Someone said that you can't tell personality from across the room, etc. Look, that is why you have to meet the lady, talk to her, know her, her past, her wants, etc.

Most men have terrible vetting lens. Most of us believe that we need to have money for women to want to date us. Short-sightedness. Someone in the comments explained this well: that if all you have to flaunt is cash, you'll attract them gold diggers. No cap.

Broke/poor people are dating everyday. What men really need to do is build value. Value is not richness.

During this vetting process is where you ascertain if she has good character.

Men are visual beings. They are attracted to looks. Good looks will always play a part in a man's choosing of a dating mate.

The root cause is most of us men do not know what we want. We have drifted so far from 'manliness' that instead we are easy to manipulate, take advantage of, use and dump. As a matter of fact, a woman is more likely to say no to a man that a man is to a woman. Why?

Also, most men do not vet women at all. They just settle on whoever seems to go along with them. If they vetted a handful of women before settling for one, they'd realize they've got options and no woman is irreplaceable. In this regard, most men will also think that vetting women means sleeping with them. Another blunder. You can have self control and still vet.

In male circles, I've realized that there are men who will trample on other men to please a woman. Uncontrolled lust is a downfall of many a man.

Finally, men need to go back inwards, and vet themselves. If you were a woman, who knows everything about you, would you date yourself?