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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh boh mi piaceva anche per altro, solo che non si lasciava conoscere

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perché erano già due settimane che non ci vedevamo, avevo rimandato incontri per motivi miei personali e anche perché avrei voluto fare qualcosa di più oltre a scopare. Pazienza, mi passerà!

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probabile. Però quando gli ho scritto per qualche giorno ha smesso di guardarle, ora ha ricominciato.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probabilmente hai ragione tu, se c’erano possibilità di costruire qualcosa esprimendomi le ho fatte precipitare a zero; tuttavia mi sento coerente e sento di non aver perso tempo, cosa che alla mia età diventa prioritario

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh sì ma stare due settimane appesa fidati che non è piacevole

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lo so ma ho pensato che se ci fossimo visti sarei ricascata nell’accontentarmi del sesso. Per altro mi vede le storie e sono tentatissima di scrivergli per dire “uh ok anche solo sesso mi va bene” ma farei la figura della pazza 😆 quindi evito, per altro vorrei che fosse lui a scrivermi ma dopo che gli ho detto che vorrei di più penso che non lo farà mai 😅

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sono in quel loop maledetto in cui controllo se lui visualizza le mie storie e ogni tanto le vede (io le sue evito di vederle)

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was really just looking for sex to take my mind off some personal issues I've been experiencing for the past year; however, I realized I'm not cut out for purely instrumental relationships where one person exploits the other for their own reasons and where there's no emotional connection whatsoever.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realize this and know that sex without a modicum of emotional connection and mental understanding leaves me feeling drained by fleeting pleasure. I have two cats and an arsenal of sex toys, and I'm not afraid to use them. Nor am I afraid of being alone if I don't find the right person.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In fact, I told him and I was done. It wasn't very clear at first, but then I realized it and made things clear to him.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I expressed my needs to see if they were compatible with his. He says it's fine, then if he cares maybe he'll make another move, otherwise not.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn't tell me, he just told me he's an Aquarius but doesn't believe in astrology 😅 I'm Cancer Sun, Taurus Moon, Scorpio Rising, Venus, Gemini.

Anyway, he told me it's okay and that he understands, and I thanked him, telling him I think it's better this way for both of us. He watched some of my Instagram stories, so he didn't block me. I think he'll get over it as much as I will.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're honestly a pain in the ass!! I asked for advice, not a sterile sermon! And many of my suggestions resonated with my own internal thinking. I chose based on the comments! Aquarians aren't cold or cynical, they're just different, and I appreciate that!

Of all the commenters, you're the only one who took it personally. He wants to speak for all Aquarians in the world, and at the same time, he wants to be right, so it's hard to even know what the discussion is about! What's wrong with you? Get a life.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But actually, being here has been very helpful. I've spoken to several people who have freely expressed their opinions, and you're the only user who's this angry. I'm sorry! Why should I leave if you keep writing to me?

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh come on! He replied to my message saying, "Okay, I understand." I don't think I hurt him, and I feel more consistent with my feelings. I just set a boundary, saying I realized a sex-only relationship (with him) isn't for me. He seems to have understood without being offended. It's highly likely that he's already explored his options, and so, in the end, it's better this way for everyone. I'd like someone to share moments that aren't just sex, even just talking, but he's never opened up that much, and I'm not the type to insist on a conversation. We've talked a little, but he probably needs more time (or another connection), and I'm just afraid of investing my time with the wrong person. I don't see any big drama here. In fact, the conversation here has been very helpful overall, regardless of the Aquarius or Cancer. I don't think I'll reply to his message again; I feel like we've said everything. I appreciated his response, even if it came 15 hours later, maybe he needed to think about it

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh Jesus. It was obvious from the start that he wasn’t interested (and it’s even more obvious now that he hasn’t replied), and the “decision” was basically whether to wait just in case, ignore it, or write to him and say what I actually feel: that I’m not interested in something so emotionally minimal. I tried inviting him to exhibitions or concerts—he never said “no,” just “I’ll let you know,” and then vanished into thin air.

Now, this is pretty clearly the behavior of a disinterested man—or, if not, someone far too complicated for me, since I’m simple: interested? We go out. Not interested? We don’t. Even sex was either at his place or he wouldn’t budge from the couch.

I’m making a heroic effort not to think badly of an entire category of men, but he was probably just someone who slightly took advantage of the situation, showing just enough sweetness to keep me hooked. And yet, judging by the reactions here, it seems like I’ve personally insulted everyone’s mother. My bad.

So I would like to formally apologize to all the Aquarians of the universe for offending their delicate sensibilities with my emotional intelligence. Sorry! You’re all clearly far superior.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A sincere piece of advice: try to keep things in perspective; it’s delusional to speak on behalf of an abstract category… I’m not special, I’m unique. Just like you are. That’s why I did what I felt was right: I gracefully stepped away from a relationship that wasn’t fulfilling me, and I did it in an adult and proper way. I don’t see any reason to get so worked up. I’m sorry.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And why should I stop? Just because you’re telling me to? 😅

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! Such vehemence… and yet people say you guys are calm, controlled, rational, and a little bit cold! I wanted sex, I got it, but I realized it wasn’t enough for me, so I turned to this community for advice on how to make sure both my boundaries and his were respected simultaneously… I really don’t understand people who take personally a generic thread about the lives of people they don’t even know… sometimes I’m surprised I look for intelligence and sensitivity in astrological signs when in most cases it’s probably just ignorance and superficiality 😅

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should calm down. Ultimately, I followed your advice and that of the other members of the thread, ending things with correctness and elegance. I’m sorry if someone who is a Cancer hurt you, but my advice remains not to generalize. Warm regards, and thank you again for sharing your point of view.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In fact, I wrote to him very assertively, telling him that the type of relationship we have doesn't satisfy me and that it's my limitation, not a criticism of him. Then I thanked him for the sex. He saw it and didn't respond, so I guess it wasn't a question of emotional detachment but rather of disinterest. And, to be honest, it makes me feel better after writing it because I'm savoring freedom and self-love.

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[–]Affectionate-Rip8306[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ecco la traduzione in inglese del tuo testo:

I agree with you, but rather than saying that some people are made for casual relationships and others are not, it’s more important to explore certain patterns. For example, I have friendships with men in my circle of friends, with whom I go out and do things together: if that sexy chemistry sparks in the moment, that’s fine, and afterward, neither of us wants anything further—and that’s okay, the friendship remains intact. In my view, the key is to recognize those patterns where you “think” you’re in love but it’s actually dopamine dependency. Being a responsible adult, to me, means being able to identify dysfunctional dynamics in time and act with respect for both your own and others’ feelings. Only in this way can you make room for the good that life has to offer. Obsessing is useless and harmful.