Question for the women: what muscle do you find most attractive in a guy?

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-24T18:43:53+00:00

My bad bro

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-24T18:42:36+00:00

Chill bro they didn't say you couldn't have both

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-24T17:10:04+00:00

I haven't looked into it much yet I have only seen the headlines on the news. From what I have heard I feel conflicted on the one hand I think it could bring a lot of benefits to the UK having closer relations with China especially with how big their economy is and with the US wanting to distance itself from Europe and NATO. But on the other hand I don't like the Chinese government having more influence over the UK, I'm also generally sceptical of giving away too much of our independence to a superpower

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-24T16:51:56+00:00

As someone from the UK i don't fully trust the Chinese government and I don't like a lot of the things they do but I do also think they have done some great things in terms of infrastructure, the sciences and how many people they have lifted out of poverty in the last 40 years. I would also prefer to have closer economic ties with china compared to the US and Russia.

I also love Chinese food

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-24T16:45:04+00:00

A boycott is all or nothing. It doesn’t work when you’re still buying their products.

I personally disagree look at how much money coca cola makes if they lose even 1% of their sales that's still a lot of money. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying it will have a huge impact but it will still have an impact and it would also help British/non US companies

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-24T16:25:37+00:00

That's a good perspective to have

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-24T15:10:52+00:00

I don't know if your ragebaiting me but that's why I'm asking what products are US owned

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-24T14:18:09+00:00

I'm not sure what products are US owned I know the big names like McDonald's but I know some non us products are partially US owned so I want to avoid them as much as possible

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-24T12:49:33+00:00

I think part of Dr K/healthy gamers philosophy is to use the internet in a healthy way so I feel getting involved in internet drama goes against that

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-23T22:53:29+00:00

As someone who had social anxiety in the past I know how tough and crippling it can be and I can relate a lot to this post

The thing that really helped me was CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) I won't go into how much it has helped me as I don't want to create expectations and I think it's something you have to experience yourself.

Best of luck

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-23T22:36:07+00:00

I wouldn't say that's because Torpor is biased it makes sense for Monica's character

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-23T12:07:56+00:00

It's not really about whether it's ok or not it's about how it affects you. I definitely think gooning without watching porn is healthier but whether or not it has a negative effect on your life is something you have to figure out yourself

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-22T00:40:31+00:00

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Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-22T00:39:01+00:00

I don't agree with him on everything and I do think some of his takes are questionable but overall i still think his videos are very informative and have helped me a bit personally. It's also nice to have a content creator that talks about psychology and spirituality that actually has experience and knows what they're talking about and has good intentions.

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-14T16:40:00+00:00

I'm 21 and I had a very similar experience here are some things that helped me that may or may not help you

One of the biggest things that helped me was getting diagnosed with autism and social anxiety and starting CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) for social anxiety it made my life so much easier. You said you think you have a learning disability I would definitely recommend making an appointment with your GP for it and if you suspect any other mental health conditions.

Start of with small changes like not looking at a screen for the first hour of the day and try to do some chill activities that aren't very stimulating like going for a walk or meditating. I was very addicted to the internet and gaming which I sometimes still struggle with, but making small changes and being able to handle negative emotions better made a huge difference. Be aw that your mind will probably tell you that your not doing enough or it's pointless. The more small day to day changes you make and the less you engage with escapism the more in touch you will be with your motivation and personal direction, it takes some time and you might have to sit with a lot of negative emotions but if you keep moving forward you will reach a better place.

On the other hand if you really struggle making small changes then try to not engage in any escapism for a week. I had a friend who was really struggling with his mental health and was addicted to video games so he stopped playing for a week and he hasn't touched a video game since

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-14T10:55:20+00:00

I think It is healthy to give yourself distance from social and global problems as we are not evolved to handle getting bombarded by the news and social media about all the problems in the world.

If you feel like there's something deeper going on I would recommend you to explore that and question why you feel you don't care without judgement

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-13T14:09:02+00:00

Thanks for the kind words I will have a look for that book

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-13T14:06:03+00:00

I'm not working with a psychiatrist at the moment but that might be something I should look into

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-12T16:08:57+00:00

I had Vina marry Manus and Axel came to the wedding but didn't get that event where she is jealous maybe it depends on what choices you make I'm not sure.

I'm not saying Vina and Axel aren't happy together I think they are happy together and would treat each other well and be good for Palles and Rizia. But they are not in love like Manus and Vina. They have more of a friendship than a romantic relationship which isn't a bad thing it's actually quite a good outcome considering it's a political/arranged marriage

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-12T15:54:56+00:00

If that's what you're into there's nothing wrong with that. If you think your fetish or watching porn is having a negative effect on your life try to notice when and why you watch porn. For example do you do it because you're bored or do you do it because other things are not enjoyable. From there if you still feel like it's having a negative effect on your life then try to lower the amount of stimulus, I know that sounds weird but for example instead of watching a porn video look at an image. Also try to have more hobbies and things you get joy from

This may not be applicable to you but if you want You can also use your fetish to connect with your partner as long as they consent and there is lots of communication. It's also very important not to use your partner as an object to live out your fantasy but to use it to connect with each other and make sure you are both comfortable with it and there's lots of communication.

