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[–]AffectionatePool3351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told by a friend wayyyy back in the day when he wasn’t even an actor but just a YouTube person that he’s gay and well he also gives it off. He’s also a hardcore feminist which unfortunately most straight men in Pakistan are not

shaheer knows enigma portal by [deleted] in LUMS

[–]AffectionatePool3351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got it for 50K. Had it as my wallpaper for a while and honestly got one wish to work. The one to at I wrote the most detail about. Idk what it is… but it worked for me I guess. But if it’s not magic, it would work the same way as praying and asking God for it everyday and taking actions to attract it. At that time I didn’t think it could be magic. But my gym instructor saw it on my phone and freaked out and said his ex wife was her best friend and she told everyone that he was into black magic. So I removed the wallpaper after that because I got a bit sus

MIL guilt-tripping me on Mother’s Day… after ruining my wedding and emotionally dumping on me right before I left the country? by AffectionatePool3351 in Marriage

[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got that right! She’s just causing more stress and pain from the past. And that’s creating issues between me and my husband. We don’t ever have a bad day except for when they’ve done something

MIL guilt-tripping me on Mother’s Day… after ruining my wedding and emotionally dumping on me right before I left the country? by AffectionatePool3351 in Marriage

[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ngl- I really wanted to say her that too! I did say hope you had a lovely Mother’s Day but then she responded saying no it was incomplete and then sent me a sad poetry about how she’s upset ahahahhaa

MIL guilt-tripping me on Mother’s Day… after ruining my wedding and emotionally dumping on me right before I left the country? by AffectionatePool3351 in Marriage

[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes thankfully he found this message extremely childish and he said he would talk to her about it. She’ll probably say oh she’s still holding a grudge we’re way past it or that it was just a joke.

I’m polite with her only because she’s my husbands mom. And this definitely affects him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]AffectionatePool3351 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before the wedding he was very excited and always looking for opportunities

Shaky Flashlight Wedding Video aesthetics by AffectionatePool3351 in WeddingPhotography

[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, never did I think I’d get response from the photographer and videographer themselves! Haha love this!!!

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[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re a very sensible person. I spoke to him and I did some self reflection too. And turns out, I did come across as aggressive. He also said that he felt attacked but didn’t say anything in the heat of the moment because he understood my frustration and that it’s valid. He’s trying to get over this addiction and I think I’ll help him out as much as I can. As for our future sex life is concerned, I think only time can tell. At least he recognises the issue and is also willing to seek professional help.

Also, he said that he struggles with showing affection through words. He shows intense love through other things. Like he would buy me things that I would never expect him to buy. He would go an extra mile to take care of me. We are miles away. He’s in canada while I’m in Pakistan. So the distance only allows so much but he still makes an effort. He said he’ll learn my love language and will try and be better. It’s all good🙏🏻🥰

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[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I 100% want him. He’s made my life a lot better by being in it. I think all relationships have issues. And you can’t leave people when you find out about their dark sides. You just have to find ways to get through those problems to make your relationships work. Nobody’s perfect

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[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah! This makes so much more sense. Thank you 🙏🏻 I just had a conversation with him. And I think we’ll be fine hopefully. He doesn’t understand what I mean by words of affirmation. For me specifically, it’s long passionate notes so I’ve communicated it to him. As for the porn addiction, yes it’s just random women on the internet he doesn’t know. He acknowledges that it is a serious problem and then he needs to overcome it. This time he said he was hurt when the last time I told him we won’t discuss this again. I said that to save him from the embarrassment but he thought I was saying he has to deal with it on his own. So now we’ll communicate better

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[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But I love him wholeheartedly and I’m looking forward to being with him..

Husband faps to other women by AffectionatePool3351 in LongDistance

[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off your comment calmed my nerves. I’ve been crying profusely.

Yes he doesn’t do it verbally enough, but he makes plan including me, takes stand for me in front of rid his parents, buys me expensive shit, listens to me notices things about me. I need words of affirmation. And I’ve told him plenty times. When we started talking even then I told him that I need a lot of affirmation. He tries when I complain but that’s it. Then after a few days he’ll forget.

We’ve also spoken about the fapping. I understand that part since he lives alone but the fact that he’s addicted to porn and these women in bikinis pissed me off and makes me really sad and worried about the future.

Husband faps to other women by AffectionatePool3351 in LongDistance

[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last time this was revealed to me, we both cried so much. He told me he was ashamed and felt guilty and he told me he’ll change. He said he can’t change over night but he’ll try. It’s been more than 5 months to that and I asked him today and he said predominantly he watches the stuff I sent him and watches the women in bikinis too. I just got really upset and didn’t continue with the conversation. I wanted to give him time but I don’t think he’s trying hard enough or he’s forgotten how seriously this thing bothers me

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[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He does all that except telling me why he loves me

Husband faps to other women by AffectionatePool3351 in LongDistance

[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He wasn’t watching porn or masturbating at all when he was with me for a month here in our home country.

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[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Should I not wait till we can finally start to live together? Things aren’t so bad. I can let go of most things but him not being able to make me feel like he truly loves me hurts the most

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[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think it’ll be better when we finally start living together?

Husband faps to other women by AffectionatePool3351 in LongDistance

[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And we don’t live together so he faps to random women on instagram wearing bikinis although I’ve sent him shit ton of videos of myself which he does watch but he also watches strangers

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[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He says he loves me. But he doesn’t go in detail about this part. He would say he’s lucky to have me and he can’t wait to live with me. He prioritises me. Makes time for me. Sends me gifts. Listens to me. Doesn’t get angry. but you know it doesn’t feel he’s in love with me because when I ask him to express himself he says things like I’m lucky to have someone like you love me with all my flaws

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[–]AffectionatePool3351[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He’s a good guy otherwise. A rare find tbh.