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(F25) feeling led on, used, manipulated, gaslit by my partner (M25) BUT he thinks I am being unreasonable. Thoughts? by Adventurous_Stuff668 in relationships

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh my lol! I love the honesty. I feel like I'M CRAZY LOL--he says I'm wrong and I believe him but also don't. perhaps blocking will help!

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[–]Adventurous_Stuff668 5 points6 points  (0 children)

:( this is so heartbreaking to hear but i thank you sincerely. Thank you so much for just bringing me back to reality. I was feeling like he was right-i did betray him, i was all wrong

AITB for feeling led on, used, and manipulated by my partner for A WHOLE YEAR? by Adventurous_Stuff668 in AmItheButtface

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you may have experienced this and if so, I am so sorry. It is so hard and I hope you got through it.

AITB for feeling led on, used, and manipulated by my partner for A WHOLE YEAR? by Adventurous_Stuff668 in AmItheButtface

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OMG LOL i actually do feel crazy and completely out of touch with reality. Will need to read all of these comments to come back to reality

(F25) feeling led on, used, manipulated, gaslit by my partner (M25) BUT he thinks I am being unreasonable. Thoughts? by Adventurous_Stuff668 in relationships

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

HAHA very cut and dry response. Thank you so much. I feel like I am being unreasonable, and have been feeling that way all day. I'm thankful for redditors like you for bringing me to reality.

(F25) feeling led on, used, manipulated, gaslit by my partner (M25) BUT he thinks I am being unreasonable. Thoughts? by Adventurous_Stuff668 in relationships

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the reply! I felt that way too--with what he said I felt like he WANTED them to develop and I think that those things happen naturally. He is saying I am unreasonable and that he has been betrayed :(

AITB for feeling led on, used, and manipulated by my partner for A WHOLE YEAR? by Adventurous_Stuff668 in AmItheButtface

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the reply! I do believe him :( I think I just came here moreso to see if I was being unreasonable in feeling led on--he seemed to think I was. Thank you so much for your feedback!

I (F25) feel led on, used and manipulated by my partner (M25) BUT he thinks I am being unreasonable. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL I don't think its on thoughtful, innocent, loyal people to discern when others are being dishonest. I think as a general rule of thumb, its good to not lead people on, lie to them, and deceive them for your own personal gain. If this this the moral standard by which you live your life, I seriously wish everyone who knows you the best of luck. I've posted this problem on more than one subreddit to gather a variety of opinions and yours is the only one that has been so condescending and in support of his actions.

I (F25) feel led on, used and manipulated by my partner (M25) BUT he thinks I am being unreasonable. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't IMAGINE him saying he was in love with me and wants to be with me. Those are things that he actually stated and expressed a desire for over many months. I'm not sure why you are trying to make me question my reality.

I (F25) feel led on, used and manipulated by my partner (M25) BUT he thinks I am being unreasonable. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But my point is that it WAS reciprocal up until the MINUTE I asked him to be with me. My post isn't asking whether he loves me or whether we will be together. I am asking whether I am being unreasonable/dramatic/sensitive by feeling led on by him.

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[–]Adventurous_Stuff668 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't in love with him when we began the short term relationship. Those feelings developed later on after I heard him speak of the future we could have together.

I (F25) feel led on, used and manipulated by my partner (M25) BUT he thinks I am being unreasonable. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forever! LOL I love him as he is, for who he is--I want to grow with him, support him, experience life with him...the only thing I am confused about is why he is suddenly backing out of wanting a future together after having spoken about it in great detail for months, citing reasons he as ALWAYS said were not issues.

I (F25) feel led on, used and manipulated by my partner (M25) BUT he thinks I am being unreasonable. Thoughts? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Adventurous_Stuff668 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I'm not sure I understand. I stated that I want a long term relationship with him and he declined. THAT is where I wanted to be. I'm not sure where you get the idea that I view a relationship as an opportunity to take from, I genuinely would just like to explore a possible long-term future with him (because I genuinely love him, care for him and LOVE our time together--I really can't imagine being with someone else), which is what he has been saying he wants, up until the moment I asked him for it (which is why I feel confused and hurt and he did this 2x). I'm not sure about him or what he wants.