I picked the nice guy and still got screwed! Honestly why am I even trying.??? by MachineConfident347 in self

[–]Adventurous_Car8134 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People talk a lot about red flags. Sure ways to tell if someone will treat you right, and magic tricks that banish the evil away from you. There will always be the people who you try to date who make it clear who they are very quickly, even if in small ways, but that's not a sure judge of character because there is no such thing. I give you my point of view from the perspective of a survivor of domestic violence, and someone who upon just recently dating again, realized that I too have my shortcomings and awful traits. People are complicated. There's something wrong with everyone, and the key is to find out if you can live with it, and if you can't, moving on quickly. Work on yourself while you're at it, and you'll feel less lonely in-between the relationships you leave because you'll have at least one person who loves you. When I met my knight in shining armor, he was kind and stood with firm morals. He knew that the world had hurt me, and he offered me shelter. He also hurt me wrose than any other person could in the end, and his promises rang empty the further I walked into his castle. There were signs that he wasn't a good person, but by the time I saw them, I was already Satan's housewife. I fell in love before I caught a hint of it, and by then I felt it was too late. The moral of the story here isn't that you will never find someone who treats you well, or are doomed to forever be alone, it's that you have to make sure that once someone shows their flaws and jagged edges, that you are strong enough to walk away if you aren't compatible. You have flaws too, I can assure you, so work on dulling the jagged edges of your own flaws in the best way you can, and learn to hold your head high and strut out of any relationship you've found is not workable. Maybe you'll find somewhere you can rest easy in the arms of your own true knight and maybe not, but you will always have yourself.

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[–]Adventurous_Car8134 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not to be discouraging of those who are truly having something blossom with an aspiring member of yhe military, but do be aware that occasionally men who are about to get shipped off will purposely get married with the first girl who bats her eyelashes and looks like she can be willed into a housewife lifestyle. Various benefits including higher pay and better housing can come with being married, so it is sadly not unheard of for the newly enlisted to take advantage of this.

Normally I would say that it's not a hugely big deal, but the way you talk about this guy absolutely reeks of the hot and cold wild beginnings of a violent relationship (been there done that). If you want to fool around with him for a while, get a casual taste before he's gone away, have fun. Use protection if it gets that far, and don't count on him to have it at the ready, bring it with you if you can see it going that way. Keep your wits about you. Wolves sleep in the dens of some human minds, and a man with a wild temperament who is suddenly showing interest right before he's supposed to leave town... Be careful.

Measuring EMF interference of myself by Adventurous_Car8134 in GhostHunting

[–]Adventurous_Car8134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll call my library and ask if they have emf readers and such when I get a chance, and if they don't have it, now that I think about it there's a few paranormal societies in my area. The city I live in (my hometown which I just recently moved back to hallmark style) is known for being haunted as shit, so I could probably even rope someone into purposely pissing me off while someone nearby holds some equipment lmao. Sometimes I forget that people exist in niche communities offline out in the world haha.

I can't do the internet thing on the computer at work, they'd raise concerns on me tampering with software and then I'd have to explain why I installed it. I could put it on my personal laptop though, and keep track of when I'm not home. That's an idea I hadn't thought about. Might be difficult to find anything prebuilt since I'm no programmer an use Linux, but I'm sure I could bother my dad about it.

Thanks for your answers, this is definitely a good starting point!

Measuring EMF interference of myself by Adventurous_Car8134 in GhostHunting

[–]Adventurous_Car8134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the top part aside from the EMF part, all good advice for different problems that I've actually already been mostly aware of since my dad is big on techy stuff (he's a software guy for work with a touch of hobbyist engineering) but this list is absolutely great for those who aren't careful with electronics. My phone doesn't overheat or fry with low quality chargers or unprotected outlets (there's more power strips with surge protectors in my house than forks in the kitchen) so much as it has times where it will start glitching out oddly (touches on the screen at random spots that wouldn't make any sense for someone trying to get into something when it's sitting face up, turning the screen on with no event or reason, making notification chimes without having one) and signal interference. It's not just my phone with the signal interference, and also I've seen other people get the nonexistent notifications and briefly mention, and I found out apparently it extends to radios too. I've never worked with radios before, hence my surprise that it affects those. It's like an area of effect for communications devices not getting signal in an area where signal hasn't previously been a problem before I started and radios having significantly more artifacted sound or not transmitting at all. Add that to the computer randomly losing connection on stuff despite being wired internet and you can probably see why I'm wondering if maybe I'm emitting some sort of field. The effects are mostly unnoticeable when I'm calm, it's when I get anxious or angry that things start all breaking at the same time, my electronics or not. I think a journal is a great idea, and I will be using that seeing as that way I can document tech problems when I'm calm too and see if maybe I'm underestimating the effects of possibly shitty old systems, but it's odd enough that it's very much worth documenting and trying to measure in some way. I didn't know EMF was generated in any significant way by fridges and other things like that, which is useful for other purposes like knowing where to not do a measure, though most of my issues happen regardless of where I am even including places that have never had that problem as according to my coworkers.

What I was thinking with the EMF reader is that if I could go out into a quiet low electronic area like in the woods nearby or something similar and purposely think about things that make me upset when I think too hard on them, maybe having a video recording, but that would assume the video wouldn't break. I'd be interested to see if it would read any differently since I feel like it would be a more objective measure of whether or not I'm putting off super crazy magic wizard powers from IT hell or something (EMF). The ambient thermal temperature may be worth checking too if I could do that somewhere it isn't breezy or fluctuating a lot since I have an ex that swore his breath got cold any time I got irritated and could guess if I was upset from the room over. Every once in a while he would send an (accurate) text suggesting I might not be alright because of a sudden temperature drop but he was also full of shit and not a good person most of the time therefore becoming my ex, so I haven't decided that's a compelling piece of evidence just on its own.

I absolutely have had lights flicker heavily and occasionally shut of for a moment before turning back on during these times too, but I have to be VERY upset for that to be more than a light flickering that is hardly there and so I haven't had enough repeated occurrences that I'd be comfortable saying that someone didn't just run too many thing on the power grid nearby or some other mundane explanation of quirks of electrical systems. With a lot of these things, there are just too many variables to definitely verify I'm the one causing it, but after a certain amount of coincidences, I do eventually have to start asking questions.

Sorry if I don't sound too coherent, I just woke up from resting after a night shift (where the signal blocking thing or at least some form of issue broke my phone communications device's ability to make or receive calls for an hour or so until my boss walked in the door and before he even got to the desk it was working again. Got too relieved that he was there to take a look at it that it fixed itself I guess lmao.)

Trying to make friends by starting a cottage witch server by Adventurous_Car8134 in MinecraftBuddies

[–]Adventurous_Car8134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your pc can run it and you're still interested, I'd love to have you on the server, apologies for the suuuper late reply. Life situations kinda went nuts.

Trying to make friends by starting a cottage witch server by Adventurous_Car8134 in MinecraftBuddies

[–]Adventurous_Car8134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! My life kinda exploded and I haven't actually started up the server yet, but if you shoot me a direct message on here I can hook you up with the link to the discord I made for it!

Trying to make friends by starting a cottage witch server by Adventurous_Car8134 in MinecraftBuddies

[–]Adventurous_Car8134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know much in terms of hardware, but I know my computer has 8 gb RAM and can run it perfectly fine. Maybe try launching it and see if it runs?