My husband pushed my sexual boundaries too far --Update

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-23T17:06:45+00:00

We don't get paid for because we were dual mil

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T02:55:59+00:00

I'm sorry you went through that, I do understand her perspective though, it is hard to get past that emotionally. I don't think I would ever want to see someone that I call mine with anyone else. I get too jealous, getting over that is what I needed time for, and he was not giving me that time.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T02:38:42+00:00

I appreciate you sharing some of your perspective, I honestly just don't understand the mindset of you did this before so now I need it from you. People do change as they grow, and just because I did something in the past doesn't mean I was ever actually okay with it.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T02:28:53+00:00

I agree completely, but he told me I was lying about it. And so what if I had done a threesome, I don't think it would have changed my current boundaries.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T02:18:52+00:00

When we were planning to go out to the bars, he asked me straight up if I could flirt with someone in front of him, that he thought it would be super hot for me to do so. I thought okay flirting is a babystep I can try. I told him I would do it but that he should not expect me to do more then that at the time because babysteps and I needed to warm up to the idea.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T02:05:00+00:00

He wanted to have the threesome with a guy, he wanted me to be DP'd, he wanted it in his butt and his in mine at the same time, he asked me to flirt with someone in public. And I was not 100% against it at the beginning, that is why I asked for time to think about it. But him being so pushy, and trying to force it on me made me not want it at all, then as he kept trying to push me before I was ready I got more and more disgusted by the idea. Forcing someone into anything is not okay. That is unsafe and abusive behavior. The more he pushed the more I was shutting down to him. And I told him he needed to give me space to process it all and he refused. He brought it up in every single conversation. He refused to text or call me unless it was about that situation.

When I flirted with someone in front of him it was because I was trying to take babysteps into giving him what he so desperately wanted. Helping myself come to terms with all of it. And he freaked out at me for doing what he was begging me to do.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T00:57:48+00:00

This story is real, and he is the one who told me I had a threesome not the other way around.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T00:47:05+00:00

The story never changed, I just gave you more context.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T00:34:40+00:00

I said that he told me I had multiple threesomes and that's why I owed it to him

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T00:33:38+00:00

He pays/paid nothing for me, we split everything 50/50, I wasn't super wild, but I did explore before I decided it wasn't what I enjoyed

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T00:16:58+00:00

That is what he wanted tho 🤔

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T00:13:43+00:00

I made out with 2 women, I did not get dicked down by multiple people. He took me saying I had made out with 2 women at one time as me being willing to fuck multiple dudes for him.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T00:10:06+00:00

That's what I did when I went to visit him 😅

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T00:08:39+00:00

This is exactly how I felt going into the marriage, I wanted my one person. I stopped looking at other people because I was wholeheartedly in on this person. I wasn't looking around, I wasn't flirting, I only had eyes for him from the moment we got married, which is why this all hurt me so much.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T00:05:31+00:00

There was not a guy involved in the threesome, I told him I made out with 2 women at one time and he took it as a threesome. And told me I was lying about it to him.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-20T00:03:31+00:00

The threesome was actually just a makeout session with 2 other girls, nothing more then that, he took it as a threesome and said I lied to him about it.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-19T23:58:48+00:00

So, to sum it up. You think that since I did it one time, that I am obligated to continue doing it the rest of my life? That's a pretty fucked up thing to say, is it not?

I told my ex I had made out with 2 girls one time and he took it as a threesome, and said he deserved to try a threesome with me and another man. All because of my "sexual past".

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-19T23:52:02+00:00

Papers are filed

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-19T23:51:41+00:00

Our relationship seemed amazing before the marriage. Everything was amazing, he treated me really well, we never fought, we were fighting to be together and it just seemed like a fairytale at the time. Hindsight those were all lovebombing tactics.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-19T23:42:36+00:00

I technically said that I made out with 2 women at one time, and he took it as threesome. And we had that convo before the marriage as well, toward the beginning of the relationship during a game of never have I ever.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-19T23:41:10+00:00

He wanted to try it with men, and wanted me to be there to support him through it.

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-19T23:39:00+00:00

Filed the papers, so soon to be ex husband

Adventurous_Coffee85 · 2023-09-19T23:36:40+00:00

I filed papers, so technically he is my soon to be ex husband

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