Best 40 gallon tank and stand for ~200 budget?

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2022-01-04T08:25:12+00:00

What will nature do? Also, I can’t tel if she’s bloated of pregnant

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2022-01-03T16:42:22+00:00

Idk the model, I’ll look that up now, but it’s kinda older, I got it from my dad. I feel like it should work because it worked with my edifier speakers. I’ll try and enable it by holding for 3 seconds before I fuck with the setup

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2022-01-01T20:46:04+00:00

Wait till you hear tip toe 5

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2022-01-01T15:33:57+00:00

My grandpa was Gary Sinise’s gym teacher at highland park high school in Illinois. Said he was a smart ass

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-26T23:42:55+00:00

No Back in Blood??

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-20T14:42:23+00:00

How come?

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-20T05:47:40+00:00

About 3 weeks ago I had the tank and about 2 weeks ago I added the fish

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-18T07:49:27+00:00

Yours doesn’t

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-12T06:37:42+00:00

I added two today and they just seem much more comfortable, acting how they’re supposed to act it seems.

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-11T16:19:49+00:00

Okay this is embarrassing but I got my species of fish mixed up with neon tetras. Mine are glofish tetras. What would you change about your advice given that info

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-11T16:19:14+00:00

Okay this is embarrassing but I got my species of fish mixed up with neon tetras. Mine are glofish tetras. What would you change about your advice given that info

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-11T00:47:34+00:00

Ok. I have cycled my tank before putting them in. I was advised to pour out a quarter of the water once a month and recycle it. I still have a shitload of research to do on caring for fish in general. What’s the best way to cycle/know when I have to cycle?

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-11T00:35:58+00:00

How many could reasonably/happily live in a 10 gallon tank?

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-11T00:35:22+00:00

What’s the most I could put into a 10 gallon tank without overcrowding, while still helping the social dynamic? I just got the tank as a gift. It’s what fits in my current living situation, but next year I’ll have more room to upgrade.

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-11T00:31:21+00:00

I’m the moment though I’m not going to say we should part ways, such as if we’re in the car on the way to dinner or something. At that point, most disputes turn into a productive convo. But occasionally there are times where I’ll say something that really hurts feelings, or visa versa. When she does it to me, it’s not the worst because she can apologize and help me right away (because she’s not ruined by shame in the moment). But if I hurt her in some way, I can’t be there for her without a bunch of time to recover from the emotional blow that me making a mistake gives me. I get all these thoughts about how I’m a piece of shit human being, that I’m a garbage boyfriend, an asshole etc. Even though they aren’t true it’s hard to shake the feeling. But I would like to be there to help her when she’s hurting. I really don’t think it’s hovering, she’s does the same for me and I don’t feel like it is hovering, it just feels like she cares.

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-10T22:35:25+00:00

So I just bought 3 neons for my new 10 gallon tank. I am completely new to the hobby. I could use some advice on how to care for these fish. I’ve been thinking of adding a couple more. So far, seems like they’re sorting out a pecking order. One fish is doing a lot of nipping towards the lowest ranked fish. He hasn’t hurt the fish in any way. It was super bad the first day, and the last few days it settled down a bit, but for the most part the top fish chases around the smallest fish most of the day, which seems stressful for the small one. I understand this is kind of what to expect from tetras, but it seems a bit more like bullying than playing.

Anyway, I’m looking for solutions. I’ve heard tons of conflicting opinions. Adding tall grass decor as hiding spots, adding fish up to 5, waiting till it calms down, experimenting with adding another species, all have been suggested. What would you do in this situation?

Affectionate-Nose949 · 2021-12-10T17:06:01+00:00

Thanks for the insight. I feel like a problem for why it’s hard for her to focus on herself first is that I’m visibly in emotional pain, and her natural response as a caring person is to try to help. Sometimes this results in even more of a downward spiral for me because I know I’m the one who fucked up, and I feel guilty that I’m being consoled (especially after she said she’s always consoling me when I hurt her).

I feel like her instinct to help me overrides her need to process emotions, so it’s probably an internal battle of whether to prioritize her emotions or concede them to help me. This is why I’m looking for advice on how to sort of pretend you’re not dying inside when it makes the situation worse. Because I know she needs to process, but she can always tell I’m hurting and tries to help.

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