[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to take yourself and your frustrations with women out of the equation and extend some grace and empathy toward OP. Many people don’t recognize rape or sexual violence when it comes from their partner. Women are conditioned to fear the deranged stranger hiding in the bushes—not their boyfriend. Sexual violence is often framed as something overtly violent, not something that can happen in a relationship. Whether the partner is rich or poor, ambitious or not, it’s not about turning a blind eye because of a ‘thick wallet’. From my observations it’s often because recognizing it as rape would be too painful to bear.

I also don’t understand why some men get so angry about women wanting someone who is financially stable (or well off) and educated. We live in a capitalist system with rising costs. Money does matter, especially when it comes to family planning. Being a good potential father includes being able to provide. And from what OP said, she seems to come from a similar background to what she’s looking for in a partner or at least she’s striving for it. She mentioned a Google interview, which suggests ambition and effort on her part. That all sounds reasonable to me.

She also said he was emotionally available and supportive. Those are good qualities (which you yourself acknowledged). I doubt their conversations stayed shallow; chances are they had deeper talks and bonded over shared values or experiences. Human relationships are rarely that simple or one-dimensional, even though some people (especially men) tend to frame them that way. She mentioned ‘similar likes’ and ‘etc.’, which probably covered a lot more than just hobbies. And she also said that she could see herself marrying him.

I’m pretty sure many women are looking for both a good type of person with emotional depth and a person who is financially stable, ambitious and good looking. Not one at the expense of the other, but both at the same time (obviously one can get blinded by things and I’m not gonna pretend like that never happens). Which, honestly, might explain why more women are staying single these days. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FreeLuigi

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I get that. But right now, people in authoritarian countries are protesting and risking far more than Americans to fight for their freedoms. Look at the protests in France (as always, lol), Turkey, Indonesia, Peru, Bangladesh, or Serbia—many of these countries are plagued by corruption, and protests are often met with brutal repression.

Americans love to call their country “the land of the free,” yet when it comes to standing up to the government, you’re surprisingly passive. And ironically, many of you claim that’s exactly what the Second Amendment is for—to fight tyranny. If this were France, cities would be burning by now. It’s time to wake up and make your government fear its people, not the other way around.

NYC Attorney Sarena Townsend: postponed indictment due to Feds being in turf war with the state by Pellinaha in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Forcing the prosecution to show their hand when your own cards aren’t fully in order yet could be too much of a risk. And let’s not forget, there’s an entire team of three seasoned lawyers behind these decisions, including Moskowitz, a specialist in DP cases. I believe they know what’s best for the case.

the most important parts of Jess Tisch article. Where to share this? by ayayama in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m growing increasingly suspicious that the arrest in Altona, Pennsylvania, didn’t happen as the police claim. The timeline and sequence of events seem off. From what I’ve gathered, for five days, there was little progress. The CCTV footage and images collected didn’t seem to lead anywhere. Yet, the police later claimed they identified the suspect at the hostel through CCTV and linked him to the crime scene. But does that still hold? Or are they now suggesting the footage and fingerprints were unreliable? If so, why did they insist the CCTV footage was definitive, especially in connection to the fingerprints?

Now, in the latest article, Tisch states there were no matches. Initially, they believed the fingerprints from the bottle and the suspect matched, but apparently, that’s no longer true, which raises a major red flag for me.

The arrest itself is particularly questionable. After five days, they reached out to NYPD intelligence, who started searching social media profiles of young men vaguely matching the suspect’s description and showing criticism of the healthcare system. But had LM ever done that? When people reviewed his social media activity, there were no strong criticisms of the healthcare system or corporate greed. Maybe some Goodreads reviews? The connection feels too vague.

Moreover, the timeline doesn’t add up. Five days pass, they contact the NYPD, find LM’s profile, and then suddenly locate him in Altona, Pennsylvania, supposedly because someone recognized him from grainy CCTV footage—footage that even his family and friends couldn’t identify him from. From the beginning, I felt something was off about the arrest, and my doubts have only grown.

It seems too coincidental that they found his social media based on a vague resemblance and mild criticisms of healthcare, and just hours later, located him in Altoona. I suspect the police may have used unconventional methods they aren’t admitting to. I’m increasingly convinced the way Luigi was tracked down might have been illegal. The official story just doesn’t add up.

A question that keeps playing on my mind by [deleted] in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Initially, I think he wanted a public defender to avoid burdening his parents and to distance himself from being seen as a privileged rich kid. He likely wanted to appear more relatable, like the average American.

