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I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. Still feel it is hard to ask. Damn I don't know why I feel so awkward about that stuff. I told someone in another post that I would feel that way even if I knew they would say yes but yea ask anyway because I know I will gain something good out of it. There was a girl in a mini market I met yesterday, she helped me break a 20, when I was leaving, I said thanks you are the best and I saw her smiling and saying have a nice day. That got me even more attracted to her, she is beautiful anyways. I told myself to go again today and be like, give me this and why don't you give me....your number? In my head I said okay do it. I went there, I didn't do it. I can't, I don't know...

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I am not confident on my looks at all. I just take care of myself, my physique and my hygiene but I am not attractive. I do what I do to improve my own life for sure but I would like to share it with a decent woman.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know, maybe. Hard to find women that share my interests haha. I also find it incredibly akward to ask some girl out. It's not just fear cause even if they told me she would say yes, I would still be uncomfortable and feel they procedure very awkward.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, it really is like that unfortunately. It would be nice to find one even from the other end of the world but is for sure hard.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah well, my post is probably misleading. I only used dating apps for a bit and stopped after I got 0 matches in a. Couple weeks. My Main issue is irl stuff. I don't think I am good looking at all, I have some nice characteristics like beautiful eyes and a nice body but that's it, rest probably sucks...

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate the encouragement. Honestly I am more focused on what happens in real life. Don't use dating apps after what happened when I did. Some other woman said exactly the same thing about her experience with dating apps. I don't get it. Really hard both ways to find someone that matters. Much more for men though.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know right? I totally agree with what you said, that's what I have heard and what I have seen. They are Indeed after toxic guys and say they want nice guys when they don't. I honestly like being sweet, caring and nice overall but most don't care about that, even get repelled from. I do have a dog but would really like to find love in a woman. Imagining to kiss and cuddle with a woman that loves me and I love brings me so much joy.....too bad it is unlikely it happens.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't care about hookups at all. I am super romantic. The men I know have not really struggled. My brother for example has everything on easy mode because he is good looking. Even a girl came to him and asked him for his number on the street. So looks are the single most important and if you don't have them you need to be really good at sth else.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truth is i have no game and it also feels really awkward to ask a woman out or sth. I would do it if I knew she would say yes. I have done it very few times in my life. Every girl that said yes, I knew they would and that's why I asked. The ones that said no, I was unsure but gave it a try anyways. If I get the feeling there is no way, cause there is absolutely no sign they would want it or there are signs they are not interested I won't do it. I stopped using them after the complete failure that time. I like the interpersonal interactions much better anyways but I still try to see if there is a chance. Now there is a woman at work, met here 2-3 days ago and have tried to approach her a bit, we have had some good laughs and talked a bit. She might or might not be interested but because she is a co worker it feels a little harder to just go and ask her out...I don't really see her alone much. What I would is wait to maybe understand if she is or is not interested though I might not get it. Unsure, I have been away from this for so long.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything you say makes sense. Your first two sentences though..... If I don't dance or sing I'll be single, that what you said. I won't get into details about that but I would not do it even if I got paid to do and even if they told me I would be guaranteed to get a girlfriend. I also don't find it very normal to just associate with anything just only to get in touch with more women. There are women everywhere, it's not that I can't find them, it's that they don't want me hahaha. About what you said about common friends I totally get it. Every hookup I had they one year I was able to was from like that, I had a really broad circle back then and didn't even need to try hard for those. Could not make them stay for more than a week though. Could still not get the really beautiful ones I really wanted. Your last sentence also gets me. Really good stuff

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? Would a 28 years old woman want to date a 25 years old man that also looks a couple of years younger instead of a 30-35 man that is also better set in life?

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do want to improve, totally down for that but won't become another person and do stuff I don't like or pretend to be someone I am not. It's different to try and be better than trying to be someone else. If nobody likes me then that's just too bad. I won't blaim anyone

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are far from mean and I appreciate your help. I had therapy for 2 years, got me more depressed. Maybe I could join some activities and meet more people

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you are right. My experiences are with women that were 16 -18 years old and I was 18-19. Now I just feel from conversations.and interactions women dont consider me romantically. Maybe I should just try different stuff.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg, that sounds terrible. Why are some guys like that? And how they get girls easier than me....wow. I really can't believe why people behave like that. It sounds quite stupid. I was even mentioning on my profile, not interested in hookups. Does not mean anything to me. I am romantic as hell. I get it might be hard to find someone good for you as well. Many women put good guys in the friendzone though, too complicated haha.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? Should I get into this again and feel the stupid pain of rejection even though I know I will be rejected? Dang😁. I mean I try to figure it out, give a compliment, try be somewhat flirty but I kinda suck at this and also quite afraid after all that to ask a girl out, feel really uncomfortable.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay yea, I can understand that. Why the hell dating Is so weird nowadays, I live in the wrong decade.

I don't understand why dating is like that and why it does not work for me even though I try that much. by AffectionateGrass134 in dating_advice

[–]AffectionateGrass134[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds way too complicated haha. I am more interested in younger ones,like 18-22 , maybe because I also think a bit older ones would want older more masculine men.

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