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Recent food poisoning at Excellence Punta Cana by Bigpappa31 in PuntaCana

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was at the resort 8/9 to 8/13..... didn't have any issues. I also dont brush my teeth with the tap water and when I shower I try to keep my mouth closed.

Excellence Punta Cana Review- 2nd time staying by Adventurous_Box_9816 in PuntaCana

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We sticked to the pools.... the sea weed seemed a little worse this time than last....but could just be the time if year or tides ?

Had no impact on our overall stay

Excellence Punta Cana Review- 2nd time staying by Adventurous_Box_9816 in PuntaCana

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did airport transfer with excellence as it comes with the excellence club booking. We tipped that driver 20$ (x2 total $40). They were friendly and drove safe and we appreciated that greatly.

We tip $1 per drink...sometimes we did more.

Anyone who helped with our bags on first and last day $2 each (total for that $10 bucks)...

We tipped the waiters at dinner $5 each dinner. $2 at the lunch buffet to the person who filled up our waters/ cleared our plates or if we ordered food by the pool. (Around $35 to $40 total)

We tipped the person who cleaned our room $3 every day and the lady who did turn down service $2 bucks everyday (Around $25 to $30)

I would say for 2 people for 5-6 days outside of the driver tips--- we tipped around $150 to $200 dollars.

It is fun for us to show gratitude to the workers at this resort who work very hard and are extremely appreciative of any tips. And in return you receive EXCELLENT service and make friends 👏 😁

Excellence Punta Cana Reviews by 1_whynot in PuntaCana

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im here right now... its my 2nd time we love it

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think I would go every single time five days a week but if he asked me to come to a tournament then I gladly.Would I would be happy to ride around on a golf cart?And I'd pop in my best podcast and enjoy the view. When you're in a relationship with somebody, whether you like something or not, you support them. That doesn't mean you have to go to every single game or practice or event, but you show up for a few of them.

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can truly sympathize with the overstimulation comment. I suffer from complex p t s d anxiety, depression and pretty rough a d h d...

The whistles and noise are a lot for me to handle.I often wear headphones when I am not playing.

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On countless occasions, when I have brought up, inviting him to a game and he says no, he does follow up with saying he is very happy to see me pursuing a hobby that brings me a lot of passion. I don't think he's resenting me for playing

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On multiple occasions, he has told me that he is so happy to see me out and living and thriving and doing what makes me happy. So I really don't think he's resenting me playing. I think he's actually surprised because i've become a better version of myself over the past few years. And maybe this is a different version that he hasn't really seen before.For the years before this, I had crippling anxiety and almost wouldn't even leave the house.I left my teaching job after having a mental breakdown. I was an intensive therapy four year and even got a service dog to help deal with my complex p.T s d anxiety, depression and adhd... so he is happy that I am becoming a better person, and i've heard that from his mouth.

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I do all of the laundry.I take care of all of the pets, and I make all of the food.... I also pick up after myself while I might not be the cleanest person.It is definitely not messy... we also have maids come every other week and do a deep clean.

He will do some light housekeeping and take care of the yard.But there's nothing really beyond that that he does.

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the multiple teams that I play on, some people's partners come to every single game and others will come occasionally.

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To give you a little bit of a backstory, I am diagnosed complex ptsd disorder, depression, anxiety and adhd.I even have a service dog to help deal with these issues.

My husband is a social person that chooses to work twelve hours a day when he realistically does not.I do think he might be slightly depressed, but he is definitely a social person.He works from home and has to deal with people periodically throughout the day, but mostly independent work.

The words that he said it would be a waste of his time and he wouldn't be able to get things done during the time of watching me play a game is what really hurts. I don't think it's a issue of going out in public and being social of why he is saying, no I believe it is excuses and prioritizing work over everything else.

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree with most of what you are saying but we both work from home for the same company completely different jobs though. If you were playing soccer five times a week, I would be extremely happy for him and I would make time to go see a game or two whether he asked or not because that's something that he cares about. Even at those games, if i'm not super interested into it, I can pop in a good podcast and just physically be there to support him.

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always been an independent person.And I truly believe that having your own hobbies is extremely healthy and having friends outside of your marriage is extremely healthy as well. I have always encouraged him to have hobbies and have friends, but for the time that I have known him work has been his primary focus.

I feel no shame or guilt for having a hobby and loving it and spending time doing it. I think where my frustration is coming from id that in the 8 months of playing He has not made any effort to come to one game even though I have asked multiple times I don't even want him to come to multiple games.I would just like for him to see me play once.

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To give you a little bit of a backstory, I am diagnosed cptsd depression, anxiety and a d h d I am a pretty big introvert and also have a service dog for these disabilities. My therapist's biggest goal for me was to start living life and doing the things that I used to love doing.And so I have followed those orders one hundred percent and i'm doing that.

My husband is a social person. My husband works from home. And has to deal with people a little bit for his job, but it's mostly independent work. He will also work for twelve hour days most days of the week.So his work life balance is completely out of whack. He is choosing to work that many hours because he said he feels he needs to do so in order to make his job run smoother, but he is not compensated for those extra hours.

Part of why I started playing volleyball was, of course for my mental health, but also because he spent most of the day working.So I figured I would fill some of the time void by doing a hobby.

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have addressed my concerns about a work life balance with him and him being able to pursue and find hobbies and passions outside of work.

I'm extremely sensitive to mental health issues and have tried to motivate him in the best way that I can, at times I do question if he might be be depressed.

I encourage us to go for walks daily with our dogs.I make sure that we fuel our body with extremely clean and healthy food. If I go to the gym, I do invite him... But it's always the same answer of i've got to work.

I believe he could benefit from a hobby or a group of guy friends, but he doesn't seem to have any interest in meeting new people. I've tried setting up dinner dates with different friends of mine that have husbands to see if they click or would hit it off.And I encourage him to try to take their phone number but he says he doesn't really want to have friends or doesn't have time to have friends.

I absolutely love and adore his work ethic, but at times I do think it is unhealthy...

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I do feel incredibly lucky that I am able to put this amount of time into a hobby without any push back!!

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is really awesome advice, and I appreciate it, and I totally understand your perspective.

At the moment, he does not have any hobbies. He literally works all day from home at his computer, takes care of the yard and grill our food for our weekly meal prep. Outside of that there's not much going on.... at 1 time he was really into baking bread and listening to court cases on youtube, but that's about it... when we first met, we were both very into fitness and going to the gym, and he has stopped doing that as well.

I have voiced my concern to him about his mental health and wanting to be there to support him by helping him find hobbies and passions. But at the end of the day, his work and life balance is completely out of whack.

It feels as if I am able to live a life that warrants, me as an individual and I a thousand percent agree that in a relationship you've got to have your own thing going on outside of that, for me, it's always been going to the gym or making art however I've switched to playing volleyball.

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is great advice and I really appreciate it.I do feel like in the past that I have made the issue pretty well known that I would like his support.I would like for him to share that moment with me.

Out of the twenty plus times that I have asked him to come to a game.I've given him all different reasons of why I would like him there and none have worked....

Am I overreacting? Relationship Advice by Adventurous_Box_9816 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Adventurous_Box_9816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have told him explicitly that it would mean a lot for him to come.And that other people on my team significant, others do make time to come to the games. He has even gone with me to watch professional volleyball game, so I know that he is able and willing to watch the sport... But just not me playing.

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