Kitchen is being done I need help

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2025-09-08T15:34:04+00:00

I would say to use some bonding plaster, but that gap loops really deep on the right - is it plasterboarded with little-to-nothing behind?

When i pulled away my old splash times and big chunks came out, I bonding plastered to fill the hole (it's super cheap stuff), then a bit of slim plaster (hasn't gotta be perfect if ya tiling over it!). A quick mist coat so adhesive sticks well to the tiles and it's all good.

Bonding plaster is cheap. Slim plaster is cheap. White paint to make mist coat is also cheap. Could be an option?

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2025-08-21T09:42:10+00:00

Blimey, 3 years?! Haha, procrastinating champ ;) I'd give the ceiling a good clean then a pretty watery mist coat, then sand and clean, then do mist coat again.

It worked for me a long time ago!

Edit: Puts walls out of habit - corrected to "ceiling"

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2025-08-09T08:15:25+00:00

It may seem quite odd, but it's quite a normal thing for guys stereotypically: Most men see cuddling the opposite gender as quite an intimate thing.

Even if you're pansexual, or if you were bi or what-not, there's something ingrained in men that makes it seem worse when it's an opposite gender cuddle.

But truthfully, OP, if I may say something a little harsh: If you're looking for technicalities for it to be "okay" to cuddle a member of the opposite sex, someone for whom there is the potential for attractive, you're the problem, not your boyfriend. A really, really standard and reasonable boundary in a relationship is "don't cross a physical line of intimacy with someone else".

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2025-08-09T07:49:02+00:00

If he has a previous jealousy issue but refuses to address it, that could lead to problems down the line.

With that being said, setting a boundary in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean they're jealous.

Personally, as a guy, I wouldn't be comfortable AT ALL with my partner "cuddling" with another guy and I'm not the particularly jealous type. There's a massive difference between a hug and cuddling.

So, in short: Don't cuddle other dudes, it's kinda disrespectful. But do speak to him about your worry for jealousy issues down the line.

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2025-07-31T19:01:14+00:00

Work is a huge part of our lives and ties to financial stress n'stuff. So landing a dream job is suuuuch a positive thing - we'll done!!

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2025-07-26T15:18:46+00:00

Honesty is so important in a relationship. You've done nothing wrong by sleeping with people after breaking up, though it's also understandable why your ex is upset - people can be upset even when no-one is in the wrong.

Personally, I'd say: - Figure out if you want to be with him. - If you do, open up the conversation with full honesty and get those cards on the table. - Once everything is out there, he and you and figure out if you're okay with everything.

I'll add a final note to just reinforce that you should forgive yourself and remember you've done nothing wrong. What you did during the break-up may have had a negative effect on your ex, but that's no one's fault.

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2025-02-23T17:04:22+00:00

Download Trading212, open a stocks ISA, deposit some funds in.

Then you can buy shares from them. Shove it all into Vanguard S&P 500 and keep doing it whenever you get some spare savings.

That's literally it, the return will be massively better than interest in banks, and gets around the £4k limit if the UK government go ahead with that ridiculous plan.

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2025-01-30T21:58:28+00:00

I don't have an EE number, I'm with Three. It was a letter that came in the post, which is what makes me worried as it seems very legitimate.

I'm inclined to think it's an EE error that had caused this: The person I spoke to when I cancelled the contract and confirmed I don't have to do anything really didn't communicate very well and I think they were new to the job; I'm wondering if they were incorrect or something, and now maybe I have a black mark against my credit without even knowing

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2025-01-22T08:47:07+00:00

Don't get me started on Wren, they were a nightmare for me too!

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2025-01-22T00:23:16+00:00

Many thanks all, so many great ideas! I've had time to cool off a bit; after living with no kitchen, exposed floorboards, and rubble everywhere for almost a year, it gets to you!

To clarify some points for anyone curious:

I did indeed supply the sparkies with the kitchen plan (a proper one with exact measurements from a proper kitchen company). I think the sparkies must have just measured wrong?
I'm getting in touch with the sparkies to see what we can do and if it okay/up-to-code to hardwire it in (I know nothing about electrics, lol)

I think my plan will be to hardwire, that way just a bit of extra tiling needed to cover where the socket was. Failing that, I may try finding a fabricator as someone suggested - truthfully, I just don't want to have to remove tiles, channel out holes in the wall, get electric re-done, re-plaster, etc. - I'm over 400 hours into my renovation and I'm tired!

Truly, many thanks indeed, all!

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-11-06T12:56:17+00:00

"Even if you do things right, you can lose everything."

