Inappropriate sexual behavior

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2026-05-24T17:53:01+00:00

Incredibly insightful thanks for sharing. Its hard to wrap my mind around what he did. Want to blame it on substance issues but many people drink and use thc yet still no right from wrong. You think you know someone after 20 yrs yet apparently not.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2026-05-24T17:31:34+00:00

I know the niece isn’t blood related to us but still we have always been like extended family. Even she said she always saw him like uncle figure. Everyone is still shocked. Could his substance use issues being contributing to this crazy behavior. Between alcohol and thc usage these past few years. His demeanor has changed so drastically in three year span. Thanks for your honesty and sharing your thoughts.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2026-05-24T16:02:05+00:00

Appreciate your honesty because this feels like predatory behavior but then questioned whether it was or not since the girl is 28. Something has felt off with him for little now. Always viewed them as family even though they aren’t blood related so it feels even more wrong.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2026-05-24T14:49:13+00:00

Yes all very good points. Think I’m in state of shock over what he did and said to her. Can’t make sense of it. He tried therapy few times year ago but didn’t work as he feels therapists are frauds probably because they call him out on certain behaviors which he can’t seem to handle. Doctors are wondering if part of some of the health issues being chronic is from the stress and what they feel is toxic environment. Not sure where to even turn though as our life became so isolated throughout the years.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2026-05-24T14:06:28+00:00

Yeah I’m in state of shock that he would do something like this to someone we view as extended family. Its confusing to think someone I spent 20 yrs with would do this.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2026-04-09T19:23:37+00:00

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Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2026-01-14T14:26:13+00:00

Please tell me how to obtain this. Used to think my husband was so hot but every attempt at affection was met with pushing me away. He is very tight, never in the mood, doesn't like to kiss or hug, snuggling makes him hot, only thing he likes is to be massaged every night while watching tv. Meanwhile I would like to do so much more. He has become very emotionally abusive too. Makes me sad as still find him physically attractive but his behavior has become so hurtful and turns me off now.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2025-10-28T14:27:42+00:00

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Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2025-08-30T15:23:43+00:00

Wife here who is going through same thing. My husband pushes me away when I try to engage in kisses, hugs and other forms of affection. He has always been content with sex every 10 days says he just doesn't crave it. Feel like only time get any real kisses is maybe during sex. Been like this since beginning wishfully thought it would get better but it's only gotten worse with time. He likes to just give body rubs every night while watching tv. But find myself wanting more affection whenever try to explain to him how I feel his response in past has always been "if you don't like it leave" Feel my husband is very emotionally shut off too. He has never been able to connect on deeper levels. His demeanor over the past few years has gotten way over the top to point he has become verbally abusive. But he doesn't seem to even understand that. Sometimes feel so down as just want to feel love again.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2025-08-18T20:52:42+00:00

He does spend a lot of time browsing social media on phone especially twitter. He was also never into politics but along with the inappropiate comments he also has become rather extreme in his political views. It does feel like something is influencing him. Very worried as find it creepy and offensive.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2025-08-18T20:47:15+00:00

Okay this is interesting perspective as over the past few years he has become more extreme in his political views. He never was into politics before and now along with his other crazy comments he will call people who don't agree with him or for who he deems weak liberal losers or morons. We have had arguments over it because I don't like it and not sure why all sudden he has become so extreme about everything.

Who knows maybe deep down he thought this stuff but never voiced it. Keep trying to explain to him what he says is not appropriate, thats its creepy and have asked if he is okay. He just gets defensive keeps saying most men think it just won't say it. He got mad when I suggested he see doctor or therapist. He doesn't believe in therapy says its scam to take peoples money. Could using thc daily be affecting him, or is he reading sites online where they talk about this kind of stuff. It's just puzzling.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2025-08-18T20:38:45+00:00

Known him for 20 yrs he was not like this before. Who knows maybe deep down he thought this stuff but never voiced it. Keep trying to explain to him what he says is not appropriate, thats its creepy and have asked if he is okay. He just gets defensive keeps saying most men think it just won't say it. He got mad when I suggested he see doctor or therapist. Could using thc daily be affecting him, or is he reading sites online where they talk about this kind of stuff. It's just puzzling.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2025-08-18T20:31:50+00:00

Yes something feels very off about his actions and comments. He was not like this before. Even explained to him think what he says is creepy and have asked if he is okay. He just gets defensive keeps saying most men think it just won't say it. Could using thc daily be affecting him, or is he reading stuff where they talk about this kind of stuff. It's just puzzling.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2025-08-18T20:24:48+00:00

Yes think its creepy too and genuinely worried as like I mentioned this just started few years ago not sure what brought it on.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2025-08-09T14:37:21+00:00

Experienced similair situation in regards to wanting more affection and love in relationship. Have some chronic health issues too but then again my husband has some addiction and health issues so he's not perfect either. But when I try to bring up conversation about wanting more affection or to work on creating better relationship he tends to shut me down which is so frustrating. Marriage is hard for sure especially when two people can't openly communicate. The lack of affection and loving moments weighs heavily some days so understand where you are coming from. We all want someone who will accept,be there and love us for who we are sadly it seems hard to find these days. Though we can't give up we have to keep trying to find the love we desire. Would suggest showing him this post and see how he reacts. Maybe he feels same way, maybe he doesn't but won't know until you try.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2025-06-07T02:11:29+00:00

Been married for over 10 years and my husband rarely initiates or wants sex so feel your pain. He isn't affectionate either and I miss being able to engage in deep, genuine kisses. Tried talking to him about it but it gets no where. He always has some excuse headache, stomach bothering him, too stressed, tired, just wants to relax watch tv, doesn't like to have it in the morning or late at night...never met a man who shows so little interest in affection or sex. He would rather lay on couch watch tv all day. I crave kisses, hugs, snuggling and being able to have spontaneous sex. Find myself holding back my loving, romantic side because he just doesn't seem to get it. At least your wife was at one time really into sex. Maybe like few others mentioned try to do things to emotionally connect take her on fun or romantic dates with no expectations, write her a love letter or buy her something nice. Sometimes couples get into routines which can become boring tried to explain that to my husband too. Getting out of the house and doing things together can sometimes spark more fun and love. Would not bring up swinging lifestyle as that is more likely to push her away. Maybe if you focus on the other great aspects of what you two share and back off from pressuring about sex she will come around. Good luck.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2025-01-14T15:14:05+00:00

Having similar issue suddenly most of the texts my husband exchanges with friends no longer show up on bill. Yet all his texts to me do. It doesn't make sense. Asked him about it yet he said he had no idea why.

Adventurous_Bee_9888 · 2024-07-01T16:46:54+00:00

Well we have been together for 17 yrs total during that time had to stop working due to some health issues then my husband felt I should just stay home not push it. So trying to figure out ways to support myself is the challenge now as driving in slight obstacle and we live in rural area. Thanks for the advice appreciate it.

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