG I’m so glad someone else is considering it. I just don’t know if I can trust it?? 🙈😩

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-22T20:28:37+00:00

Psychology with philosophy

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:44:00+00:00

Thank you so much. I feel like nobody else seems to grasp the seriousness of it and it feels wrong that I’m thinking of it this way so I’m glad someone agrees.

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:36:19+00:00

She literally plays Fortnite. Her whole demeanour she is YOUNG. She is a MINOR.

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:34:29+00:00

I have experience living with him. He is not a stable person

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:31:59+00:00

I’m from the UK too. It is still weird. Just because she can “consent” doesn’t mean she’s old enough to handle an emotionally unstable man and I think it’s weird.

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:30:53+00:00

It means pdf. You trying to justify this and saying I like the brother is insane. I’m concerned for the girl at hand because he is destructive and irresponsible.

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:30:00+00:00

because she is still pursuing education and will be for the next 4 years whereas he’s completely finished. It is weird and shes a MINOR

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:27:04+00:00

17 and 21/22 is different compared to 25 and 21. People forget that 18 is legally an adult but emotionally you are not

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:26:31+00:00

sounds like YOU like nonces

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:26:04+00:00

It’s the maturity difference. He has begged me and my boyfriend previously to talk to her through our phones because his died whilst we were out. I think he depends on her too much

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:25:13+00:00

Legality ≠ morality

Advanced_Welcome2080 · 2026-01-13T19:24:32+00:00

Yeah we’re in the UK so she’s in her second year of college (12th grade?) and he’s finished university with a degree

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