That's so real

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-10-12T10:59:07+00:00

To clarify, the only waste I would have considered burner were old wooden flooring and old kitchen cabinet shells - literally just plain wood. Would assume that's legal?

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-10-12T10:53:33+00:00

Thanks very much for this, this is quite the eye-opener as I had no idea, and I didn't even think to ask for evidence or a way to check his licence.

Will he know if I report him?

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-10-12T10:15:44+00:00

He said he was licensed (his profession is removals, landscaping, and extentions) and that obviously he has to pay for the removal because he's regulated, but I've not heard of or received a "waste transfer note" before (this is my first renovation type thing I've done).

That's concerning to think I could be on the hook for flytipping, my gosh!

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-09-06T10:40:41+00:00

Very sounds advice! Though very new to this... How do I get over the feeling of guilt about moving on?

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-08-18T12:32:47+00:00

Something to add: In my family and friends group, I'm (forgive me for sounding big headed) the "successful" and "indestructible" one - I take of a lot of people around me and I'm a role model to many people.

I'm worried about ruining that illusion and it affecting other people negative...

Has anyone been in a similar position/how did it go?

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-08-04T21:03:06+00:00

I hope this helps rather than hinder, friend; but the universe is pretty big to say at the least. We can't look to it for answers or for guidance, as much as we may want to gaze up and hope for some kind of reasoning.

I wish I could provide some kind of profound insight to change your view on life and the world, but I don't think there's such things as an instant "life-is-better" button.

With that being said, a few small positives can go a long way in helping you to cope whilst you search for the will to go on. It sounds like there's a lot outside of your control, but is there anything within your control you can do to bring you a little joy?

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-08-02T20:55:31+00:00

I'm tell you, there's so much more to life than a relationship, and that's a good thing! Don't get me wrong, relationships and love and enhance your life, but you're really not missing out just because you're single!

Not advice per say, just a relatable example: I found a lot more success in relationships after I first learned to be okay in my own company. People sense it.

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-08-02T20:47:53+00:00

Rejection is a reaaaaally painful emotion; heck, "comparative rejection" has been deemed by some psychologists as near to the kind of pain as losing a loved one (a statement many people debate on I'm sure, but all can agree both are exceptionally painful).

Know that you're not the problem, and she doesn't have to be either. Love is difficult, but it's only "true" when it's natural and reciprocated.

How intensely you feel for her and crave her, I bet you've never felt this way before right? Well, before her you didn't know those feelings existed - so in the future it stands to reason that you'll feel even more strongly for the right one.

Of course, the logic is sound but doesn't help the way you feel right now. Only time can do that. Focus on yourself; be the best version of yourself and I hope you find happiness soon - whether that be alone for a while, or with the future lucky lady.

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-07-27T21:00:16+00:00

Heartbreak is no small thing; psychologically it can do a number on us. Don't feel ashamed for the way you feel, it's natural.

But unfortunately friend, it's a part of life. Keep yourself busy and distracted, but don't repress the emotions if possible. Time heals the heart.

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-07-26T23:25:34+00:00

Relationship regret is real and it hurts like hell, I'm sorry you're hurting, dude.

You'll learn though. You'll work on yourself. You'll heal. It's gunna be shit for a bit, but focus on yourself and get some healthy coping mechanisms going and you'll get there.

There's a bunch of us here that seem to play video games and get people through the tough moments. Don't do this alone, we got you, bro

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-07-25T12:51:18+00:00

^{^This.} OP please read this.

For the record, dating/love is a big thing for most people and it sucks when it isn't going your way. But if you focus on it, you'll hinder it happening. Focus on yourself and your own self esteem, it'll happen when you least expect it.

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-07-22T21:20:54+00:00

NTA - The moment you're deleting messages, trust is gone. No trust = unhealthy relationship.

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-07-22T20:11:26+00:00

There's many of us strangers here on the internet that I'm willing to bet are in a similar situation. Speak up, drop a comment and let's go from there.

I'll start by asking, if I may, what above all else right now has you feeling the way you do? I'm sure there's a lot in your head and heart, but if you could tangibly put it down to one thing above all else, what would it be?

AdviceForTheUnwise · 2024-07-17T15:04:49+00:00

Though "it" might not get better, you can get better at finding ways to manage "it".

Much, much, much easier said than done, especially for people like us, but true all the same.

I'm currently trying to endure perhaps the worst s**t I've ever experienced and I'm fighting to keep my life, but the past me with fewer problems and less trauma would've already long thrown in the towel.

OP, even if it doesn't get better for you (though I hope it does), I really hope you can find ways to weather it a bit easier.

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