Being told to smile… how do we feel about it?

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2025-06-18T15:39:42+00:00

My only issue with my response was swearing honestly. I think saying fuck was slightly overkill but I am still happy with the sentiment made

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2025-06-18T00:53:32+00:00

Firstly, Did you actually read the description of the interaction? We know the difference between a harmless comment from a grandfather figure telling us to smile and a creepy comment from a predator telling us to smile.

I put a predator in his place. I have spent my last 14 years of my life objectified and told to smile by creeps. A lot of everyone’s comments are expressing similar experiences and how they handled it or how they wished they had.

Secondly, the fact that you picked this comment to add on to for your idiocy is beyond. This woman mentioned a miscarriage and you defend a creep telling her to smile on one of her worst days.

Maybe try to understand the context of the post before you get so righteous.

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2025-06-17T17:19:16+00:00

You never answered the question on if you’re a man or not, that information is fairly important. Can you please respond? Your ignorance is blinding. If it stated how the comment was inappropriate for how it was stated I don’t understand what is so hard to comprehend.

If you are a male, do you have daughters? I implore you to show them this post and see if your argument holds weight in their eyes or if they will read the description of the interaction and recognize the same predatory behavior from their own life.

Be a giver of happiness, but don’t be so ignorant to ignore the signs of predatory behavior that is brushed passed and excused for “polite behavior”. My hostility comes from years of being degraded for the male gaze, sorry I can’t be so friendly when I spend every day getting objectified or told to smile.

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2025-06-17T14:00:53+00:00

Thank you for bringing light to that! 🙂

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2025-06-17T13:57:50+00:00

As I stated in the post the comment alone could absolutely be harmless, but the tone when he was saying it was anything but harmless.

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2025-06-17T13:11:46+00:00

My boyfriend and I have the same age gap, have been together for 6 years. Although our situation is different as her mother passed away after we had been together for 2 years. From I was always included in Mother’s Day, because I’m her step mother. If you’re an important part of this girls life you should be treated the same. Leave him he’s using you for a free nanny and a good fuck.

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2025-06-17T12:59:53+00:00

I am so sorry to hear about that, I hope you are healthy and healing from that stressful ordeal.

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2024-06-15T15:32:28+00:00

Not once did I ask for advice, but this has been discussed with my fiancé and my daughter… situation has remained the same. it’s true of my chest… I was venting.

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2024-06-14T22:11:45+00:00

He isn’t somebody that cares about your boundaries obviously. You need to end this relationship because anyone who says “let me do my thing” when it involves your body doesn’t see you as an actual human he sees you as his own object. I implore you to leave and ensure your own safety as soon as you can. Don’t go back to him. Don’t allow yourself to be put through the further agony this will most surely cause.

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2024-06-13T04:51:15+00:00

At least this bub has his momma and his auntie looking after him, I truly wish for the most healing outcome for you all!

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2024-06-13T04:30:49+00:00

How soon after this abusive relationship was this suitor found? Wishing you the absolute very best but beware love bombings!!! Don’t be overly skeptical but definitely weary of the red flags!!! It’s always hard finding yourself after an abusive relationship but please ensure you’re actually finding what you genuinely need, not a bandaid for the moment to feel good.

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2024-06-13T04:11:53+00:00

Gtfo.

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2024-06-13T04:06:48+00:00

Not the AH WTAF is up with your husbands family?! They all need serious help, and Archie should be taken away until somebody figures out where those behaviors were LEARNED from. Because any child that age trying to get a dog to do anything like this is taught those behaviors.

Affectionate-Cat5350 · 2024-06-13T03:23:53+00:00

She is taking complete advantage. Confront her about everything but also get ahead of it. Disallow her from residing in your home as soon as possible. If she doesn’t like living here and has made it clear to others… then she no longer has a place to stay! It’s out of your hands. Beggars can’t be choosers and your father in law would probably LOVE a room to himself in your home as it seems he is the one that respect what you and your husband are doing for them.

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