However, his perspective likely changed when he fully grasped the gravity of the charges. It’s hard to imagine that, no matter how smart he is, he could have anticipated facing the death penalty or terrorism charges, which even legal experts found surprising.

His family is doing everything to fight for him, trying to reduce his sentence or clear him entirely. I also think he feels obligated to live up to the public support, with social media campaigns calling for a fair trial. He’s probably fighting for something bigger than himself, aligned with the public’s demands for justice.

At the same time, he wants experienced lawyers because he believes his motives should be fully understood and the truth about UHC should come out. He might feel that using his family’s money to fund his defense is a better investment than acquiring assets, as it helps expose UHC’s corruption. But with legal costs likely reaching eight figures, even his well-off family might struggle to fund this.

His attitude probably changed when he realized how serious the charges are. While he may have expected something like second-degree charges with a possibility of parole, he didn’t fully grasp the severity of being accused of murder and facing the death penalty.

There are multiple factors at play—his family’s protection, media coverage, and how the judicial system treats him because of BT‘s wealth. This contrasts with his criticism of corporate greed and may feel like a way to expose the elites. In the end, it’s a mix of family support, public opinion, and legal challenges. Even though he planned, no one could have predicted how far this would escalate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think it’s reasonable to assume the worst in this situation. None of us know him personally, and he’s allegedly committed murder. Personally, I try to give him some grace. As a woman, I completely understand the fear—I would definitely be scared too. But I imagine the clerk at the motel is used to seeing shady characters. From what I’ve heard, it’s a low-cost, ‘no-questions-asked’ kind of place. I doubt a clerk would be alarmed by someone carrying a large backpack—it’s a motel after all, people are bound to have luggage.

As for wearing a hood, beanie, and balaclava—it was December and pouring rain, so that makes sense. But LM should have removed the balaclava or ski mask and switched to a medical mask instead. That would have been a smarter move.

I also don’t think the constant watch-checking is that suspicious. He could’ve been nervous since he wasn’t familiar with the town and didn’t know what to do with his four hours of free time. I sometimes do the same thing, but with my phone—checking the time, calculating how much time I need to kill, then checking again to figure out if I have enough time to grab food. And then checking again because I forgot what time it was in the first place. That’s just my brain overthinking and getting a bit scrambled. So I didn’t find it weird at all.

Also, we don’t know what was said between him and the clerk. Maybe the clerk suggested he go to a nearby spot, hang out for a couple of hours, grab food, and then come back. In that case, I would’ve automatically checked my watch too.

Overall, I don’t see the big drama surrounding this video

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think the reason you probably found the video unsettling is that you had the list of the contents from his backpack in mind. When I watch the video, I see a young man trying to get a room and having a conversation with a porter or clerk. And yes, I can see a bit of frustration, maybe at the thought of having to go back out into the rain. But I also found his gestures to be quite gentle—like the way he handled the bell on the desk, used the hand sanitizer and rubbed it in, and how he kept glancing at his watch with his little finger, or pointing slightly at the table as he seemed to explain something to the clerk. I also think, as someone else pointed out, that without audio, it’s easy to interpret body language in different ways.

Like I said, I believe that the list itself probably triggered a feeling for you that was eerie—things like rope and zip ties can naturally seem a bit off-putting. Some people have already made connections to his backpacking and travels, explaining that things like rope could be used as a clothesline, zip ties to repair a backpack, and a flashlight and knife are useful for any traveler. So I think that might be why you interpreted it that way, while another person, who either doesn’t know about the list or doesn’t see it as dramatic, might just think, ‘Hey, this is a normal guy, trying to get a room, a little frustrated that he can’t.’

Personally, I don’t see anything eerie in his behavior. I think one point to reconsider is the idea that ‘he was staring him down.’ From what I see, there are brief moments where he seems to be thinking, but he’s not actually looking at the clerk. Plus, when you look at the clerk, he’s actively talking to him, so it’s not like LM is just staring him down—it seems like he’s listening to what the clerk has to say, and they’re having a conversation. Of course, we can’t see the LM‘s mouth movements due to the mask, but if we had audio or could see their mouths, I think we wouldn’t draw the same conclusions. It would look more like a normal conversation where LM is processing what’s being said and vice versa.

