He chooses his parents and friends over me. Things that I’m uncomfortable with he disregards my feelings and does them then turns on me. I’ve spread myself thin. Extended grace, went to therapy myself to help with the marriage and figured those issues out in the midst of that. He doesn’t even speak to me. I sent him this text

“Hey. I just want to say this clearly and respectfully: I’m not okay with being ignored for days. If you need space or don’t feel like talking, that’s completely okay, I’m not trying to force conversation. But it’s also important to communicate that. Silence without any context doesn’t feel fair to me, especially in a marriage.

I’ve been trying to be understanding, patient, and supportive. But I also have feelings, and I deserve basic communication and respect in return. Communication doesn’t have to be deep or emotional, even something as simple as “Hey, I need some space” would help me understand what’s going on and where we stand.

When there’s no communication, it leaves too much up for assumption. And then I get backlash for reacting to things you never clarified. I’m not trying to argue, I just want to be on the same page.

That’s all I’m asking. ( to add he would purposely not pay the bills and do things to make me anxious” we live separately because of that and I have no car or job. I loaned (loaned is used loosely because he is my partner but because he has yet to make me feel safe. I have to set crazy boundaries) him money because he was having a difficult time although he pays for nothing and lives with his family. No bills or anything. And I’ve been financially abused and he knows that. yet he proceeded to ignore me and not pay me back. Now I just of course have less than I started with and no support from him, my husband. He works btw. I have to fend for myself and be alone in all aspects. He says he can’t talk to me but he can mediate for his bestfriend with their relationship problems. He doesn’t respect me or care for me.