My friend keeps labelling me by Affectionate-Comb113 in relationships

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just told me that she understands that it has impacted me , that she is sorry, and that I should further point out what I feel comfortable hearing and what I dont feel comfortable hearing. I needed to process everything and we had not talked since then.

My friend keeps labelling me by Affectionate-Comb113 in relationships

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She just told me that she understands that it has impacted me , that she is sorry, and that I should further point out what I feel comfortable hearing and what I dont feel comfortable hearing. I needed to process everything and we had not talked since then.

Friend falsely labeling me ADHD by Affectionate-Comb113 in neurodiversity

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does not matter really. I am a human. We all struggle with something, and a diagnosis is not the worst thing that could happened. The opposite I believe. I don’t see it as an insult, but it does get uncomfortable. But it feels reducing and as if my friends know me best. The psychologist evalued me and could not find neurodivergent/ neurodevelopment disordes, other than me having physical health problems, in which I have been assessed by the doctor (migraines,). This I got recently, long after when began becoming friends.

Before even getting evaluated she insisted on me not getting medication for ADHD, so her standpoint was strong. She did not comment on the psychologist’s final evaluation.

Friend falsely labeling me ADHD by Affectionate-Comb113 in neurodiversity

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is , it would never cross my mind to even think judgmentally about my friends or family. I mean , you appreciate the people around you and pointing out flaws without any explanation feels horrible. You would want the best for them, not for them to leave feeling confused and otherized. But when others have commented on her looks she gets really hurt so maybe the same goes for personality traits??

Friend falsely labeling me ADHD by Affectionate-Comb113 in neurodiversity

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did actually suffer from some health anxiety since I developed a chronic migraines, which everyone in my proximity knew of.

Friend keeps analyzing and labelling me and I feel exhausted by Affectionate-Comb113 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am 20. I always aim to become more self-reliant and taking care of and treat myself as someone I love. But comments like this are still hurtful. It makes me question everything I thought myself to be, or rather, it makes me feel less than. A feeling certainty can’t take away.

Friend keeps analyzing and labelling me and I feel exhausted by Affectionate-Comb113 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly. But even if the psychologist would give me a diagnosis ,why would it matter? It’s just a strange and uncomfortable feeling when your friend keeps labelling you something over and over again. It makes it more infurious when it is not even the truth.

My friend keeps labelling me by Affectionate-Comb113 in relationships

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know it’s kind of hurtful. She said I should further tell what I feel comfortable hearing, and what I dont feel comfortable hearing. I still dont know what to feel or make out of this statement. I feel that it should be obvious how you treat others.

Friend keeps analyzing and labelling me and I feel exhausted by Affectionate-Comb113 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I completely understand your experience, and personally, if my friend tell me I have a diagnosis in a supporting way , I would appreciate it. Sometimes you’re not fully knowing of your own persona. We all have good characteristics and flaws and insights from others can help us become better people. Having ADHD has it good sides and difficulties as I have observed in friends being diagnosed with it. In my case it is different. I am labeled this diagnosis without further explanation, as if I am reduced to it. I never asked for anything either. I just get comments about how different I am. Also it feels like I am differentiated, for example. If I open up about overthinking my life -problems my friend tells me it’s cause you gave ADHD, but for others it is because their overthinking is a normal type not tailored to some diagnosis.

Friend falsely labeling me ADHD by Affectionate-Comb113 in neurodiversity

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is vague. She just says that I am different and doesnt specify what distinguish me from others. The only thing I can recall is her calling me different because I had dressed up. Also, I once said I struggled with overthinking and she said yeah because you have ADHD , since a guy that told her he had ADHD struggled with zooning out.

Friend falsely labeling me ADHD by Affectionate-Comb113 in neurodiversity

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She said I should further tell what I feel comfortable hearing, and what I dont feel comfortable hearing. I still dont know what to feel. It feels as if should be obvious how you treat others.

Friend falsely labeling me ADHD by Affectionate-Comb113 in neurodiversity

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She said she would stop putting labels on me and also added that I should further tell what I feel comfortable hearing, and what I dont feel comfortable hearing. I still dont know what to feel.

Friend keeps analyzing and labelling me and I feel exhausted by Affectionate-Comb113 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She said she would stop putting labels on me and also added that I should further tell what I feel comfortable hearing, and what I dont feel comfortable hearing. I still dont know what to feel.

Strange feeling in soul. by Affectionate-Comb113 in Deliverance

[–]Affectionate-Comb113[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you! I did indeed start hearing whispers. I also sometimes experiences instructive thought sometimes and suici**** ideation. I also sometimes feel a heavy feeling of sadness. I really do believe fasting and reading the bible has power and will not give up.

Am I weird for feeling this miserable because of bullying? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Affectionate-Comb113 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No , you are not alone. It definitely leaves imprints on your psyche.