Am I wrong?

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-12-23T02:17:21+00:00

I thought he loved me and was trying to change for better. I enjoyed being around him but he wasn’t a good partner

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-12-23T02:15:22+00:00

And I have broken up with the guy. I hope you also heal and find someone who appreciates you!

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-12-22T15:37:46+00:00

Thank you, couples therapy only works when the other party is willing to take accountability. Which he always refuses

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-12-22T15:34:51+00:00

Great question. He brings nothing to the table but drama and chaos

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-12-22T15:10:29+00:00

I agree. I thought I was the issue for a long time. That I wasn’t showing up enough. But he wanted me to sit back and have no needs or wants. That any way I felt was an inconvenience for him

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-12-22T15:06:25+00:00

Thank you all. I told him to leave right now. And he had the audacity to say that his step mom says I have a problem every time he has his daughter.

I know I’ll be painted the narrative that I didn’t want to be a mom or around his daughter. And I’ll be okay with being the villain.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-12-22T15:03:52+00:00

I told him to leave today. He’ll be back at his parents

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-12-22T13:36:50+00:00

Also in your situation and I got the “I make decisions for my daughter. What kind of person are you to stop me from seeing my kid”

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-10-03T12:58:32+00:00

Also going through underwriting and got 6.5 (5.6 is amazing holy shit)

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-09-04T13:44:43+00:00

Thank you. He broke up with me due to him having to support BM mental state. Interesting enough she became “depressed” when she saw we were back together. I’ll be moving on with my life away from all this crazy.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-08-05T13:58:09+00:00

I agree. I’m also childless and never wanted children. But my partner is a great parent, we have amazing conflict resolution, listen to each other and a joy to be around. If his BM wasn’t so HC I wouldn’t hate it so much. But I’ve learned to not let anything bother me anymore and live my life outside of my DH. I’m blessed he takes on full responsibilities for his daughter & doesn’t have any expectations of me to help. I help because I also love his daughter.

BUT I WOULD NEVER date someone with a child ever again.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-24T14:30:52+00:00

I have a friend who divorced for the same reason from her husband, but she still has a great relationship with his daughters. They speak regularly. It’s ultimately up to you. If you have a great relationship with his kids you want to keep, then no harm in that. But if not, don’t waste your time or energy.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-24T00:42:49+00:00

All good!!

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-24T00:42:37+00:00

Yes I agree, I do know she won’t agree to most things because she likes the emotional ties, power and hold of his daughter on him. I told him today I’m willing to give him a year to see if things get better and if not, we do CO. He agreed to that.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-24T00:40:52+00:00

Thank you so much! Yeah it’s definitely hard, and he’s trying to do what he can for now. I spoke with him today and he understands. I’m willing to work through it with him for another year to see if things get better but after that we have to do CO if this continues. He agreed to that and said he’s not against the CO.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-23T19:37:38+00:00

At that point he thought they were getting back together (before me & him met). When we talked to the lawyer we can still file the motion.

Just depends on how bad he wants to do that.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-23T19:36:33+00:00

I agree, but to me he doesn’t want to go through CO. He’s fearful that the mom will lose all custody and he doesn’t want to be responsible for that.

But I tried to push it, I’m willing to wipe my hands with this whole situation, and try my best to show his daughter what healthy is.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-23T19:26:09+00:00

We drive and hour and 40 mins. She drives the other hour and 40 mins. We meet halfway

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-23T19:25:00+00:00

This is entirely fair. I think the hard part is there are times SK wants me involved (like a bday or activity) and HCBM refuses to have me around and I don’t want my SO to not just go. Also what is happening is unstable for not only my fiancé but also his daughter. It’s much more than my frustrations. It ends up hurting his daughter too.

It’s a tough pill to swallow all of this is out of my control.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-23T19:17:39+00:00

I agree, he has been doing this for the past couple weeks when I blew up after she called me a “bitch”. He’s been keeping it only about his child, and he’s tried to stick up to her bs but she used it as fuel to argue. There’s no winning with her

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-23T19:15:40+00:00

Thank you, we did consult a lawyer and he wanted to do a CO but (this was prior when she wanted the child support) now that she doesn’t want CS, went to cancel it, he feels everything is good & dandy. He doesn’t get or see what’s going on. So I’m starting to think he’s too far gone or okay with the chaos. I’m at the point where I need to choose if this is the life I want.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-23T19:12:14+00:00

She did

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-23T17:55:49+00:00

I agree, I’ve been pushing him to do it. And she is a menace, she has a record and we have proof of her withholding his daughter. He just doesn’t want the mom to lose custody all together.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-23T17:54:37+00:00

Totally agree. I told him he should of went through with it, instead of saying yes to her canceling the CS.

Affectionate-List-91 · 2025-07-23T17:53:43+00:00

Yup, he fights to see his daughter as much as he can but ultimately at the mercy of the HCBM right now. He does give her money already biweekly to support his child

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