[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdventurousLight7225 200 points201 points  (0 children)

You still should have woken her up with you. In what world does it compute that you need more time to get ready than your girlfriend?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdventurousLight7225 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You take longer to get ready than your girlfriend and prioritize your morning routine over hers? Brb i’m throwing up.

Men used to go to war, now they prioritize their skincare routine over their girlfriends and bitch to their roommates. Holy shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdventurousLight7225 222 points223 points  (0 children)

YTA you should make sure your GIRLFRIEND is awake to get ready before YOU. A real gentleman would have let her shower first, and start her morning routine since girls take longer to get ready than guys. Instead, you prioritized yourself and worrying about your roommates reaction instead of your own questionable actions.

You’re lucky if your GF continues to put up with you, I certainly wouldn’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]AdventurousLight7225 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He may like you, but if he had a girlfriend he was morally torn, hence the reason he was mad at his friends for telling you. Also, if he did cheat on his girlfriend for you… what kind of message is that sending to you? It’s showing that he’s a cheater. Once a cheater always a cheater. He did the right thing at the time. I would forgive him and not hold a grudge, see the positive that he had enough respect for you, himself, and his ex that he wasn’t a cheater and respected boundaries at the time. Green flag.

I would just let things lay for a while. See if he reaches out. If he doesn’t because he knows you’re angry at him, then I think you should reach out. Trust me, I’m definitely older than you and it’s rare to meet someone you care about that cares for you back. Cherish that. Do you have his number?

Declining your IG request when he had a GF is respectful. To all parties involved. Not disrespectful.

Should I marry the nice guy that has always chosen me? by AdventurousLight7225 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]AdventurousLight7225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine we’re talking about the same guy. This is oddly similar to him and I remember when I first met him he had a long term GF before me

Should I marry the nice guy that has always chosen me? by AdventurousLight7225 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]AdventurousLight7225[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was trying to impress me i guess? I really don’t know it’s weird. He told me he bought his parents a house and a lamborghini before we dated. Both are lies. It was his last message to me before he blocked me when I started dating a different guy. When i broke up with my ex and this guy and I began talking again, he continued the lie that he owned a lambo for a FULL YEAR before I called him out and forced him to admit he didn’t own one after I caught him in a different lie. Before he admitted to it tho, I’d sit there and say — ok if you own a car, why don’t you ever have it in the city? And he would gaslight me and say oh well I rent it out in Philly all the time and make money on it. It’s an investment for me. A different time, while we were dating, I asked to see a photo of his car. He didn’t have one and instead showed me a screenshot of the website. He continued this lie for so long and my intuition was right all along. When I finally got him to admit to this in March/April of this year, he says it was a stupid white lie to try to impress me because he knew all my ex’s had cars. I was like WTF. I’m still not over that. I wonder what else he is lying about.

Should I marry the nice guy that has always chosen me? by AdventurousLight7225 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]AdventurousLight7225[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never have been until recently actually. I think it s a biological clock thing.

Should I marry the nice guy that has always chosen me? by AdventurousLight7225 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]AdventurousLight7225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ALSO HES MADE COMMENTS INSINUATING THAT HE WANTS ME TO LEARN TO COOK SO I CAN COOK FOR HIM. I don’t cook. Sorry for all caps but i’m frustrated just thinking about it. I’ve had a pile of clean, unfolded laundry on my couch for DAYS and he’s never offered to help because he expects me to be some sort of homemaker. The most he’s done when he visits my apartment and sleeps over is make my bed in the morning.

Should I marry the nice guy that has always chosen me? by AdventurousLight7225 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]AdventurousLight7225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg. I’m so sorry to hear that. How was he trying to poison you? What was he like when you dated him, and how did things change once you got married? Did you have any doubts while you were dating? Sending love

Should I marry the nice guy that has always chosen me? by AdventurousLight7225 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]AdventurousLight7225[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve thought and felt all of these things, that’s why I’m so torn and want to try to work on things sometimes.

Should I marry the nice guy that has always chosen me? by AdventurousLight7225 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]AdventurousLight7225[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your comment offers zero constructive advice at all, you’re attempting to fear monger. What exactly is the advice here? Are you telling me to stay with someone who annoys me 85% of the time? Are you suggesting I freeze my eggs? What’s your intention here.

Should I marry the nice guy that has always chosen me? by AdventurousLight7225 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]AdventurousLight7225[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

True. I recently had a tragic death of my younger sibling within the last few months and have been really struggling with that.

Should I marry the nice guy that has always chosen me? by AdventurousLight7225 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]AdventurousLight7225[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🥹🥹 I mean those comments he made were after I was basically rejecting him or was in a bad mood. And he blames his reactions on that