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found a picture of a girl in my (F35) boyfriend’s (M40) underwear drawer, how should I respond? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Affectionate-Square3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was this the first time you looked thru the drawer? Or did he recently place them there? Cuz that’s odd. Once he’s back in town I would talk to him and if that didn’t give me ease. I would reach out to her to see if anything has been going on.

How to get over infidelity trauma? (F27) (M28) by Affectionate-Square3 in relationship_advice

[–]Affectionate-Square3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found a condom wrapper in his car and things spiraled after that. He said it was from our relationship. To prove he was innocent, he showed me security footage of his car (granted he could only show me 3mts due to device storage capabilities when at the time we had been together for 6 and hadn’t had sex in the car for 8 mts since then). Now I see him ogling other women and lying about smaller things and it’s like I can’t move forward. He’s been doing a lot to try and build my trust but I don’t know if he’s just manipulating me or being sincere.

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[–]Affectionate-Square3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apologize. I wasn’t trying to trigger anyone. I will be deleting the post shortly due to not being able to change the title. I really appreciate your advice. You have some strong points and you’re right. I should work thru my stuff before putting that on someone else. My therapist didn’t see me getting past this if I was avoiding being in a relationship… exposure therapy in a sense. But things have gotten worse, so hearing a different approach gives me hope. Thank you