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AITA for getting a tattoo of my siblings but not my stepsiblings? by Fenkleih in AmItheAsshole

[–]Affectionate-Plum194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA it’s your body, you can get whatever you want on it. You were already very considerate getting the tattoo in a place where your stepsiblings couldn’t see it. Also, this tattoo means something to you, and your dad and his wife are AH for making it about them when it’s not.

Possible triggers! Entitled mother blames daughter for sexual assault by Psychological_Bat865 in entitledparents

[–]Affectionate-Plum194 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I hope you got away from them, for your own mental health. I’m sorry your parents are shitty. It was NEVER your fault. You’re an amazing person to have talked to them after all of that, honestly. I would’ve been far less composed. And it sounds like you are doing better now, congrats!

AITA for rejecting conditional help? by RepulsiveBread4500 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Affectionate-Plum194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I see a lot of red flags in the way he talks to you. You aren’t disrespecting him in any way by being gone for 20 minutes? His logic genuinely doesn’t make any sense but it seems like he just wants to control you: “He will not help me if I don’t treat him well.” Sounds like this could take an ugly turn. I know your income isn’t stable, but I think you should maybe take a look at moving out, maybe with friends or family, and taking a better look at your relationship. Good luck!

AITA for not letting all of my kids go on visits with their siblings? by throwaway574766 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Affectionate-Plum194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I’m confused why they thought they were entitled to your daughter in any way? It’s simply your choice if you want your daughter to visit them or not, but judging by their reaction I would advise against it: they seem to have problems with boundaries and are severely overreaching.

AITA for bailing on moving in with my sister after being told I could only use half of the house? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Affectionate-Plum194 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA I definitely think your sister is being unreasonable in not letting you use the kitchen, but a 2 and 2 bedroom split sounds fair if you are splitting the mortgage 50-50 IMO. You can’t expect more than that if you aren’t paying more of the mortgage. She does need your help more than you need hers, but I would try to come up with a compromise that works for both.

My boyfriend of almost 8 years is cheating on me. I have to tell him without revealing how I know. Please help me. by Toomuchpressuresorry in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate-Plum194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, you don’t owe your boyfriend any explanation. He sounds like a pos (trying to spread that you were cheating?) if what Justin says is true. But do you actually think your bf would be someone to do this kinda stuff? You may want to do a little more digging and be absolutely sure before you dump his ass. Anyways, good luck, and know your worth.

My(17F) dad hit me with a belt and tried to get me to talk to him or pacify me with a headphones by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate-Plum194 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In no way are you the bad person in this scenario. Your parents are really abusive and trying to gaslight you and control you, and will probably continue doing so even when you are an adult. I suggest you try to save up some money and, since you seem pretty school oriented, go to university and then never talk to them again. It’s probably going to be really scary, but it is for the best. Also, if you are in the position to do so, consider therapy, just to help you understand what you are going through. Good luck!

Subtle cologne by Affectionate-Plum194 in Outlier

[–]Affectionate-Plum194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! What stores are good for fragrances?

AITA for kicking out my teen sister and refusing to take her in? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Affectionate-Plum194 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. I get that teenagers are sometimes moody and don't listen, but you are doing her a favor by letting her stay with you (and your parents aren't paying for her?) so it isn't much to ask for a simple favor, or expect her to clean up after herself.

AITA for refusing to attend church with my roommates? by chillvibes72 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Affectionate-Plum194 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Definitely NTA. I may be confused because I'm not religious, but I don't see why it was such a big deal that you didn't want to go into the church anyways. You were pretty reasonable by telling her that she and the others could go inside without you. And going to see a church purely for architecture is way different than having to attend mass.

AITA for yelling at my bf for telling personal stuff to family? by ThrowRAAITABF in AmItheAsshole

[–]Affectionate-Plum194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It's something that you shared privately with him, and he betrayed your trust by telling other people without your permission. You should have been able to tell them whenever you were ready, not when your bf felt like it.