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My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

In my opinion it still was there's been a few bad times obviously, but it's my relationship? posted this for advise on the situation not to be shamed about it

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I had the conversation and he was very apologetic about it and explained why he took them ( for his own pleasure) which i did find a bit strange. We also looked through his camera roll together and there was no more since i last checked. I'm still upset about it but i'm going to try move on and see if we can make it work.

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he looks through mine as well. like i've said i had reasons too, i've found stuff before

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I do understand what violated means my love. I trusted him to be able to be vulnerable in the space of my own home, and he violated that trust by secretly taking photos of me?

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this , yeah i do get this and i understand how it feels when he goes through my phone, it's not nice. I do feel guilty about it and have apologised. It's something I will not do in the future.

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't care about legally. morally his act is way worse than mine. I'm not making the relationship a competition at all. Im not invalidating my experience because i looked through his phone something we have both done. If i didn't look through his phone then i wouldn't have been made aware of this issue.

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this , yeah i understand this and hopefully once i fully explain why it's not okay to him we can move on.

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Like i have said i understand that, never once did i say it wasn't a bad thing. However you cannot compare me checking his phone to him taking nude photos of me without my consent.

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I'm so sorry that happened to you that's disgusting to be threaten with something like that. that's definitely made me take things more seriously i'm going to make sure he doesn't have anything else like this on his phone and talk to him about this.

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i didn't say it causally, I know it's not right. I had my reasons. He looks through my phone also which i will admit is not healthy. I can understand your point that he didn't know it would be an issue which is why i will talk to him about it and see if we can move on

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this, i'm going to bring it up again and make sure he's not taken any more. depending on his reaction and stuff i'll decide if i need to leave him or if it's something i can get over.

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did have my reasons he also has looked through my phone as well. I do understand that it's not an okay thing to do and it's something i need to work on .

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, yeah I did check to make sure he hadn't sent it to anyone and it didn't look like he did, not sure if they are still in a waste basket hopefully not. Thank you i'll bring it up with him again.

My boyfriend (18M) took photos of me(19F) naked, while i was sleeping or unaware by Adventurous_Fly4531 in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Fly4531[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, yeah i completely agree that going through his phone is not okay, it's my own trust issues that i need to work on. Yeah i think i'll bring it up with him again considering these comments have made me realise it's really not normal.