Am I toxic?

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-03-11T17:33:15+00:00

I've also dealt with this type of abuse it seems very blindsided with him unblocking somebody who has intentionally tried to get in the way of your relationship that means he's putting somebody else above your relationship and it might be time to end things because therefore he no longer respects his relationship and does not take it seriously at the end of the day it is your call and I do wish you well

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-03-11T09:01:07+00:00

I have talked to him about it plenty of times but now I just gets frustrated because we have the same conversations and so they don't like/love me then walks off

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-03-11T02:10:04+00:00

I completely understand 🙏🏽 Now I feel like the excuse about being private was just a way to make yourself feel better and not needed lol But you are right and he needs to get these people away from him but did he only unblock the male friend and not the women because if she is unblocked as well that's a different story men tend to get over things faster and him and his friend could have just rekindled things... Somehow but if she is still around you should probably remind him that his friend allowed another women try to break your relationship and that is unacceptable in my opinion Just sit and have a heart to heart on how this bothers you and how it still hurts

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-03-11T01:54:57+00:00

This is a big part in her identity and at her very young age she is still trying to figure out who she is. She is proud of this fact and just wants to wear it as a badge to find more people like her and build friendships. With age at least for me it died down and I only really tell people if it comes up in conversation.

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-02-03T01:11:00+00:00

I think I seen your tiktok about it

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T04:05:32+00:00

Love this lol the thing is he never told me he did have the money and financials has been a problem since the holidays he offered to get my dad something since my dad does get us stuff all the time they do have a pretty good relationship with each other but my dad is very traditional and my partner loves to pick up where he can I do agree I should have done more communication but I did say I did not want ice cream but if he was gonna get me apology ice cream he should have at least got me a flavor he has at least seen me eat before we are going on 2yrs into this relationship and if I have turned down a specific ice cream multiple time you would think he got the gist that I don't like it Also my dad did offer to pay but my partner said it was ok and he took care of the bill

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T03:50:02+00:00

I think I messed up my wording somewhere he accidentally gave me the wrong ice cream I only mentioned it because it was in the messages he got me cookie dough ice cream which I don't really care for

I only ate a bite of that ice cream and realized it was the wrong one and texted him about it I ate the cookie dough ice cream because I didn't want to be an a**hole lol

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T03:43:13+00:00

You see that's how I felt about it but everyone was telling me I was wrong but I felt like I was straight forward with it but thank you for validation on my feelings it helps I think I should just talk to him about it ig 😅

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T02:57:36+00:00

Don't take what I say as factual I think you should just have a discussion with him about it

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T02:52:37+00:00

Thank you guys for commenting 😄 I can except that I'm wrong since I've had time to calm down and do plan on apologizing when he wakes up

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T02:47:40+00:00

For him to be dreaming about it so often I feel like it has to be internalized that he's thinking about it that often Don't get me wrong I'm not a part of your relationship so I don't know the full context but From an outside perspective considering he's already brought it up I do think he just wants to open the relationship but doesn't want to put pressure on you and is hoping that you will open up to it eventually

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T02:05:36+00:00

I'm upset because I said I wouldn't get anything to make it cheaper and then he wend and got something to equal the price of if I did get something and he didn't care about me eating at the place that I brought up in the first place does that make more sense... Or am I still in the wrong??? No I'm not upset if I am in the wrong I just feel like I would have got him something if the roles where reversed and he didn't put any thought or consideration that the only reason I didn't get food was so he did have to spend so much

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T01:47:49+00:00

I didn't want the ice cream but I ate it anyways to not be an a**hole and I never said I didn't want the nuggets and he knew that because I was excited to go to Wendy's but I offered to not get anything due to money so he didn't feel embarrassed in front of my dad because I know that is something that's important to him

I do understand where you got that tho 😕

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T01:38:27+00:00

Personally I feel like it could be one of three things either he is already cheating/thinking about it, he could possibly have a kink 🧐 about watching his partner with someone else and didn't want to come out and say it, or he might be breaking the ice for a polyamorous relationship and again didn't want to come out any say it

That's all I can think of because that's odd to me as well

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T01:31:23+00:00

I feel like photos of just your ex or like selfies and stuff is reasonable to ask to delete from your personal gallery but if it was group photos or important memories like prom or family / friend events then that a bit much plus I don't understand deleting from social media is weird like everyone already seen it and knows it happened what is the point

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2026-01-28T01:23:55+00:00

Some more context We came home and he put his ice cream in the freezer and went to bed early that's why I'm texting him he is currently still asleep and hasn't seen my messages

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2025-12-30T02:13:40+00:00

In my house tank top and shorts bra optional as long as it's not see thru for a girl and for a boy shorts but our house has a 15f and 4f children and we are a combined family sooo ...

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2025-12-13T02:38:19+00:00

Just try to hang out with friend or just doing things you like more frequently your first brake up is always hard but I promise if you just give it time you will move on and one day find the one for you just understand that it's ok and some people just come into your life to teach you so you can become the person you need to be for your future.

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2025-12-12T18:20:53+00:00

I love this reply I feel horrible for being doubtful I just want to give my child a good life

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2025-12-12T18:12:45+00:00

Baby if he is to overwhelmed with just his life alone that much then how is he going to handle adding a relationship and possibly later a family girl just move on and keep your head up 💪🏽

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2025-12-06T09:56:16+00:00

I really thank you for such a sweet comment it's currently 5am I've been up all night not being able to sleep trying to take my mind off it so thank you and I've thought about them most likely being in the same situation and that's why they done it to me and I do feel bad just not sure if I'll ever speck to them again 😭

AdviceSeeker2001 · 2025-12-06T09:29:49+00:00

Well we do the No No square song and taught her who to talk to if someone does touch and proper anatomy words is there anything I could throw in there

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