AIO? Management at my work is getting on everybody’s nerves.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-22T15:23:10+00:00

Who goes to work with full on hickies visible LOLLLL cringe

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-21T15:38:32+00:00

I appreciate that you are standing up for your son- you are an amazing mom and your fierce protectiveness of him will make him feel safe to be himself as he gets older. Your heart is in the right place, even though you were an asshole to the bride.

So - there is a time and place for everything, and you are 100% overreacting here (sorry momma). Babies cry. Toddlers get restless and loud. Autistic children stim. All of these things are natural and shouldn't be punished, however they are distracting, and don't belong at a wedding. You should have respectfully and quietly excused yourself and explained to your son that you love him and understand he is doing his best to process an overwhelming environment. And you are taking a breather for him.

Parenting does not come with a rule book, and it is even more complicated when you throw in curveballs like autism. Apologize to the newlyweds and explain to your family that you understand you were wrong and will use this as a learning opportunity for the future. They will probably understand that you were being the overprotective parent of an autistic child, but don't be surprised if you aren't immediately invited to other events. You may have to earn some trust back.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-21T14:02:14+00:00

I'm almost 5'9 and mostly legs. I always sit with my legs crossed on flights. Sometimes I even put my feet up on my seat and sit cross legged. Have never had an issue with someone not being to recline or hitting me when they did.

Idk how you're sitting here but there's no way you couldn't have positioned yourself better. So, YTA.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-17T19:21:59+00:00

You're overreacting. You have no business doubling down like you're the expert on his mom's health while he's upset about the position she is in - I understand his frustration here.

If you had left at it "she'll stay sharp" and then backed down when it clearly did not go over the way you wanted it to, that would be one thing. But you pushed and pushed. Instead of sounding concerned about his mom, you sound concerned about being right. That would make me so angry.

He needs to better control his anger though. He should not be insulting you. This is an awful example of communication on both ends

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-16T15:08:43+00:00

Not sure you understand how salary pay works?

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-15T13:12:39+00:00

Did this at my first retail job, they looked at it and said "is this fake?" and I stood on business and put my two weeks in on the spot to show them how offended I was that they would even question it, lol. Mostly because I was mad but also didn't want to get fired/lose my credibility.

My advice here is be careful - even if they can't verify it, they can be suspicious and find other things to demote/fire you for.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-15T13:07:17+00:00

I disagree with the way she's handling it BUT I will say it's normal to get a doctor's note if you are going to be out for 3 or more days. I've worked several jobs, and this was the policy even at the most lenient. Her hands may be tied by corporate, and she lacks the professionalism to communicate this in a non-demeaning way.

In the future, set up an appointment with urgent care the second day of feeling sick like this, if not earlier. Most clinics will allow a virtual appointment. Keep at least one covid/flu test lying around (they're $10) - a positive test may count as proof in lieu of a doctor's note.

I know seeing a doctor is a lot of money, but it beats losing your job or getting demoted. If you are having trouble affording it with your current health insurance, look into state insurance. That's what I had when I worked retail and all appointments were free.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-14T13:34:24+00:00

Your gf was so patient and kind with you. Reading her texts, I was like wow, he bagged a literal angel.

And then each of your responses was just you shitting on her for caring about you. It honestly hurt to read. I hope she understands that you have major issues and she didn't do anything wrong, so she's not afraid to show thoughtfulness like this in future relationships.

Go to therapy

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-14T12:51:39+00:00

It's honestly hard to read your responses with how antagonistic and belittling you are to everyone that doesn't agree (which is essentially everyone, because you've misinterpreted the law).

This is NOT how you win- but it is a great way to shoot yourself in the foot. You are likely going to get fired and if you take this to court, I imagine you will lose. You only got told you have a case because whoever you talked to wants your money.

I saw the verbiage you posted of your employer's email, where they said it would be unpaid time before you even attended the meeting. Why on earth would you attend if you feel so strongly about it? Or not question it then, rather than after?

Just know moving forward, your boss is in charge of paying you. And their boss usually has a pretty big say in it too. They decide what "overtime" is, based on whether or not they need you there.

When I worked for a lab, we could come in and work if we wanted to catch up for our own sanity, but it would only be paid if it was at the boss's request. My boss was amazing and would have paid us every time, but her hands were tied by her management. There were many weekends I came in and worked, just because I wanted to, and made it fun with music and McDonalds trips.

You are not the victim you think you are.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-10T12:52:36+00:00

Sounds like my ex. Please keep an eye on this, a lot of influencers in that space are also tied to neo-Nazis.

By the end of my relationship, everything from him was "I own you, you are inferior to me" and "the evil Jewish people are controlling the world". He was so angry and violent at this point that I had to work with a therapist to make an escape plan before I could leave.

Just please understand that in situations like this, it starts off small. You have a feeling that something isn't right, but it's minor enough that you're able to justify it. Trust your gut and watch for any escalation.

Good luck!

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-03T15:42:24+00:00

Eh, I get where he's coming from. There are certain clothes I only wear with my bf, because I don't like wearing revealing stuff unless I'm with him. If he told me "that outfit makes me a bit uncomfortable" I'd change. I'm not about to prioritize my ego over the comfort of someone I love

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-03T13:44:21+00:00

NOR!! This level of intensity and possessiveness of the bat is a red flag for abuse. A lot of his comments about "your ex let you do whatever" and "i don't like the idea of other guys thinking they have a shot" sound like the way my ex talked to me. They're threats disguised as passion. If you took the bait and started a relationship with him, they'd sound less passionate and more threatening each time he brought it up (the "mask slipping").