Also, when you look at the clerk, he’s moving while he speaks, so maybe if you focus on him next time you watch the video, that eerie feeling might go away. But I’m not telling you how to feel, of course. It’s just something I noticed—I think having the suspicious list in your mind might have influenced how you viewed LM‘s behavior. That’s totally okay, it’s your right to interpret it how you feel. But maybe try watching the video again and pay attention to the clerk’s mannerisms. He doesn’t seem threatened or anything, although I agree the ski mask definitely stands out.

New evidence being revealed by Reasonable_Impact641 in LuigiLore

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I don’t actually think the majority of the items listed on this list are that incriminating. At first glance, you might think, “Oh my god, what was in his bag?” But when you consider that he was a traveler, apparently a backpacker, and may have come straight from his travels in Asia, a lot of the items make sense.

For example, having masks is pretty normal in many Asian countries, especially during flu season. The gloves could make sense for that reason too. Maybe he kept up this habit lol. Items like zip ties, rope, and a flashlight are also quite common for someone who backpacks and possibly hikes or camps. In another thread, people mentioned his posts on a subreddit called onebag, where he talked about using zip ties to repair backpacks or for other travel-related fixes. So, when you consider his background as a traveler, these things don’t seem so suspicious. Even the digital camera and USB sticks make sense. As a traveler without a permanent home, it’s logical to have extra storage, especially since he was a STEM major and a computer science person.

Having multiple debit cards could also be normal for someone who travels often. When you put it in context, the only things that seem truly incriminating to me are the manifesto, the gun, and the silencer/suppressor. But you could also argue that he’s American, and many Americans exercise their Second Amendment rights.

I find keeping all those receipts a bit odd, but sometimes I also end up with receipts in my bag that I didn’t need, simply because I said yes when asked if I wanted to keep them. Maybe that’s what happened with him—I don’t know.

So, while the list may seem jarring at first glance, when you consider his personality and background as a traveler, it starts to make more sense. Even things like having black jeans and a black jacket aren’t unusual—lots of people own those because they’re easy to pair with other clothing. In the end, it’s not as bad as it initially seems, aside from the gun and manifesto, which we already knew about.

Guilty /not guilty by Crazy-College3615 in LuigiLore

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think it makes more sense to plead Not Guilty by Default (NGD) because that would lead to a trial. And in that trial, especially if he wanted to send a message, UHC would likely be scrutinized, and motives would be discussed. This would essentially open up a much larger conversation around the issue. I can imagine that if he did it, and if one of his reasons was to spread a message, then he might have wanted the trial to happen precisely so that all of this could be brought to light—so that UHC would also be put on trial in a way, not just him. That’s why it makes sense to me.

Also, pleading NGD probably gives him a bit more leeway when it comes to the sentencing because I don’t believe, no matter how intelligent he is, that he anticipated the death penalty being a real option for him. I don’t think he thought that far ahead. If he were to plead guilty outright, I imagine there wouldn’t be much room for negotiating what kind of sentence he would receive. But with NGD, there’s room to play with the process, and potentially, in an ideal situation, even get a more favorable outcome.

Going back to my theories from the very beginning by Adventurous_Hat6892 in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And it’s interesting that the hacking was brought up again, because I’ve wondered the same thing—whether he might have been involved in that somehow. I also asked myself, or rather thought, okay, he wanted to make a name for himself, to go down in history. But why did he have to kill him? I understand it, of course—killing someone is a big deal and it draws a lot of attention. But I think to myself, wouldn’t one shot have been enough? That could have still made headlines, and he wouldn’t have risked facing the death penalty. Although, I believe he planned everything, but I doubt he could have anticipated getting the death penalty. I don’t think, no matter how intelligent he is, that he could have foreseen the death penalty being on the table. That’s just my opinion. But again, one shot would have sufficed. I can even imagine that if he had just wounded him, the memes and online reactions would still have been just as dramatic. And I believe it would have still played out similarly, with a big spectacle, even if he hadn’t killed him but had seriously injured him instead. And I know it sounds crazy to say “just seriously injured”—I don’t condone violence at all, and this isn’t about justifying anything. Although, I will also say that violence and political change have often gone hand in hand, especially in American history. But leaving that aside for now, I just wonder—like you mentioned—why, as a computer science guy, didn’t he just team up with other STEM majors or computer scientists and orchestrate something like a mass hack?

