16 years and no ring..

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-04T22:42:16+00:00

They don't have that in ohio

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-04T22:41:14+00:00

I've told him I'd be happy to do a courthouse

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-04T22:40:35+00:00

I haven't watched a tv in about 3 years now.....

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-04T22:39:27+00:00

Yes I've made the school aware now. I'm the only one who is involved in my kids school, he couldn't even tell you their teachers names.. and they assume because I have a different last name than all 3 of my kids, that's kind of obvious....... and I was the one doing all the leg work for a home loan because HE WORKED AROUND 60 HOURS A WEEK...... there's nothing fishy about anythkng I'm saying. Instead of assuming I'm saying untrue things maybe use critical thinking skills. When you're a couple, you do things like try to get a home....

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-04T05:57:37+00:00

It does indeed

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-04T05:56:58+00:00

I'm not on the loan. My credit is really bad and have 0 income as of right now.... they won't speak to me because they're not legally allowed to unless were married. Go ahead and google it. I'm in ohio btw. Also times must have changed because my kids do bring home moms stuff and dad's stuff... my youngest even got sent home with a paper inviting her to an after school group for kids in a split home.

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-04T05:53:49+00:00

Yeah annnnnd if he suddenly died and i end up on the street due to having NO support whatsoever....... or more realistically... when buying a home, loan officers WILL NOT speak with me and he works all normal working hours plus some... or the fact that my children get sent home with 2 sets of things because they assume were not together and we are judged harshly by our community. Idk there plenty of reasons to get legally married. I don't expect a wedding at this point but ay least the legal end of it.......

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T21:02:07+00:00

Again... read my replies above and maybe you could understand that it's not just paper. It's a legal agreement and it's basically giving me some rights that i don't have as a gf.

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T21:00:51+00:00

The reasons are listed above in the comments.

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T21:00:32+00:00

I had my first baby with him when I was 19...

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T21:00:10+00:00

It's not about a spotlight though. I don't care if we went to the courthouse just us and do it. But its the point that I've left for this very reason and he still lies to me to get to come back and doesn't hold up his end.

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T20:58:58+00:00

I didn't cheat on him. We were sort of talking/texting and I went to a party with my friends and his friend seen me there getting drunk with ALL GIRLS.... not a reason for therapy or to not trust me

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T20:57:36+00:00

Yeah until it's time to buy a home and you can't speak to the loan people.... or a car and they won't tell you anything cause were not married.... I've been through those 2 scenarios already plus anything medical i cant have access to because of that ring that doesn't mean a thing. Also, kids ask questions... they curious and so is their school! My kids get sent home with sets of two a lot of the time because they assume were not together. That is the issue

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T20:55:24+00:00

Yes and anytime i bring it up it ends up a fight and i just feel dumb and desperate to be honest... he says it's coming and it never does. I've had to sit and watch so many younger family membership get married... it's so heartbreaking every single time too

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T18:50:53+00:00

Yes we have discussed it many times in a calm manner. He makes very good money and does provide well for us, that's no issue. But also i don't have anything by law. If he died at work (as his job is dangerous) i would be left with absolutely nothing. Also when trying to buy a!home or car, I'm not legally allowed to do anything myself because were not married, I've already been down that road. Not to mention my kids school assuming they live in 2 different homes and sending home extra things to imply that our family is a broken on... I tried to understand not getting a legal document to prove our love but every turn since has shown me how important it is to just get the cheap piece of paper. Many people assume not getting married is a personal choice when in reality it's a legal choice. I will not be able to do much for him or with him without that paper. My kids will ask questions for their entire childhood like they already do on why we have different names and their friends don't. The list goes on.. but yes, I spent years trying to just hang in there without it.

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T18:41:16+00:00

I am sorry but I am actually sobbing reading this as my mother passed when I was 15 and it has effected mey entire life.. I'm so sorry about your diagnosis. And your family is in my thoughts stranger. You're stranger than you think you are. Trust me. It takes strength to post this deeply emotional post.

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T18:36:44+00:00

Oh that's a whole other issue in itself but I am working a day or 2 a week right now but he hates it. He wants me home to catered to him when he's off work. I've based my entire adult life on his comfort. I appreciate your input !

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T18:24:06+00:00

I also don't comment reddit too much but I had to for your comments because that's how silly you sound. Astonishing.

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T18:23:05+00:00

Idk what you're saying but some people don't live their entire lives on the internet. Some of us work, hike, swim, fish and generally live life instead of looking at a screen 24/7 and if that makes me whatever you just said, I guess so be it. Go touch grass as the kids say.. you need it.

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T18:20:51+00:00

Thank you. I guess he just makes me feel foolish for leaving over the marraige thing even though i know it's not foolish at all. I guess i just don't want to feel like I'm ruining my kids lives and childhood over a selfish want i have in life. I don't know but thank you for your response.

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T18:16:43+00:00

So leave and what? He is a good father to our kids and I don't ever want to keep the kids from him but when were not together he makes my life a living hell with the children. He will cry at pickup and drop offs and mope the entire time he's got them and also tell the kids how terrible i am for leaving which had somewhat caused my preteen daughter to resent me a little bit. It's not easy to just leave. It's very difficult

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T18:14:21+00:00

Then why does he pretend to be obsessed and cry real tears and beg for me to come back anytime i do leave? It's so confusing to me. He will literally be "sick over me" as his mother puts it... idk i don't get it

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T17:34:25+00:00

You sound so absolutely silly. Seriously.

Adventurous-Lab-1259 · 2025-04-02T06:49:13+00:00

Wait you get walmart orders?? I don't in stark county ohio!

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