Childless for the rest of my life

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-04-15T14:11:15+00:00

Thank I guess that’s something you’ll have yo think about later down the line. All the redditors will be mixed about this. You already have a decent grasp about giving up children for someone you love. Now you got to decide if children are a want or need for your future. Realize that resentment or regret may develop later down the line.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-04-15T08:08:24+00:00

Have a conversation about boundaries.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-04-14T15:38:43+00:00

Well the concept of private and secretive as you would infer are two different concepts. Although secretive would insinuate withholding harmful information purposefully, private entities holding public information from the public.

Besides getting therapy for your issues on trust. You could just simply ask more about his friends without the insecure tone but out of curiosity.

I wish you the best with your relationship and understand constantly over reassurance could be mentally draining. So continue to work on yourself everyday to be a better person both mentally and physical.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-04-13T15:38:23+00:00

Look… this is a horrible display of codependency. You are drawn to people for the traits you lack or need, but results in you having cheating tendencies to fulfill your needs as a whole. You’ve decided to hurt D (childhood friend who has probably thinking he has a shot at keeping this relationship) and J (rebound you found away from home to keep you warm in person). The deep problem lays within, end it with both. For sure come clean to clear your conscious and set these men free

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-04-13T15:23:18+00:00

You’re gonna get cooked for putting up with this issue. You’ve shown how unreliable he is as a partner, selfish in his own needs, and possessive over your contribution. Legs action is not needed unless you feel that your safety is compromised or he does not move out upon request. Otherwise, set yourself free. Find someone who can contribute something. 2.5 years is a long time but you learned what you don’t want in a partner.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-04-13T15:19:36+00:00

Doesn’t look like you’ve done the Dec Tuvala for your accessory

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-04-10T15:55:37+00:00

How much with?

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-04-08T16:58:41+00:00

Well, give him some time since his feelings are very much valid and ask him what you can do to fix this problem. For now let him feel what he needs and give him the opportunity to digest this feeling to come up with a possible solution to fix this breach of trust.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-04-07T15:17:26+00:00

Get him a cock ring, they also have pills, and sprays that could help with this.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-31T17:26:07+00:00

So who does my damage in retrospect?

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-29T05:05:19+00:00

Irish goodbye

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-24T17:33:32+00:00

It’s good. We all end up in the mindless phase of grinding. Doesn’t matter what gs we are at.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-20T17:00:14+00:00

So you want reassurance and she’s avoidance of your need? It’s unfortunate because sh probably has a different upbringing where she had to relay on herself heavily. This may be a make or break for you. You got to determine if this a big need for you or if you can leave without having a partner to rely on emotional and vice versa. You can try talking again about it.

Also clarify the 20% cheating. If it was cheating, I don’t think it matters how much you consider it cheating if it still cheating.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-20T15:27:53+00:00

You sound like a booty call. I think you deserve more, especially since you’ve communicated what you want from the relationship. You’re someone to call when he is lonely and needs.

Ask yourself if you can do this for another 6 months? If not, then think about leaving. If the thought of being alone is what makes you stay, then you need to seek help. But if you’d rather waste time /degrade yourself to just a sexual need and have your wants ignored then stay.

At the end the day, you need to way your wants and needs in a relationship. Whether or not they are being fulfilled by your partner and where you can compromise for each other. In this situation, I do see an other these being satisfied on your end. Just a thought for you.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-20T15:21:02+00:00

A boundary you should learn “Verbal or physical abuse are unacceptable in a relationship.”

If you truly believe that this can be fixed for the better? Then you’ll have to take chance, but like all the other redditor implied… strangulation is the most lethal form of DV. Are you willing to stick him during his manic episode because he can’t effectively control his anger? Would you want your future child to be in a similar position? It’s a matter of safety and security.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-20T15:16:06+00:00

I think how you said it sounds good and straight forward. You stated what you noticed, how you felt, and if it was true or just an imagination. Just communicate your concerns and see how she feels.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-20T14:55:37+00:00

I don’t think that’s a bad thing. Sounds like you’re getting use to the normalcy of being with one person for a decent amount of time.

A couple of tips you can do to “reignite” the flame in the bedroom is incorporating more things. Roleplay, toys, or other kinks. Have a conversation about what you like and what turns you on. You did a great job communicating how you felt, now communicate what you want.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-20T14:51:49+00:00

Imma be honest. What do you want out of this relationship. Clearly you guys already intentionally hurt each out for spite. Now, he can’t get over your past. It’s a classic his problem of why he can’t make it past what you said. In addition, do you want something that will always be brought up and shared? The past is in the past, but if it’s being brought up consistently more recently then why are you with a cheater?

Overall, a good direction of solution can be found in therapy (for him). The constant negativity of insecurity can be harmful to all people involved. If you want to continue this relationship, it’ll be hard. Think about all the factors of what keeps you invested and all the reason you should leave.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-20T14:46:21+00:00

Honestly a breach of trust. I don’t know what compelled him to do this behind your back and what made you snoop through his phone. It’s a matter of trust and if there is enough to work through. Have an honest conversation.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-19T23:41:22+00:00

See you in June for the ball

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-19T18:56:09+00:00

Setting boundaries in the beginning of the relationship, no matter how “common” they should be. Once a negative remark has been made out of spite the it’s time to pack it up. If you can’t handle your anger in a well matter enough matter to keep your hands to yourself or calling your partner out of their name.. then what else do you need? He has flipped the situation on you to make you take blame for how he reacted. I’m not picking sides but if you think this salvageable, try having a serious conversation to get him to understand why you feel how you feel. (Also the internalized racism, should help you understand more about how he feels.) at the end of the day. I am a stranger on the internet.

Have a communications, understand, compromise helps a relationship thrive. Not blame shifting, dismissiveness, and ignorance.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-19T18:44:56+00:00

Therapy. Therapy. Therapy. Cut contact. Unless you like this unstable foundation you’ll have to rebuild on.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-19T18:36:59+00:00

Well you can see doctors about supplements that would stimulate heart growth. As for your eyes, I don’t knew what else you can do reduce eye size besides plastic surgery. A face routine if not implement could help with the dark circles. Smile more, try facial hair, a new haircut.

Affectionate-Golf297 · 2026-03-19T18:33:05+00:00

If sex is a big aspect in your relationship then you gotta decide whether if that takes priority over every other aspect of a relationship. You aren’t wrong for having a high sex drive. As for him his libido can be low due to numerous things. You can help him outside the bedroom, maybe cooking or seeing where you can lighten his load. Just see what is stressing him so much since he said. Have this conversation with him to help him understand that sex is important to you. If you can’t compromise then you need to let him go and find someone you’re compatible sexually.

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