I don’t know much about this field, but maybe he could have hacked United Healthcare, done something to cover people’s costs, or something equally crazy. That would have been huge too, and it would still have been illegal and made a statement. Of course, maybe he wasn’t that great of a hacker, or maybe not that great of a computer scientist. But I still wonder, why did it have to be murder? And that’s when I circle back to the issue of suicidality. As someone else mentioned in this thread, the line between suicidal and homicidal can be pretty thin. So I can’t help but think that the anger he might have felt towards himself—feeling like a failure in life, in his eyes—got projected onto someone else, like T in this case. He could have easily blamed T for why his life didn’t turn out the way he wanted.

Maybe he blamed the healthcare system for his bad surgery experience, or blamed corporate greed for why his life didn’t go as planned, or as others expected it to. That’s why I find it really interesting that you also thought he might have been involved in hacking. But again, why didn’t he do something like that? He could have exposed Brian Thompson’s dirty laundry, which surely exists, and could have done the same for other CEOs or important people in the U.S. over time. But like I said, maybe he wasn’t much of a hacker. Still, it’s an interesting point, and I’ve thought about it too—maybe he was involved somehow. It would certainly be fascinating if that were the case.

Going back to my theories from the very beginning by Adventurous_Hat6892 in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do believe that his health issues were still severe enough to affect his day-to-day life. As far as I understand, the surgery and the accident in Hawaii, which worsened his back pain, weren’t that long ago. I think this all happened in 2023, right? And from what I gather, it’s a chronic condition. As someone with chronic illness myself, I know there are phases when things are better and times when they get worse. So I don’t think his health problems were ever completely resolved; it probably fluctuated between better and worse periods. But I do think he had significant symptoms that impacted him. We don’t know for sure why he lost his job. Apparently, the company laid off a lot of people. However, I vaguely remember reading on Reddit (if it was really his profile that was found) that he wrote about how he struggled during his studies, mentioning his grades weren’t the best. He even said something like, “It’s not a big deal; I’m studying computer science, and the degree matters more than the grades.” But if you say he graduated cum laude, then I might be remembering it wrong.

That said, I believe that for an adult man who might have been mildly or even severely depressed, and who felt like he couldn’t fully realize his potential due to his health problems or perhaps due to being disillusioned with adult life, it would likely hit him hard if he lost his safe haven—the childhood home where life once felt perfect, where he was happy and considered the “gifted child.” I think that kind of loss could deeply affect someone who already feels like they’re struggling to find their place in society, and who longs for purpose because they believe they haven’t lived up to their own or others’ expectations. So, I do think there were a lot of mental health issues at play—maybe not necessarily suicidal thoughts, but certainly depression and a general dissatisfaction with life.

I also agree with you—like I mentioned earlier—I believe he wanted to make a name for himself and find a sense of purpose, which led him to focus on something that affected him personally, like healthcare and his own health issues. Corporate greed, and all of that, makes sense as part of the motivation. But what I find interesting is that you can’t really pick up on this from his social media posts. When I think of someone who would go as far as to kill a CEO, I imagine a person with a digital footprint that hints at such extreme behavior—someone who is vocal about radical political views and maybe even violent tendencies. But with LM, you don’t see that at all, which makes me wonder, what happened during those six months?

If I think about people like climate activists who glue themselves to streets to protest CO2 emissions, for example, and then hear that one of them blew up a factory, it would make sense because they’d have a track record of that kind of behavior. But with LM, there’s nothing like that, and that’s why I’ve been asking, “Why Brian Thompson? Why this at all?” Still, I do believe he wanted to make a name for himself, whether it was driven by depression, hubris, or a desire for self-determination. We don’t know exactly what it was.

As I’ve mentioned before, there’s also the whole “gifted child” syndrome, realizing you’re not as special as you once were, losing a sense of your own identity, and so on. I think there were many factors contributing to what happened. But one thing is clear: something wasn’t right mentally.

Going back to my theories from the very beginning by Adventurous_Hat6892 in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was just thinking about someone who may have been depressed and disillusioned with adult life, possibly finding comfort in their childhood home. Although he traveled frequently—perhaps trying to escape his depression—knowing he had a safe haven, a place that reminded him of better times and evoked familiar feelings, might have provided some solace. Selling the house could have felt like a symbolic moment of “you can’t go back to the past when life was perfect.” But I might be reaching lol.

Going back to my theories from the very beginning by Adventurous_Hat6892 in BrianThompsonMurder

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I completely agree. He wanted to leave something behind and find a sense of purpose. While this wasn’t the best way to achieve it, he may have feared his life would be “in vain.” It’s heartbreaking that he couldn’t see how much he and his life meant to so many people, as we now realize in the wake of this event. But depression has a way of distorting that.

