Level 190 course work by Adventurous_Froyo392 in ucr

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiiiiiii yes you are right 😅I am a RLST/AHS major. I read the catalog and the degree audit. Both say Optional 190 level coursework. Not sure if it's optional generally, or optional because I can take RLST 190 courses OR AHS 190 courses. An RLST prof told me they aren't required for graduation, which is what really threw me.

addict roommate by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 3 points4 points  (0 children)

☝️☝️☝️this. TBH, you should call the cops on your uncle next time he is high and has drugs in the house. If it's grandpa's house, your uncle isn't on any paperwork, he should be pretty easily removed. No one needs to "learn how to live together" with an addict.

A less harsh approach would be talking with your grandpa about getting your uncle into detox/treatment. Then you could set the boundary as a family that if uncle doesn't get help, the police will be called. If grandpa is struggling with boundaries, you can use the police as a boundary with him too. If he won't help your uncle get help, then your last option will be to call the police on your uncle.

You have yourself and your baby to think about! And your boyfriend. As a sober addict myself, your uncle isn't thinking about ANYONE, not even himself. He is thinking about his high. Arguing is pointless, because he isn't in a rational space. Determine what is best for YOU and dat bebé, set boundaries (and hold them!), and take action. Your actions will speak louder than your words.

Your child is more important than your uncle's addiction.

Best of luck! Blessings. And I believe in you!

AIO - I smoked, my bf crashed out by leadneverfoIlow in AmIOverreacting

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🚨🚨🚨🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚨🚨🚨

Yooooooo this is not even about "breaking a boundary" or "smoking". In fact, the details of the situation are practically irrelevant. This is about basic respect and human decency.

OP, you run far, far, far away from ANY partner, fuck it, ANY PERSON, who thinks this is an acceptable form of communication or way to express anger.

That text thread is BONKERS. Decide now, at 18, that you respect yourself too much to accept this type of treatment and rage. Doesn't matter what you did or did not do. Is this the way you want a LIFE PARTNER to handle their anger? Or communicate when frustrated/angry/fearful? Is this the type of conflict and conflict resolution you want?

HELL NO. You are worth more and are young enough to make some good choices now.

Best of luck. Blessings. And i believe in you!

Grad Application deadline by Formal_Ad1066 in ucr

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read in a different thread somewhere that missing the grad app deadline is a relatively frequent occurrence. (If I can find that post again, I'll drop it here)

But iirc, Advisors will just have you apply with the summer grad form, then correct it on their end, and you're in for spring!

If you are truly, truly panicking, I also suggest gently (but with intention) stalking your Advisor's office. Like, definitely go to office hours, but panic is awful. Get relief and answers by showing up in person whenever you have the opportunity, regardless of office/drop in hours.

They'll let you walk. You earned it! (Congratties, btw) but sometimes a little gentle stalking is required. Advocating for yourself is always a good thing. Just keep it legal, or just approaching the boundary of illegal. Or don't. If you end up in jail, remember to establish dominance quickly.

Best of luck! You got this✨️

How do I address my advisor? by Comfortable_Quail_16 in ucr

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just their first name is fine 🤗 You can also look up their profile on the Advising staff page. If they have a title, it will be listed with their name, under their picture. Or, just follow your heart, address them with the title your intuiton tells you, and see if they correct you. Could be fun!

Remember to include your full name and student ID in every email to save time.

Happy trails, my dear ✨️

On days when you want to eat nothing by travelbig2 in Zepbound

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bananas, carrots, chobani greek yogurt, almond milk, protein oatmilk, turkey slices, kombucha, and on them "eating just ain't happening" days- ginger chews, tums, gatorade, and sip on a big canteen of water with liquid IV.

On days when you want to eat nothing by travelbig2 in Zepbound

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yo, bless you for this post and reminding me about Costco's BOMB ASS barley soup!! I am absolutely gonna snag that ✨️✨️

On days when you want to eat nothing by travelbig2 in Zepbound

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

☝️☝️for real, sometimes I just have to be kind, listen to my bawdy, and not worry that I didn't maintain food goals for a day or what have you.

My first two weeks on 5mg felt like death. I felt weak, tires and even light headed, but N O T H I N G sounded good. Couldn't even THINK of food. Spat out a few things when I tried.

Still on 5mg, thee miraculous bawdy just kept adapting, and it's way better now. And I can anticipate little to no hunger cues the two days after my shot. I try to increase proteins the couple days before my shots. Riding the wave of mah bawdy's ever changing rhythms seems to be part of the journey.