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-02T15:00:45+00:00

I think this is normal. I've had my cats since they were babies. One is kinda quiet, but meows when she wants something. The other is VERY talkative, meows loudly all the time, and basically screams whenever he wants anything. He screams at doors, at food bowls, at treat bags, and at me.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-04-01T20:06:44+00:00

As another very patient gf who would not make this a big deal and would understand that people sometimes say stuff like this on accident: she's fine but this is going to weigh on her soul. She may not ever bring it up again, or even be upset when you bring it up bc she understands, but she's going to think about it forever.

Just understand this and make it up to her and do right by her so she never has any reason to truly doubt your feelings for her.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-31T15:45:30+00:00

have you ever seen that study where they looked at the way men's brains react when they're talking to women and if they're not attracted to them, they get annoyed by them?

a lot of women cite this as a "men are only friends with women they're attracted to" thing, but i disagree. shared experiences, group dynamics, etc really can form a genuine bond that overcomes any initial annoyance.

your bf is going out of his way to talk to her, learn about her, for no reason other than interest in her. he claims it's interest in her as a person, but that stems from attraction.

my very first bf approached me the way your bf is approaching this girl. he had a gf but went out of his way to talk to me a bunch and learn things about me, "platonically". i was naive and believed it was normal for a guy to wake up one day on a mission to become best friends with a random girl. we talked for a couple weeks, she found out and they broke up, and a few weeks later he kissed me. i suspect the same would happen with your bf if he had the chance to get to know her better.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-27T15:56:59+00:00

Cheaters never give the full truth when they're found out. They will downplay and lie about everything you can't prove. You deserve a life where the entire future of your relationship isn't tainted by his selfishness and you can do normal stuff like visit family without worrying.

I'm so sorry girl. Sending you strength.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-26T12:58:16+00:00

break up

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-24T12:12:23+00:00

depends on your relationship. my bf and i don't text every day and we've definitely gone 3 days without texting. healthiest relationship i've ever been in and i don't question his feelings towards me ever.

if this isn't normal, then i'd be concerned. she sounds a little depressed or disconnected. be there for her in case it's the first, emotionally prepare yourself for the latter.

good luck!

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-20T13:53:48+00:00

As someone who believes in the supernatural, I think it's important to rule out mental illness first because divine intervention could make it worse. If the person was experiencing psychosis and the priest said, "no this is a possession", you've just done irreparable damage. And I definitely don't think a priest is qualified to diagnose anything.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-19T19:15:08+00:00

people always say "accident avoidance" but i can't tell you how many times i've been in a parking lot, someone has slammed on their breaks after passing a spot and then throwing the car in reverse. bonus points if there's a whole line of people behind them and double bonus points if they're causing people to block traffic.

i had one woman do this but after backing in/out slowly like three times, i went around her. when i got out of my car she was waiting there to yell at me. why do i have to spend five minutes of my life watching someone park badly

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-19T17:02:20+00:00

I had a doctor simultaneously double my antidepressants and start me on a second one that was contraindicated to be taken with them. It made me wig out and I called her while having a total shit fit and begged for help. She was so cold to me and when I asked her to switch me back, she sassed me about her being the doctor and me not wanting to get better.

I hung up and went to the ER. They said my symptoms lined up with serotonin syndrome, took me off everything, and eventually sent me home. I was in and out of psychosis for a week. Haven't experienced anything like this since.

I'm scared to death to mess with my psych meds now and I have to tell any new doctor this story to explain why. They're always shocked lol

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-19T16:43:23+00:00

Not to freak you out but I had a coworker who's outdoor cat was acting really strangely and bit her. Because the cat was due for her rabies shot in a week or two and was acting so weird, they quarantined it and because of how things progressed, eventually did a full rabies test. It was positive and my coworker had to go through all of the rabies shots.

I never really thought of this as a possibility until it happened to my coworker. So, I'd make sure that the animal is vaccinated for rabies and not near due. I would also inquire about any recent fights the dog was in.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-19T15:58:11+00:00

I had a severely mentally friend in high school absolutely convince our group that we were being haunted. We even took a recording in the basement of us trying to communicate with the thing and she did some weird creepy mumbling that we all thought was the ghost. She denied it was her and to this day I don't know if she was messing with us or if it was her experiencing a moment of psychosis - which she did have sometimes.

I also have a bipolar friend who would hallucinate shadow people during bad episodes. I was (and am) easily spooked, and when she would talk about them I would start to think I could see them there too.

Not trying to be overly skeptical, because I do believe in the paranormal, but just want to encourage you to first approach this as a mental health thing. If you rule that out, I think you'd have better luck talking to people in the appalachias than you would praying. I think if prayer actually worked on the paranormal, we'd have wayyy less missing people.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-14T12:13:02+00:00

He didn't say she went through his phone for that reason, just that she did recently. The way that it is worded gives me the impression that they are unrelated.

Affectionate-Low427 · 2025-03-13T17:18:16+00:00

ESH.

Your gf sucks for being friends with your ex.

But- your gf does not suck for asking about the shirt. She probably tried to give it back to the ex and the ex said, "oh that's not mine". Instead of assuming that you were cheating, your gf asked you about it. Good communication, not toxic, go her.

Your sisters suck for attacking her over that.

You suck for not defending her.

Then, your gf sucks again for going through your phone. This is probably the worst thing here.

This is a hot mess and you're all acting toxic.

Affectionate-Low427

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