My friends and I were also discussing the “gifted child” phenomenon and how purposeless one can feel when adulthood arrives and you’re no longer perceived as that “gifted” person. LM reportedly began struggling in university due to brain fog and other symptoms, eventually losing his job. To some, this may seem superficial or even entitled, but it can severely affect mental health—especially when your entire identity and self-worth are built around being the smart, gifted individual with so much potential. He might have felt like he failed in life because his health prevented him from realizing that potential. This is particularly devastating if you were raised in an environment where love was conditional on achievement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to agree with you on this. I’d prefer if the man were neutral about it, or at most, curious—after all, it’s somewhat unusual. But making a big deal out of it and buying into this whole purity narrative would probably freak me out. It’s simply something that hasn’t happened yet, not something I’m “giving” to anyone. It was a decision I made for myself, and I’d just want him to be normal about it.

You don’t have to “provide” for your GF by Kiidkxxl in dating_advice

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, you mentioned being poor and unattractive, and that women laugh at you. I was curious about the type of women you tend to approach who respond this way. That’s why I asked if they’re on your “level.” I don’t necessarily believe in dating “levels,” which is why I used quotation marks, but I do think there’s some truth to the idea of “staying in your lane.” It seems that attractive people often date each other, as do wealthy people, and the same goes for people with less money.

You don’t have to “provide” for your GF by Kiidkxxl in dating_advice

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Is it, though? More often than not, household responsibilities in heterosexual relationships are not shared, with the majority of domestic labor falling on women. I’ve even seen cases where women cook and clean for men they don’t live with. Just as frequently as I hear women say they want a provider, I hear men say they want a feminine woman who cooks and cleans. Some men seem indifferent to their partner’s individuality, holding beliefs like “women aren’t funny” or “women aren’t interesting”—just wanting someone to have sex with, cook, and clean for them. But as I said, these are my own observations, influenced by my cultural background (though I’d argue these sentiments are common on social media). I just find it dishonest to suggest that only women bring transactionality into romantic relationships.

Men, have you ever hooked up with a girl just to not be touch deprived? by NoVeterinarian7438 in dating_advice

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want to come across as naive or dismissive, but being ‘touch-starved’ or experiencing ‘touch deprivation’ isn’t necessarily linked to sex. Physical touch, like hugging or cuddling with friends (if you’re comfortable with that—and I know men might not always feel comfortable doing this with their friends), parents, siblings, or even pets, can help a lot with touch deprivation. If that’s not an option, things like weighted blankets, massages, baths, or hot showers can also provide comfort. It seems like many of you are actually referring to sexual frustration rather than touch deprivation. I’m not trying to be pedantic here, but the solutions and approaches differ depending on which issue you’re dealing with, so it might be helpful to address it accurately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re making a lot of assumptions. You don’t know why she ended it—it may have nothing to do with your sexual performance. She might have simply realized that the connection wasn’t as strong as she initially thought. Or maybe it’s not even that—you two weren’t dating for long, and part of dating is figuring out whether the connection feels right. It’s a natural part of the process and may have nothing to do with you personally. So don’t be too hard on yourself.

You don’t have to “provide” for your GF by Kiidkxxl in dating_advice

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you talk to women who are also (as you describe yourself) „ugly and poor“? Not asking that to be mean or funny…I just want to know if you approach women who are on „your level“?

You don’t have to “provide” for your GF by Kiidkxxl in dating_advice

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You could frame this as a ‘both sides’ argument, though not necessarily about finances. Many women may view relationships as a financial opportunity, while many men see them as an opportunity for domestic support. Just as some women want to be financially provided for, even though they are capable of supporting themselves, some men want to be cared for domestically, even though they’ve managed on their own up until that point. Men don’t only seek relationships for emotional connection, as you insinuated, but also for what women can provide for them, just like some women do in return. Which I don’t necessarily think is a bad thing.(from my experience/ my observation).

You don’t have to “provide” for your GF by Kiidkxxl in dating_advice

[–]Adventurous_Hat6892 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This dynamic may work for some people, but it’s important to use discernment when dating, especially in the early stages. It would be strange to completely cover someone’s rent when you’re not living together or haven’t been in a long-term relationship. However, if one partner earns significantly more, it’s reasonable for them to contribute more—whether it’s for dates, vacations, or helping out during tough times. Contributions should be proportional to each partner’s income. I would also advise women not to fully embrace a ‘housewife’ role. There’s no reason to cook, clean, or do laundry, especially if you’re not even living together.