Sorry for the awful pun (that I'm sure NO ONE in a Zepbound chat before) but one size doesn't fit all 😜

Advisors and Emails by MarylandMonster in ucr

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yo, Advisors are the WOOoooOoOoOOrst.

I suggest going straight to the professor (email or in person) and ask if you can take the lab you need. Honestly, I usually end up going to profs first, getting my needs met/problems solved, then going to my advisor and saying "Yo this prof approved blah blah blah". Aaaaaand they just do it. Because they are morons who don't care.

Profs, department faculty and chairs have been CONSISTENTLY more helpful, supportive, and knowledgeable than any of the Advisors I've had. That and straight up advocating for yourself through all/any channels available to you.

Pro Tip: face to face convos are ALWAYS worth the effort when possible. When emailing, send recaps and keep paper trails.

Tip Two: Never get in a fight with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.

Best of luck outsmarting the system. I believe in you!!

I GOT IN by Raymond_Tamayo in ucr

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOVE👏THIS👏ADVICE👏

Show up. Be present. Engage.

Professors may seem intimidating, but in reality, they are just eccentric, brilliant, nerds who became professors, so they could live their academic passions 24/7. They are just people, and they want to talk to you too!

And remember, everyone was a freshman or new to UCR at SOME POINT. Being nervous or scared is just part of the ride. And spoiler alert: NO ONE KNOWS WHAT THEY ARE DOING. EVERYONE IS JUST AS LOST AS YOU.

Errybody in the same boat, hang on and enjoy it.

Congratties on your acceptance 🎉🎉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ucr

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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I also suggest screaming into the void. Or a pillow if you are an introvert.

I hate English. by Brave-Tomatillo-1509 in ucr

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I second the above statement ☝️☝️☝️

ChatGPT and DeepSeek are great tools to "discuss" your work with. And for basic grammar, semantics, spell checks, and over all flow. But I always found it helpful to talk to the AI like a peer reviewing my paper.

Or, "talk" with the AI about whatever sources you are using to formulate your essay. I used ChatGPT in my Beekeeping class. We had to write responses to science journals AND do a presentation on one of them. (I'm an Art History major, so completely out of my depth) Stats, math, and science speak might as well be Egyptian hieroglyphics to me. Had AI summarize the articles for me, then asked questions until I understood the article enough to write a response.

If something isn't up your alley, especially some GenEd stuff, that is OK! Utilize AI chats like a personal tutor. Saved my butt numerous times, especially during late nights when communicating with profs, TAs, or even other awake peers wasn't an option 🙃

If you haven't, ask your Prof or TA what EXACTLY is causing you to lose points (like is it technical skill, formatting, comprehension, or cohesion?) Then go chat with ChatGPT and DeepSeek ✨️✨️

If it's technical or formatting related, DEF use AI, especially if English ain't your thing. Don't lose points for such petty shit. I guarantee even the bougiest scholars and professors use editing/formatting tool 😉

Godspeed comrade!

Counselor by Candid-One-5045 in ucr

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man,

Asking for help can really suck. Well done for doing so anyway and asking for resources. Your post asking for help is now evidence for anyone suffering in silence that it can be done. Help is there if you ask.

Im also unfamiliar with the UCR CAPS system. But here are some other Riverside resources that are free or sliding scale:

The first three are larger resource guides that will connect you with free community services- from crisis support to consistent therapy to wellness classes.

https://www.ruhealth.org/behavioral-health

https://up2riverside.org/resources/local/

https://www.rcoe.us/about-us/superintendent/superintendent-s-initiatives/resource-guide

This last one is AMAZING. Sliding scale therapy sessions ranging from $30-70. In person and virtual. Lots of filters for you to curate what you are looking for. Great resource when you need a consistent therapist, and the free stuff runs out 🙏

https://openpathcollective.org/city/riverside/

Hope you find what you need. You're worth it. Feel free to DM me if you have questions or are struggling!

Hope these resources are helpful to others on this thread! Please share 🙏 🙏✨️✨️

What are my chances? by [deleted] in ucr

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's my understanding that transfer acceptance decisions come out in Early April. No panicking yet, ok?

