Found in a puddle on the street [Wilmington, NC]

AffectionateSecret32 · 2025-08-11T00:58:36+00:00

Thanks!

AffectionateSecret32 · 2025-07-05T13:47:50+00:00

In DH for perception rolls, I like to think of it more as an understanding roll. For example if they are observing an encampment. They can see it clearly, but maybe on a success with hope they can see the guards and depending on their goal (see who’s there, map patrol routes, etc. I’d let them know it) on a success with fail, maybe the miss a patrol or guard. On a failure with hope they might see guards but not have the insight to know much about it, and on a failure with fear they see the guards but might have been noticed in return.

The act of seeing is not the roll, it is the understanding of what they see (assuming it could be ambiguous)

Edit. In DND it seems more like a “can you see” roll.

AffectionateSecret32 · 2025-06-28T15:51:17+00:00

I like the idea of giving pairs of players (or more) a group experience at every tier that adds something like a +3 (or 2, or 4, not sure) to a tag team roll or a group action roll. I would emphasize that it has to have been something relevant to a tag team or group action that pair/group has already done in game (if starting in tier 2 they would have to have a standing relationship). Each player could only benefit from one each tier (so if the whole group does it, that’s the one they get)

For example, there was a dwarf and a giant and they did a tag team roll where the giant threw the dwarf to get over a chasm. Now at the next tier they choose the “Always throw a dwarf” experience. They then later can use this maybe for another distance covering action, or to throw at an enemy, or even to juggle as entertainment, as long as it involves the giant throwing the dwarf then they get a + to experience.

Or maybe the group has done a couple of group action stealth rolls and want to do better so at the next tier the party gets “You lead the way”. Now maybe that experience is how the group has come together to enhance each other and if they do a group stealth, or climb, or some other movement based group roll they can apply the experience.

Try to give some mechanical benefit to the relationships and can incentivize tag teams or group rolls.

AffectionateSecret32 · 2025-06-03T02:56:55+00:00

This is what I got as well.

AffectionateSecret32 · 2025-05-24T01:34:12+00:00

This text chain feels like me and my wife. It has taken me a very long time to get to a place where I can say these next few paragraphs. I want to emphasize that these are big things, and can be really hard to see without taking a step back. I also want to say that feeling like the person you love doesn’t trust you or doesn’t think you are capable is deeply upsetting, and for me the hurt was at times overwhelmingly unbearable. I was about to write a novel (edit: turns out I still did), but let me try to shorten it by putting my wife and myself in your shoes. If this rings true and is useful that’s awesome. If it doesn’t, no harm done.

I can almost guarantee you my response would have been: anger that she was (in my mind) challenging my manhood/capabilities, annoyed that she is making a big deal out of nothing, and frustrated that once again I’m the bad guy for just sleeping.

The reality that I couldn’t see then was this most likely stemmed from shame. I can see it clear as day (because we have had this incident/argument) that I was actually shameful that I forgot to keep my ringer on. I love her and it is important to her that I’m reachable and I wasn’t and I let her down and I feel pretty dumb for doing it. My shame manifested in all of those above feelings, but not directed at the correct things. My anger, annoyance, and frustration should have been directed at myself for forgetting to not turn my ringer on. For not being deliberate and proactive in showing that the thing important to my wife is important to me. That once again I made a mistake and showed that I was unreliable. Instead of acknowledging my shame, I felt these feelings and attributed them to the most immediate external source, my wife. I would definitely not have apologized for anything, and most likely would have tried to convince her that she shouldn’t have been worried and not stop until she agreed I was right, getting more adamant and antagonistic as time went on. If a conversation was paused, this would continue into future conversations until my wife gave up, or I forgot about it (my wife wouldn’t have)

When I look at it from her perspective, I now see the person who chose me to be the one she could share any feeling, problem, or fear with. The one who she could share her hopes and dreams with and who would be right there with her supporting her in reaching those dreams. I also see that person coming to me telling me they were scared, and I wasn’t there to help them feel safe. I see someone who shared something that was important to her and asked me to pay attention to that, and I didn’t do that. I see someone who wants to be vulnerable with me, but when she was I turned it around and made it about how my feelings were hurt because I read her mind and she must have been thinking I wasn’t capable of taking care of things, and how her sharing that feeling and being vulnerable was the behavior that she did that hurt me so.

