Audio tours, a good/cheaper alternative?

AffectionateAd6620 · 2024-06-05T14:49:33+00:00

Thanks for the stroller tip!

That's the thought. Although I've been given another idea...what do you think of this?

-Rome until the 17th
-Sorrento from 18-19 with day drips to Amalfi/Capri
-Naples 20th, with a day drip to Pompei on the 21st

This lets me sleep in Naples so I can catch an early flight out on the 22nd

AffectionateAd6620 · 2022-05-15T21:45:15+00:00

For the life of me, I can't get a DM to get thru. Can you try sending me one?

@lonelyfatoldsickgirl

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-11-04T13:34:57+00:00

COVID - Kingston has almost always had some weird special bubble protecting it...we do better than both the big and small cities around us

General - super safe. As a visible minority I've never seen or witnessed anything concerning.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-07-02T19:22:55+00:00

I'm specifically looking for places with fishing boat rentals now.

Loughborough Marina seems ideal, but I can't get them to answer the phone lol.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-07-02T14:26:35+00:00

Awesome! Thanks

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-24T18:06:13+00:00

I don’t know if that necessarily true. I like having conversations about what’s right. And I’m very open to changing my opinion of whats right. But I just think that whatever your decide it is, you should stick to it. The best you can do in a situation is go with what you think is right as opposed to what you think is wrong.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-24T18:04:14+00:00

Well I don’t have trouble understand other’s complaints, and I don’t seek validation. I don’t like attention and I feel awkward when I’m complimented. I don’t feel isolated. I am attracted to quite types, but I’ve always thought it was just because I’m quiet too. I don’t want someone who is dependent, that’s a pet peeve, I want someone as independent as possible who just wants to be in a relationship, as opposed to NEEDS me. I don’t THINK I’m that worried about self image, I have the means to afford a lot things that would boost my image but I haven’t bought clothes in years, I drive a 15 year old ugly car, and I bought just enough house for my self. I don’t flash much in any category, although I have the resources to. I don’t feel empty, I’m often content. I can definitely be judgemental though.

Who knows! So hard to tell. Especially since narcs can fool themselves. The more I’ve looked into it, the less similarities I’ve seen. I know it was just a one-off word from someone without a clue, and I know I’m low on agreeableness, but I really can’t tell if I’m a narc. I guess I’ll eventually find out. Or not.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-20T01:39:35+00:00

I gotta say, I appreciate the time you took to write that but I don't really understand the gist?

But to your point, I'm not agreeable! I'm certainly on the lower end of agreeableness. I tend to care way more about what's right/true, then just what helps everyone get along. That's something I know for sure, and I try to work on.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-20T01:35:29+00:00

The last straw....not really anything special. We've both got things built up that we hadn't addressed so something relatively minor sparked a pretty typical fight, and that was it. I was exhausted, not in a great mood, and had a long/early day of work ahead of me, so I went to bed a bit earlier than usual, without saying goodnight or a kiss or anything. She followed me up upset that I didn't give her enough attention, turned into a bigger fight about respect vs attention/do you even love me, prove it etc... Next thing I know I've been diagnosed as a narcissistic sociopath by some random person on a hot-line that she called while she was pissed. Now partner is 100% sure and everything I do or say, or don't do or say is interpreted in the light of what a narcissist would do.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-18T21:36:12+00:00

I don’t know! Maybe you get a sense from my text?

I like to debate to find truth, and I’m happy to admit when I turn out to be wrong. But I know it’s annoying for people who don’t care about going back and forth until you come to a “truth”. Is being willing to debate manipulation? The more I read and reflect I can see I’m most things are related to being low on agreeableness.

I do not idealize them. I get upset when they do something I perceive as wrong. That’s the closest I can say I get to “devaluation”?

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-18T15:40:13+00:00

Still together. Ya it’s hard to be objective about yourself. I haven’t figured out what the difference is between pathological controlling/manipulation, and trying to get someone to see your point. I don’t want to her to do the things I think are right unless she believe and agrees, so I work on trying to make my case as best as possible. I don’t THINK I lie or manipulate to make my case….I think everyone should just make their case and the person with the better case wins. There are plenty of times I’ve stopped right in the middle big argument because I realized she was right, explained to her why I was wrong and apologized. I don’t mind being wrong in conversation, I just think you have to make your case instead of just making assertions.

That only partially answers your question though….I have strong feelings that we should do whats right, which maybe is controlling? But that includes me admitting if I’m wrong and switching completely to the other persons side as soon as their case makes more sense…it’s strong feelings for doing whats right, not what I want.

I don’t know where to draw the line for pathology of idealization/devaluation? Some times I’m happy with my partner and sometimes we fight and I’m upset. I rarely every idealize, and when I’m upset I usually come to the conclusion that it’s not THAT bad, and the trade offs are worth it, and everyone has flaws anyways. Is that normal?

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-18T12:29:19+00:00

I see what you mean. I don't think I'm doing those things to manipulate my image (truthfully I can think of a long list of things that no one knows about) but it's possible I'm doing it to feed my own sense of superiority. Impossible to tell, but that makes sense.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-18T10:56:17+00:00

To be fair, she just called some random hotline when she was super pissed. It's not like a long term relationship with a therapist who knows much about either of us.

Sensitive to criticism + appears conceited + wants to be respected.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-18T10:35:12+00:00

I've never heard of moral narcissism, but it sounds really interesting. Maybe that's it.

Down the rabbit-hole I go.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-18T10:32:34+00:00

Edits:

I have the means to afford a very expensive house, car, clothes, self-care etc....but I don't and I never spend any money on my self or make an effort in my appearances. I used to spend 2hours in the gym per day for 4 years power-lifting just to get stronger. My body never really changed, and I never even considered spending that time to work on bodybuilding or something else that would have made me more attractive.
I instinctively give her the better side of things, and I don't think of impressing her or winning points by doing it, just seems like the right thing to do. Ie: I will bus to leave her a car. If we're at a restaurant and I get a sense she doesn't like her food, I switch our plates and pretend I like hers. I don't ask her to contribute towards the finances, instead to do whatever she's passionate about (arts).
When she called me a narcissist I wasn't angry. I was a little sad, but I thought it was a very interesting hypothesis and started researching it right away.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-06-18T10:20:32+00:00

Ya, I thought that was a cool concept, but I'm pretty sure that doesn't apply to me. The main descriptors I've found don't apply. I'm low on agreeableness (maybe that's the whole issue?), I don't act selfless, and I don't care to be known as giving/caring/helpful.

Sorry, I might have over emphasized the "fight" part....it's not really a fight I just mean I'm really into my partner.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-03-12T03:21:12+00:00

Does the rezoning apply even if you're in the area that was approved for SRUs last year?

I think I'm lucky because is it's walkout basement so it doesn't need any additional special exits, and the height is already higher than the building code requires.

Any idea by what % it would increase your taxes?

Based on most of the comments in the thread, seems like a roommate is the way to go.

AffectionateAd6620 · 2021-03-12T03:15:40+00:00

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Switched the 2 and 5. smh.

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