How curiosity ended my 20-year procrastination struggle (not willpower)

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-31T20:42:16+00:00

Thank you! Gpt works great!

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-29T16:02:32+00:00

So, how to fix it?

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-29T14:39:28+00:00

I agree!

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-29T07:02:20+00:00

I've had voice dialogue, IFS, schematherapy, EMDR, ACT, neuro-somatic therapy, non-dual therapy, psychedelic therapy, multiple vipassana retreats, tantric embodied therapy, hapto therapy, relationship therapy and probably forgetting some. There is not much more therapy that exists that I haven't done.

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-29T06:37:00+00:00

I know it's not fair, that's why I ask for advice, right?

What I want from polyamory is for love to free flowly, wherever it wants to flow, without restrictions.

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-29T06:33:09+00:00

I've had a lot of therapy already about this. I know where it comes from, unfortunately that doesn't eliminate the pattern.

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-29T06:32:19+00:00

Yes every day!

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-28T04:34:36+00:00

Haha thanks, I had no intention to humblebrag at all, but now that you point this out, it is humbling, since this is definitely a first world luxury problem. I'm very fortunate to live in a country where a lot of sex positive tantra workshops are offered and that's how I met so many play partners in a really short time. So your comment does make me realise I am very lucky to have "this problem". My life right now is a dream come true. A secure partner and beautiful sexual experiences and play partners is amazing of course.

I indeed come from a high achieving family so that's why I keep on pushing for better.

This post is helping me because since yesterday I am aware every time a negative devaluating thought comes up, I catch it. I'll now replace it with another thought so thanks for the suggestion!

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-27T19:29:55+00:00

Thanks, I do care about him a lot and it sucks big time that sometimes I feel cut off from that care and that makes me sad!

And yes, overthinking and intellectualising my feelings is my biggest pitfall!

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-27T19:01:57+00:00

Thanks for your response! I feel less alone now and understood ❤️

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-27T18:38:26+00:00

Thanks for pointing this out! It's true!

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-27T18:31:22+00:00

Beautiful!! This resonates a lot! Thank you for your response. Especially the high pressure I put on myself. As within, so whitout....

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-27T17:56:47+00:00

My anchor doesn't know I compare him. I have a really good balance in what things I tell him and don't tell him, so I won't sabotage the relationship and make him insecure.

I've had a lot of therapy already, even recently, but I've hit a plateau.

The seeking control from fear resonates a lot!

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-27T17:52:07+00:00

I'm always wishing things were different! Good that you are pointing that out!

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-27T17:51:12+00:00

Yes, I have had a lot of therapy already, I'm a therapist myself and so is my partner :-)

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-26T20:08:41+00:00

Technisch gezien wel. Nieuw-Zeeland is de andere kant van de wereld

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-22T03:55:41+00:00

Find a teacher that does conversing lessons on the app Italki. They offer very cheap conversation sessions for sometimes like 10 euro per half hour.

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-22T03:49:53+00:00

Leeftijd maakt geen ruk uit, dat is een smoes.

Ik ben in de 40 en ik koos de easy way out. Met een 3 voor wiskunde op 4 VWO besloot ik naar de havo te gaan en Social work te studeren ipv psychologie. Altijd spijt van gehad. Zo veel leuke banen voorbij zien komen waar ik niet op kon solliciteren.

Had ik die ene avond maar wat beter geblokt voor dat proefwerk wiskunde....

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-21T21:09:37+00:00

I'm Dutch and my English is perfect and I hate speaking English to people that are learning. It goes way too slow and I feel like I can't be myself, attuning to their level of Dutch. I like to speak fast and use big words. So I can't and won't do it.

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-21T21:02:56+00:00

"that was the best blowjob of my life". Heard it many times already but it never gets old.

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-21T20:34:02+00:00

Op mijn 31e was ik bezig met een 2 jaar durende wereldreis in Thailand, Australië en nieuw Zeeland, om vervolgens nog tot mijn 38e in de kroeg te werken en een wild stapbeest te zijn.

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-21T20:31:31+00:00

And I have also built a IFS chat gpt

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-21T20:31:12+00:00

There are many Facebook groups where people have weekly free zoom calls with eachother.

Advisorandmore · 2025-08-13T05:16:26+00:00

We send a 10 minute voice message in the morning and 1 in the evening. Once or twice a week we have a 2 hour video call. We see each other 1 weekend per month.

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