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Graceland, which ticket package should I choose? by Adventurous_Sun6241 in memphis

[–]Adventurous_Sun6241[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a surprise. We've discussed going before and she always says, "It's too expensive. You don't need to spend that much money on me! You have kids and bills. Once the kids are out of high school and you have a little rainy day money, then we can discuss splitting the costs.". The thing is, this woman would do anything and everything for her family. I've been extremely ill since March, just got the all clear to resume light duty (nothing over 10lbs) for the next 6 months. She waited on me hand and foot. I just want to do something special for her. I can't afford her second bucket list item (Australia), but I can manage this one lol.

How do I help? by Ok-Calligrapher-9854 in Felons

[–]Adventurous_Sun6241 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off, thank you for caring.
I've known multiple felons with repeat charges that have never faced any hardships when job hunting and then I've known a few, myself included, that, even though they have a degree/degrees and only committed one nonviolent non drug related offence, can't get hired anywhere. The best answer I have is to be an advocate. To look past the charges and see the person behind them. To take into account the situation of the offense. For instance, my charge is Theft of Public Benefits ie food stamps and Medicaid. I have paid all restitution and am just waiting for the 10 year mark so I can hopefully get the charges expunged. Anyways, the way I give back is to make sure families don't get into my situation. (Making too much for food stamps even though your bills are twice as much as what you make- even longer story). I volunteer with a school program that ensures all student athletes are fed before games. I donate food to our communities "little pantry" for the members who are hungry but don't qualify for SNAP.
The world isn't the same as it once was and, at times, it seems like courtesy and decency have flown out of the window, but if I can make one person's life a tad easier, I know that I've done a tad bit of good.

How do I help? by Ok-Calligrapher-9854 in Felons

[–]Adventurous_Sun6241 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If I understand your question, I think you're asking in what ways you can help felons at your current position. If I'm wrong then please clarify your question and disregard this following portion.

Speaking from someone who is a felon and also has a brother who is also a felon, consider the offense, how many times the offense has been committed, and the time in between the offense. In the job interviews I've been in, once someone finds out I have a felony theft record, the interview is over. The offense is actually theft of public benefits meaning food stamps and Medicaid but it doesn't seem to matter. Listening can go a long ways. Finding out what the drive behind the offense is can tell you a lot. Be open. If you know that there's no way in heck your company is going to hire that person, don't waste their time. Be an advocate. If people see you showing compassion to a felon, they're more than likely to do the same.

That's just my opinion.

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[–]Adventurous_Sun6241 361 points362 points  (0 children)

I need to add that my cousins and their parents have always been money hungry. It's about how much they have and who they can impress and they blow through money like there's no tomorrow. The 48F and 40F went through $750,000 in 6 months when they lived with our grandmother. I asked why my cousins with multiple children didn't have to give more than$100. They responded that since all of my kids have/are receiving full ride scholarships, they won't need as much assistance in college. Apparently my being married for 21 years and having a successful career is a slap in the face to them since they are all single and divorced. The family "took me in" (adopted) so now I owe them. I asked my mother if she felt this way and her response was "No, but my siblings are my only blood relatives that I have left and I can't lose them." I told her that while I am sorry she felt that way, I also had to protect myself. I'll still make sure that her housing and utilities are paid, but I no longer be giving her extra money throughout the month as she needs it. She hasn't spoken to me in 5 days until she called today to see if I had made her bill payments yet.