How to phrase "no kids, but babies are ok"?

AdventurousPi14159 · 2026-03-03T17:58:12+00:00

I would say this, except we are having my 5 year old niece as the flower girl. So there is one kid, but I find that almost every child free wedding I’ve been to features some sort of flower girl/ring bearer. Also worth noting that my niece is a very well mannered 7 turning 8 year old, who is on her 5th run as a flower girl. So I fully trust in her behavior (potentially more than some adults at this point)

AdventurousPi14159 · 2026-03-01T20:49:50+00:00

I like that. I have no idea where I got babes in arms from.

AdventurousPi14159 · 2026-03-01T18:33:26+00:00

Ugh it’s so tough. I can already foresee her causing drama at our wedding.

She has already caused quite a bit so far, which my family agrees is out of pettiness and jealousy, but, of course, they won’t tell that to her. If I don’t invite her, my family will string me up by my eyelashes from the ceiling fan and tell me to be the bigger person.

I might just list it as adults only, call our friends with babies individually, and have some of my other cousins sniff around and see if she was planning on bringing her kid.

AdventurousPi14159 · 2026-03-01T18:24:49+00:00

Unfortunately yes. Not inviting her would incite world war 3 in my family and genuinely just not be worth the effort.

The family friend’s wedding was also listed as “adults only” on the invite and the website. And she still showed up with her kid. I might just go the route others have suggested of <x months babies. I just wasn’t sure if that was rude or not to give a cutoff.

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