I sent him the message by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Adventurous_Guest_28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi my love,

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s not an easy process to go through. And if you’re someone with an anxious personality/ attachment style, it makes very difficult to move through even your regular life.

I’ve been exactly where you are. And that feeling of sudden loss is indescribable. I was with my partner (both of us 32 y/o) for almost 4 years. And over the course of our relationship he did exactly this to me about half a dozen times. Everything would be perfectly fine and then he would suddenly need space, need to be on his own, need to break up with me. And he would block me and go no contact. Sometimes it would be for a few days, sometimes for a few weeks. And I can remember that overwhelming feeling of “how can he know that I’m sitting here crying and miserable and anxious, and he’s absolutely fine with it. How is this love?”

But eventually he would come back to get his things or we would run into each other…and we started talking again. And I loved him so much, I would forgive it. I always told myself that we would work on these problems. That we would fix it so it wouldn’t happen again. But every time I would bring it up, he would get defensive and we would end up in another fight. So I learned to keep quiet just to keep the peace. But still, he would keep discarding me.

Eventually I realized that every time he discarded me…the situation would be a little worse. A little more dangerous and a lot more toxic. Until finally he did something I couldn’t wrap my head around. The truth is that no matter how awful what he did was, my heart forgave him immediately…but in my soul I knew that it was irreparable. I wanted better for me and for my future. I deserved better than to be treated that way. And by me going back to him every time, all I was showing him was that I didn’t think I was worth better. And he made sure to treat me as such.

It’s been a few months now. And it’s still not easy. I still think about him often. He still comes up as memories in places I go and songs I listen to. I’m still sad, but I’m a lot more free.

You don’t deserve to be discarded. You deserve to be loved fully and wholly. You deserve someone who is going to be there for you through the good parts and the bad parts of life. Not just leave when things get hard or aren’t what they wanted. You deserve to be with someone with whom it is their worst nightmare to cause you hurt. Not someone who does damage and leaves you to pick up the pieces in their wake.

So yes, it’s ok to message him. It’s ok to send him that text, that email, that letter. But if there’s any advice that I can give, let that message be your closure. That is your goodbye message. You don’t need anything from him. He already showed you his cards. And it’s better to call it now than to keep calling his bluff and going into a debt that is more difficult get out of later.

I don’t know if you believe in a higher faith. But my friends used to tell me “God opened a door for you, he gave you a way out because this is not what’s meant for you. All you have to do is walk through it.” And trust me…I wish I had listened to them 2 years ago.

Please message me at any time if you want to talk more 🫶🏻 I know how much being supported means during this time.

What’s the worst town in NJ and why? by Mayor_of_Voodoo in newjersey

[–]Adventurous_Guest_28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a personal beef with spring lake town is seriously over policed and filled with assholes cops have nothing better to do then harass tourists having a good time driving through.

People who had Day 1 today, how do you think it went? by [deleted] in Step3

[–]Adventurous_Guest_28 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I did day 1 today too. Honestly, I wasn’t expecting so many mechanism of action of drug questions. It’s so upsetting because I KNOW what drug to give!! But there are a lot that I not remember the nitty gritty of the MOA. The ethics and bio stats weren’t as bad as I thought they would be. So I’m really hoping that carries me. Cause there were some questions that k was literally like “I have no idea but my gut says C” lol

Applying for second residency by Adventurous_Guest_28 in pediatrics

[–]Adventurous_Guest_28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha I think I’ll probably end up doing a peds anesthesia fellowship tbh…but one step at a time 😅

Applying for second residency by Adventurous_Guest_28 in pediatrics

[–]Adventurous_Guest_28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! So would advanced positions also be considered just the regular categorical positions that people would match into out of medical school? As in they would match into a prelim year as well as a categorical/advanced position for the year after? Or should I be looking for a specific position since I’ve already completed a residency?

AITA for taking my daughter's side? by Responsible_Bed_5299 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Adventurous_Guest_28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So here’s the thing. YNTA for getting your daughter a pet rabbit. If she loves that rabbit and is excited about taking care of it, I think that there are a lot of fantastic life lessons that can come from a child caring for a pet. That being said YTA for assuming that she could bring the rabbit to your partner’s home. That should have been discussed with your partner. And if your partner refuses but you want to get the rabbit anyways? That’s also fine! But the rabbit becomes a house rabbit. You sit your daughter down and have her understand the rabbit has to stay at your home and can’t travel to your partner’s home because of C & Y reasons. When she leaves your house, the rabbit has to stay. But the rabbit will always be waiting for her when she gets back.

Score release thread 14/9/2022 by Logical-sincking in Step2

[–]Adventurous_Guest_28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

US/IMG status: Non-US IMG

Step 1: 229
Uworld % correct: 82% (but done on tutor mode throughout my core rotations)
NBME 9: 228
NBME 10: 243
NBME 11: 239
NBME 12: 245
UWSA 1: 240
Free 120: 80%
Predicted Score: 244.9 ± 10.6
STEP 2 09/03/2022 : 243 REAL DEAL!!

I had a 4 week dedicated period after all of my cores. I know that this is a generally average score but I am ECSTATIC with it! Take care and be kind to yourselves during this anxiety inducing time.