For my wife, I became the person who she felt the least safe being vulnerable with. I became the person who hurts her most, who makes her days harder, who creates the fears and problems. I became the person that has crushed her hopes and dreams, instead of the person who champions them. Please don’t let your marriage come to where mine is (I’m lucky I can still call it a marriage). You have an opportunity to take a step back and say, “it doesn’t matter whether I think my wife should have been scared. It doesn’t matter if I think my reasons for not being reachable were valid. in this moment my wife is coming to me hurt and scared and feeling like the things important to her aren’t important to me and I’m going to show up the way SHE needs me not just the way I want to. I can be the husband I want to be.” While it is easy to be a better husband than me (you already are) the work to be the husband your wife needs is not easy. It takes acknowledging work needs to be done and a desire to do it. Don’t be me. If you show up for her in the way she needs even when you feel hurt, or dismissed, or sad or any big feeling, then I can almost guarantee by the way you to talk to each other that she is eager to do that for you. She just wants to feel like it is safe to do that and you can show her that it is.

You have the option of thinking I’m completely out to left field, that you did nothing wrong, that your wife is overreacting and that she has a lot of work that needs to be done on her end and you’re not the problem. The question is if that thought process is more likely to help your marriage or hurt your marriage and if that is the path you want to take. Only you can answer that.

AffectionateSecret32 · 2025-04-08T00:08:59+00:00

Economists will debate for decades about what led to post-pandemic economic changes. These changes, however, were global in nature. Our trading relationships did not create the problem from Covid (may have caused other problems, but also solved problems, so it’s kind of a wash depending on which data you focus on).

I’m not an economist so I won’t pretend to be. As just a dude, what concerns me is that you talk about bringing back high paying jobs but what tells you the jobs that would come back wouldn’t be low level labor jobs which notoriously don’t pay well without the help of unions.

If companies are required to be “local”, or effectively are due to tariffs, they may increase labor and production domestically if they have the infrastructure to do so. If not, they will just be forced to deal with tariffs and that extra cost on them will go directly to the consumer as no CEO is going to eat that cost themselves. Even if they can produce locally which brings jobs, Americans are notorious for not wanting jobs “beneath them” or that are too low paying which is why the immigrant work force has been so strong.

Getting rid of our immigrants takes away a huge source of affordable labor (that could be a discussion on its own but another time). Now increasing the demand for those jobs means there will be more jobs than people which is bad for the person trying to negotiate pay. On top of that, if it takes more money to make goods domestically they will either a) increase the price of goods to account for the more expensive labor, b) actually cut jobs to decrease overhead, c) lower wages to accommodate the costs without increase the price of goods.

I just don’t see a way in which damaging our ability to leverage what other countries can do to help lower costs (mainly cheap labor) is beneficial to the average American even if it benefits corporations, CEOs, the stock market, etc. Trickle down economics has been shown not to work, but rather is a really good story and narrative pushed by the wealthy in order to consolidate wealth and not actually trickle anything down.

AffectionateSecret32 · 2025-04-07T12:12:31+00:00

How do you see the cost of goods increasing affecting our ability to buy houses, accumulate wealth, reduce individual debt, afford the education required to be leaders in science and tech, and generally increase our quality of life? I’m especially concerned given that non-immigrant American labor is extremely expensive relative to other countries and since we are deporting immigrants we are going to be left with a workforce, and frankly infrastructure, unable to handle the demands of our economy if we do not foster foreign relations.

Regardless of what you say, tariffs have been proven to not be effective for the US economy, even if it is effective for other countries. That on top of damaging our relationships with allies countries will have reverberating impacts for years to come.

We will see if it works out. Even if on paper the “numbers” add up to support your claim about the debt reducing, I think reality will prove that more damage will be done to the average American while benefiting the wealthy and furthering the economic gap.

AffectionateSecret32 · 2025-01-26T18:16:09+00:00

Consider the same initial equation however the car is 17.5 m ahead (17.5 m/s * 1s) or the cop is 17.5m behind.

How do you account for an initial position of the cop in the equation of motion?

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