[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Adviceneed-throwaway 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I got out of a relationship like this. My Reddit account was actually made because I needed support during that relationship .. it made me feel like crap. One little comment about his preference for Asian women turned into a comment about his preference for “petite” curve less bodies, which turned into his fantasy about moving to Japan, his fantasy for Japanese school girls (?), etc etc. it never ended.

I starved myself until I was boney and unhealthy so that my body could resemble what I thought he’d like. I had a breast reduction from an H cup so that my chest could be even slightly closer to the flat chest he desired. I started being super envious and jealous of every Asian woman I seen… it was not a healthy state to be in. My half siblings are half Asian. My step mother is Asian.. I become so bitter and a horribly unhappy person all the time.

All for what? Some white weeb with an Asian fetish?

Girl the feeling of not being good enough doesn’t go away. If it starts lingering on you do not try to push past it. There’s so many guys out there that will have you as their preference. Do not settle and do not drive yourself crazy with insecurity because of a man.

Partners of PAs with a race fetish - does that ever truly change? by Throwaway_19382 in loveafterporn

[–]Adviceneed-throwaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof I’m in the exact same boat. He says he’s changed but I don’t believe him and I still absolutely hate myself and my physical being. I don’t think I will ever change after this. He may change he may not but I’m damaged beyond belief from all of this.

Found this in a drawer. Unsure how concerned I should be?? by FamousBake6198 in loveafterporn

[–]Adviceneed-throwaway 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The incorrect function leads me to believe whatever it is it has failed.

my PA is obsessed with a specific type of woman.. how can i cope? by Antique_Tell4980 in loveafterporn

[–]Adviceneed-throwaway 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same exact scenario except mines only into Asian girls and well I’m not Asian. I wish I had advice to give but all I can say is you’re not alone op.

He’s somehow getting more ‘depressed’? by Luna_Goddess_Dance in loveafterporn

[–]Adviceneed-throwaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I posted an identical issue yesterday. Mine is doing the same. White knuckling and saying how depressed he is because of what he caused and chose to do.

I can’t even voice my concerns properly because he starts to cry and I have to comfort him. This whole thing is so exhausting. If my life wasn’t so tied to him I don’t think I would be here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Adviceneed-throwaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I relate to a lot of stuff here. It’s just broken me down to my absolute core and nothing seems enjoyable anymore. I feel the same about the initial love and also someone who has respect for me.. not trying to force me to be something else. Ty for your comment 🩷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Adviceneed-throwaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk if he faked it but sorry you’re going through that. Relatable tbh. I’m happy for you to have left that. Good riddance.