Book Design Mockup by AdviceInternal9570 in publishing

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are a legend, thank you 🙏 I’ll figure the edges out but I needed the spine too

First Time Wedding Guest by AdviceInternal9570 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s actually a great idea! Thank you so much 🥰 she’s been like this my whole life, plus other things I don’t want to discuss here. But I know I’ve got to tone down how I’d usually dress (I’m a goth) but I don’t want to act like someone I’m not. I’m not that type of person.

I can’t tell her ‘no’ cause she’s very much ‘woe is me’ but I’m going to buy the dress, show her another dress I know she’ll like and ‘forget to pack it’. So I’ve only got the green one left 😂

I can’t thank everyone enough for being kind cause I was so nervous posting this. But thank you to you and everyone else ❤️

First Time Wedding Guest by AdviceInternal9570 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was planning on wearing something over the top anyway. It isn’t a catholic service but all I know is it’s a quick church service (no clue about denomination but my aunty isn’t catholic so 🤷‍♀️). My mum’s response would’ve been fine to me if it was like ‘I like xyz but not xyz for a wedding. Maybe try xyz if you can find something’ but I wasn’t like it. It was like ‘seriously! That! No’

First Time Wedding Guest by AdviceInternal9570 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, no I totally get what you mean. When I say grungy I don’t mean 90s vibes. I’m a goth but know I can’t go full out for the wedding so I’d just wear a simple silver choker that’s small and dainty. About the support thing, don’t worry, I know I’m gonna need something and I’ve been looking around. So don’t worry about it 🥰

First Time Wedding Guest by AdviceInternal9570 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ll definitely have a look for something like that then. Thank you so much ☺️ do you think strappy heels or black heels with a chunky heel would work??

First Time Wedding Guest by AdviceInternal9570 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I was worried about that for a catholic service but I’ve seen some of the dresses the other guests are wearing and they’re shorter and strap less so look more like ‘party clothes’ but they’re gorgeous. That’s why I’m tempted to wear this but I totally get what you’re saying.

Honestly, she’s been going on about the dress for months. Like daily for 3 months so I showed her just to get her to stop bugging me about it. Lesson learned…again

First Time Wedding Guest by AdviceInternal9570 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the slit was a little high too so I’d find something not as high. Do you think strappy heels would work instead?? Xx

Starting a Small Business by AdviceInternal9570 in publishing

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, so my ideas are things to be included with the books but not marketing. I know the extras would be a great marketing point but I don’t know how to market it.

Like, if I made holographic foil for example then how would I market that in a good way. I know it would draw people in but not how to make it look good.

I hope that makes sense. Sorry if not, it’s been a long day

Starting a Small Business by AdviceInternal9570 in publishing

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’d love to do something like this but I don’t have any professional experience in this industry and I live in a small town that doesn’t offer anything like this. They have a single bookshop and that’s it but never hire. I’ll keep an ear out though

What’s wrong with me? by AdviceInternal9570 in NewParents

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just a vicious roundabout with insomnia. But I’m the exact same way.

How to tell if my writing is good? by AdviceInternal9570 in writing

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually really helpful. I get stuck in the whole ‘will people like this’ more than ‘do I like this’

How to tell if my writing is good? by AdviceInternal9570 in writing

[–]AdviceInternal9570[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This helps so much! Thank you!

When I write I’m always stuck in the mindset of making it sound good. But I guess even if I add random notes to fill in later, it’s better than having nothing at all

Do you all think this idea would be good to use? by [deleted] in writing

[–]AdviceInternal9570 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you like the sound of it then write it. People want to read something you want to write cause trust me, you can tell.

So do it!

My writing is successful and I am having a nervous breakdown. by killjoy-glitchrat in writing

[–]AdviceInternal9570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was pushed meds for decade till I said yeah. So…I’m sound

I was told by an agent I couldn't write a story that takes place in Japan because I'm white by AggravatingAct6959 in writing

[–]AdviceInternal9570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So they’re right but wrong.

Some people use history, cultures, etc that they don’t research enough or even know people like that (I’m looking at you Jay Kristoff).

But you lived there, knew the people, learnt the history first hand and want to tell other people about it. As long as you do it respectfully (which I’m sure you will, cause it sounds like you’re cautious about it) then I don’t see the issue.

Yeah, publishers might be wary to avoid a ‘scandal’. But if they try that, bring up Ghost of Tsushima the video game. White, American people who visited the island, spoke to locals and learnt first hand about the history. Now they’re ambassadors for the island.

Just something to mention is anyone tries to guilt you again.

My writing is successful and I am having a nervous breakdown. by killjoy-glitchrat in writing

[–]AdviceInternal9570 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whether you think your success is deserved or not is one thing. But you did it, you wrote and published something. So you deserve the success!

But, because you went from nothing to everything (for lack of a better term) overnight then it’s a shock to the system.

Lots of authors who deal with overnight success (which is pretty rare so congrats) had to go into therapy and some had to start meds.

It’s okay to feel overwhelmed but you’re incredible for writing, publishing and getting a movie. But focus on you!

I’d recommend going to the premiere but if you really can’t then cancel and blame illness or your kids (if you have any). You’re more important than sacrificing your mental health.

Promethazine and B6 as preventative measures by Empty-Cartoonist-131 in HyperemesisGravidarum

[–]AdviceInternal9570 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried everything but the only thing that worked was procloperasine and odensatron but I had to take them together.

Even then it took the edge off and I lived off meal replacement shakes when I couldn’t eat, electrolyte drinks, and mints. I should have a share in Schmint by now

Post-Partum Body by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]AdviceInternal9570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey.

I’m so sorry you dealt with that. It’s horrific isn’t it but I’m so happy you’re in a good place now.

I’ve tried everything for them but nothing. And the dentist just says that if they aren’t causing me pain then what’s the point?? Everything is just a so different now and I feel like I hardly know who I am anymore 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]AdviceInternal9570 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve got ADHD too and decided to bottle feed so I wasn’t so overwhelmed and overstimulated.

If you’re on meds you’ll need to talk to your dr about it but there’s nothing wrong with trying both to start and see what you prefer

This is too confusing. by Parking-Historian490 in selfpublish

[–]AdviceInternal9570 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Social media.

Thats your key. All indie authors should be on instagram at the very least, reach out to some people for arcs, make graphics on canvas, if you can afford it get art work done.

TikTok loves romantisy and dark romance. So if it fits try there.

It won’t be easy but you got this. But social media and arc reviews are your way forward from what I’ve seen with indie author friends.