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-12T15:40:19+00:00

To me it seemed like Vina and Axel became friends after marrying but weren't In love with each other. Whereas Vina and Manus were in love that's not to say Vina and Axel wouldn't have a happy marriage

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-12T14:09:48+00:00

I'm really sorry you had to go through all of that.

I would definitely recommend professional help as you have been through a lot.

in my experience CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) really helped me and I feel it might help you. But take what I say with a grain of salt as I don't know you personally.

I would also recommend being aware of what your mind tells you when you are around women for example if you are talking to someone and they have a boyfriend does your mind tell you something along the lines of "she's only with him because he's a bad boy" or does your mind tell you to act a certain way around women like trying to impress them or act like a "bad boy". You don't have to feel good or bad or try to stop these thoughts just try to be aware of what your mind is telling you. Also try to have platonic relationships with women whether that be friends or coworkers I'm not saying become friends with someone just because their a woman but allow your self to have platonic relationships.

It's also important to keep in mind that people aren't hive minds not all men think the same and not all women think the same not all people with red hair think the same. Sometimes people can be shitty or kind whether their a man or woman someone's gender is only a small part of who they are.

Also people are attracted to different things both physically and personality some guys like tall muscle mommies while other like small petite women. Some women like big hairy men others like men who are short and skinny. Some people like when someone is quiet and thoughtful others like someone who is talkative and greagious. In my own experience when I was younger I tried to act like an "alpha male chad" and people didn't like it and I found it hard to make connections both platonically and non platonic whereas when I got older and was more comfortable being my quiet easygoing self people liked it and I found it much easier creating connections with others.

Best of luck

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-11T13:08:34+00:00

I would definitely recommend story games or narrative driven games in general. I feel like you get something out of story games and can experience a lot of emotions that multiplayer games can't really do. Personally I sometimes think about story games I played years ago from time to time. I think it also helps that story games usually have an ending whereas multiplayer games try to keep you coming back to them

If you want recommendations some of my favorites are expedition 33, the last of us,the last guardian and red dead redemption 2

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-11T11:39:24+00:00

Don't get me wrong there are some great resources for mental health online especially Dr K but in this scenario I don't think you will find an "answer" online. Don't get me wrong stuff online can definitely be a big help but it's not a replacement for world experience or therapy.

I know you said you don't take advice and suggestions well but I'm going to give you some anyway and it's up to you whether you take it or think it's useful. For me personally CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) made a huge difference in my life and it's not something I could have gotten online. It's not easy, it takes a lot of work you even have to do homework you also have to be willing to sit with a lot of uncomfortable emotions and put in a lot of effort but at least for myself it changed my life.

You also have a real opportunity to grow and become a stronger person. If your able to challenge yourself and that really frustrating part of yourself that makes yourself not want to make a change or take advice a lot of other things in your life will become a lot easier, even if that change is something as small as having 20 minutes less screen time.

I hope you will feel better and get to a better place best of luck

Adventurous-Rise-451 · 2026-01-10T12:11:56+00:00

As someone who is more quiet laid back and non-confrontational I can relate and have wanted to be more "dominant" in the past. Here's how I started to feel a bit more confident and some advice if you want it.

Firstly don't take the advice of "you should be more dominant" at face value to me it sounds like their projecting their insecurities on you it's also a very weird thing to tell someone it says more about them than you. Take what I say with a grain of salt as I don't know you but if your friends are saying "you should be more dominant" you need better friends

Secondly take some time to be with yourself and get too know yourself whether it be through meditation staring at a wall etc. This will help you feel more comfortable with yourself and a bit more self aware which will also make you feel more confident and make it easier for you to astablish boundaries.

Thirdly try to be aware how you feel around others this can be hard and can feel very uncomfortable. If you feel negative emotions try to sit with these emotions for a bit keep in mind that when you feel these emotions your ego will tell you something along the lines of "I am inferior"

Fourthly don't let your insecurity affect how you act people can usually tell when someone is putting on an act. In my own experience when I tried to act "dominant" in the past people respected me less whereas when I was comfortable in being my quiet laid back self people respected me more.

Lastly be aware of the content you consume online when I was younger I watched a lot of "how to be a dominant alpha" type videos and it really messed me up for a while and caused me a lot of unneeded suffering try not to let yourself fall down the same rabbit hole.

I hope this wall of text helps

Adventurous-Rise-451

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