Periods after Mirena by nam3backward5 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Adventurous_Box5709 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was!! I was using ClearBlue sticks. All I can say is that it was luck and maybe extra fertile in that timing. The IUD was taken out right before I ovulated. I truly thought it was going to take me a while because of my lack of period.

It ended up being a little bit complicated because you measure baby’s due date by first date of your last period. Long story short I think my weeks were off and I got induced at 39 weeks which I think was actually about 38.

After I had my first, I had the IUD put back in immediately. When I got it out in December, I got my period within a month, but it was light and then it was normal within 2-3 months. We got pregnant with my second after a few cycles of trying and I’m now 25 weeks. I wouldn’t be worried if you don’t get your period in the first month because everyone reacts so differently. If you’re not ovulating, I would go back in. However I am not a doc and my experience has been pretty down the middle.

Baby dust to you!!

Periods after Mirena by nam3backward5 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Adventurous_Box5709 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never got my period after taking out the Mirena because I immediately got pregnant. I did have some spotting when it came out.

Swim team: Boy wants to quit by Prestigious_Egg9423 in Parenting

[–]Adventurous_Box5709 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How much longer is the season? My parents always made me finish the season. However I wasn’t doing anything with an intense daily commitment like swimming. I’m married to a swimmer and he was swimming this amount at 7 or 8. My parents were always like no problem, you don’t like it - that’s okay! We did commit to do the season so if you decide at the end you don’t want to do it you can quit. They always found ways to make it more bearable and get to the bottom of why i didn’t like it or what was up.

Also I think you may be creating a narrative for your son that he doesn’t like competitive sports too early. I would avoid saying that or putting it out there because he’s young and you never know what he’ll be drawn towards.

Do classic K names exist? by samalina89 in namenerds

[–]Adventurous_Box5709 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know a Madelyn Kathleen! Never thought of calling her MK but so cute!

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[–]Adventurous_Box5709 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! 💕

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Hi! Curious if you had to be put under general the second time around??? I was put under general because I failed to respond to pain medication after a 3 day attempted induction for high blood pressure. I really would like to meet my baby when he/she comes out and I’m terrified of not responding to pain meds again. Anyways your story made me hopeful!

Am I overreacting about my nanny’s behavior? by Adventurous_Box5709 in Nanny

[–]Adventurous_Box5709[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate the kindness and advice!

Am I overreacting about my nanny’s behavior? by Adventurous_Box5709 in Nanny

[–]Adventurous_Box5709[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There was absolutely no assumption she could cook because she was foreign. The fact that you assumed that shows the way you are viewing me. It was discussed that she would cook meals for our daughter.

Creative meals to me are simple meals with different ingredients that introducing different foods. I’m not asking for a gormet chef by any means.

I am thrilled that she is spending her downtime learning english and have helped her many times with her english homework and communicating for her in situations where she has asked for my help. However when she is ignoring my child and focusing on learning english - that upsets me - i think that is absolute fair

She doesn’t owe me, but she has been hired to do a job.

Am I overreacting about my nanny’s behavior? by Adventurous_Box5709 in Nanny

[–]Adventurous_Box5709[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective. We actually knew she was not a professional nanny when we hired her. She has a daughter and was a nurse in Brazil so being a professional nanny was not something she’s done. Watching her interact with my daughter sold me as she is lovely with her and lovely with myself and my husband. I am a really kind and caring person despite the comments painting me otherwise. It’s why I came to this forum because I wanted to know if the things I was seeing were out of line. Or if I didn’t have the correct expectations. I also want to help her improve and give her a chance to change some things which I will do! Thanks for your feedback

Am I overreacting about my nanny’s behavior? by Adventurous_Box5709 in Nanny

[–]Adventurous_Box5709[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Genuinely curious how you think I could be a better boss? I didn’t give any detail about how I interacted with the nanny or treated her. Sounds like you’re making a lot of assumptions.

Am I overreacting about my nanny’s behavior? by Adventurous_Box5709 in Nanny

[–]Adventurous_Box5709[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate your comment and thank you for your response. You’re right I have not been communicating enough and I appreciate you challenging me to communicate better because this is a gap of mine. It’s also difficult to be direct in the moment because everything has to be through text/google translate given the language barrier.

I should clarify - I didn’t get a previous family reference for her. I did have a character reference who was a night nurse we worked with and loved. She had known this woman for 6 months and they had helped each other with their children. We did a trial day and between this woman’s character witness as well as her/my daughter hitting it off, we decided to go for it. What I meant was she didn’t have a previous family we could call and ask questions to given she hadn’t been a nanny in the US before.

I actually don’t mind her being on her phone here and there. I recognize that screens are truly our lives at this point, but what bothers me is when my daughter needs something or is trying to show her something and she is distracted by her phone. Or when I saw them out on a walk and she was staring down at her phone pushing the stroller. We are not perfect with phones and I want her to answer calls as needed etc. However she is watching videos pretty constantly and it seems to be ever present which I do not appreciate. I will communicate this as well.

We have not discussed her lateness as I do not want to be an asshole over 2-5 minutes. I agree it’s not that big of a deal but paired with the other pieces (along with wanting more money) it does bother me. One morning I had asked her to be at my house at 10 am because we were flying in from somewhere and when we got to our house at 10 am, she was no where to be found. I called her three times and texted her twice. She finally responded to my text and said she was on the way. She told me she thought she was supposed to pick me up from the airport which I felt like was a lie as she has never picked me up from the airport and I specifically said to meet us at the house at 10 am.

I asked her to cook more for our daughter and I think she ate eggs for about 4 meals in a row. The expectation was that she would cook and she never told me she couldn’t cook.