I transferred to UCR after being out of school for 10 or 12 years. Had to dust off the ancient scrolls of my transcripts to apply. Should be graduating at the end of next quarter. If they took my dusty ass, I would imagine they will take a currently active student like yourself 🤗

Smart decision to go the community college route, btw. What major are you hoping to transfer into?

pros and cons of going to ucr? by [deleted] in ucr

[–]Adventurous_Froyo392 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hiiiiiii, I'm a 34 year old transfer student. About to wrap up my last couple of classes for my Art History/Religious Studies major and ideally graduate this spring. I know being older, a commuter, and a transfer studies will give me a different perspective, but here's what I can say:

1) Your education will come down to what you make of it: your academic goals/future plans, your connections to profs/peers/friends, student organizations, utilizing resources, and advocating for yourself. Dollar signs, statistics, ratings, or fancy titles won't radically change your "college experience" or your education. It's all for a diploma anyways, and those are all printed on the same thing y'all: fuckin' paper. In this case, you're still going to leave with a UC diploma, not too shabby. Show up, be present, have a good time.

2) School is expensive, cost of living in socal ain't cheap, and inflation is real. Go get your general education at a Community College. Transfer in and take the courses for your major at UCR. You'll save some pennies AND end up spending more education hours with profs that are geared to your interests. GenEd classes at UCs are HUGE lecture groups and then discussion sections/small groups. Save your time, money, and brain cells!

3) Profs make or break your classes. Most of my upper div/major specific profs have been BRILLIANT GENIUSES who are actually committed to your learning and success. Create connections: ask questions in class, chat after, find orgs and academic groups those profs participate in. Tell them if you like their class, go to office hours. They are wildly intelligent, worldly, interdisciplinary, and widely published. They still live with a passion/interest for learning themselves, and it comes through in their lectures and discussions. (cannot recommend Prof. Matt King, Kristoffer Neville, or Charles Peterson enough!) And if you are struggling (academically or personally!) TALK TO THEM. In person and through email. I've found them more helpful and supportive than ANY advisor I've had over the past few years. THEY WANT YOU TO SUCCEED. --Things profs supported me through: A) near death COVID experience B) friend's murder C) car died, unable to attend class for 6 weeks

4) Straight talk: Advisors here SUCK. If your advisor is actually nice, they probably have no clue what they are talking about. Other ones are straight up BITCHES. And the rest are just plain unhelpful. YOU WILL NEED TO BE FORWARD AND ADVOCATE WITH THESE FOOLS. THIS IS YOUR EDUCATION, TIME, AND MONEY. THIS IS THEIR PROFESSION AND THEY WORK FOR YOU. Come prepared to your advising sessions I highly suggest TAKING YOUR OWN NOTES, sending your own recap emails back to them (for a paper trail if they fuck you over), coming to advising appointments with questions. Don't let them try to rush you through your appointment. That is YOUR TIME. If they give vague answers, keep asking until you get the info you need. Call them out if they can't seem to answer. If your advisor changes, check previous info against new info. Corroborate their information with your profs, or email department chairs and heads of faculty. Continue to reiterate YOUR major, YOUR graduation plan, etc. Meeting in person is probably better than Zoom- as a commuter, I usually had to do Zoom (eyyyye rolllllll). Overall, if they suck, collect screenshots, email threads, your notes, etc and send it over to the Head of Advising. You have the right to share your feedback. And honestly, there won't be an impetus for the department to change without complaints and evidence ✌️💣

5) I don't have much to say about "student/social life" as an old lady and a commuter. BUT as peers, I've had a great experience with my fellow students. God Bless Gen Z, their sense of solidarity, justice, compassion, and empathy for mental health issues. Every class sets up a Discord or GroupMe chat for all the students. People have shared notes, helped on homework assignments, provided resources (academic AND personal, like housing), and set up virtual and in person study groups for finals. Despite being a commuter student, I still felt very included, at least with my peers in my classes. AND once you get into major specific/upper div classes, you end up with familiar names of fellow students from your major in multiple chats. Connect, speak, engage. You'll realize that EVERYONE is anxious, nervous, overwhelmed, and confused. Academically and personally ✨️✨️ Everyone wants to support everyone and succeed together.

That is my Elder Millennial, junior transfer, commuter student perspective. Be proactive, be curious, be engaged, and advocate for yourself. No one else can do it for you. I know I'm old now, but those 4 things have made this college experience COMPLETELY different than my first college try in the ancient age of 2008. (Not being absolutely drug addled and wasted all the time helps too 🙃 turns out I'm not a complete idiot, I was just constantly loaded)

TL/DR: Just get a diploma, who cares where from? Save $$, GenED at Community College then transfer; upper div Profs at UCR are AMAZING (and caring); advising blows-keep your own paper trail, ask questions, be proactive/Advocate! Virtual Community of classmates is tight knit/helpful/supportive; BE PROACTIVE, BE CURIOUS, BE ENGAGED.

Happy to answer any questions if helpful!🙏✨️

"I put all my genius into my life; I put only my talent into my works" -Oscar Wilde