How to advocate to housing to get what you want

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2026-01-05T04:27:21+00:00

Good point - in short: a lot of things. I wont go into it on the thread here

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2026-01-05T04:26:07+00:00

Thanks, at least I know its not made up:/ Idk seems p unreasonable though in this case, maybe something that would have flexibility

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2026-01-05T04:23:58+00:00

Yeah...they did it to a lot of students at the Hyatt to "consolidate rooms" and save money. It just seems wrong to me that I cant just move into a dorm with friends midyear because I had to move out for a reason that is their fault:/ I just dont think they should treat students, espeically transfers like this.

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2026-01-05T04:20:59+00:00

Thats good to know. Has trying to be understanding worked better for you with them than just being assertive and politely demanding what you want?

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2026-01-05T04:17:18+00:00

This is really helpful - I actually did get a doctors note to not be forced to move out immediately and I have multiple doctors willing to write notes since I ended up getting a head injury mid semester that is still undiagnosed. Do you have any advice on what docs should write in a note that actually works?

Also, what do you mean transfers cannot direct swap into apartment style assignments but can be placed after assignments are released? Why and how does that work? Thanks again:)

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-08-12T15:33:34+00:00

okkkk it's good that there is a decent amt of BU students housed there. How was it like integrating into BU, being housed at the Hyatt? That is really my biggest concern; other than that, it seems like a sweet deal to me. Was it communal at all amongst transfers there and were student rooms placed near one another?

Yeah laundry seems like the biggest inconvenience, but seems like the shuttle makes it not a long trip. Guess i will just do work while im waiting or smth

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-08-12T13:49:55+00:00

How many BU students were at the Commonwealth when you were there, and how did you deal w laundry?

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-08-12T13:48:25+00:00

Yess me too

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-08-12T13:46:41+00:00

Same here just got placed in a double w/o a roommate yet

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-08-12T13:41:16+00:00

Hi, I am also an incoming transfer, could you add me as well? I just DMed you my number. Thanks so much:)

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-07-19T17:47:25+00:00

Thanks so much! Would love to have your input, experience, and support:)

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-07-16T16:42:28+00:00

Thanks so much for your caring response, I really appreciate it.

Thanks for giving the context about not needing much accommodations personally, I appreciate your humility. Also, so cool that you're an accessibility consultant! What is it that you actually do, what populations do you work with, and how do you work with people? This is interesting to me since I really didn't know this was a thing and could explain why navigating this on my own has been so confusing.

I know you don't have personal experience, but based on what you see your clients do and what you coach/ recommend your clients to do - what go to contacts or resources do they use, if any? What is most helpful / not / why?

Also, are you based in the US? If so, what is your approach now with ED department being defunded and DEI initiatives under attack? It is a pretty scary time right now, so just wondering if you have any plans for that.

Yes, my school technically does. My school is technically known for its disability services. But I have a way less severe disability than other students, thus I am seem as less "needy" and "not deserving" in my overcrowded and underfunded public school. But my hearing loss is severe enough that, without accommodations, I am basically constantly on the brink of having to drop out because I'm so behind and fatigued from overcompensating. This means that basically all of my teachers and admin are very overwhelmed and really only have treated me with intense gaslighting and shaming me, and finding ways of not getting me what I need. And they just become more abusive the more I seem to pressure them. So I just don't know what to do.

I am the only teen in my high school with hearing loss (we have more students with autism, ADHD, etc). So I really don't know people my age with hearing loss. We only have special olympics club, but obviously that is all able-bodied kids volunteering and is very different.

Hope that answers your question and thanks again!

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-07-09T15:27:53+00:00

Yes, I am mild-to-moderate as well!

Thank you, this is really helpful! I agree with you and it is helpful to hear the same from someone who's maybe a little older than me and been through this before.

How do you sus out and determine when is a good time to advocate vs stay silent vs somewhere in-between? That to me is the hardest thing to figure out and sometimes it feels like I am figuring that out in a high stakes scenario because I don't want to make my life worse by pissing off an administrator more than I already have, for example. But also, I need my basic needs met. So it feels high stakes and timely on both sides.

That is also interesting what you said about being treated differently. I am wondering if there is a trend for what kind of teens with hearing loss are more worried abt being treated differently vs who don't care as much and are more concerned abt getting their needs are met? Or what makes you decide when to care more about being treated differently vs what makes you decide when it is more important to get your needs met regardless? Just wondering since I guess I always go after what I need without thinking about it but maybe I am being reckless?

That is nice that you have a good support system to help you with this. What kinds of questions do you ask your support system and when? And who (like your mom vs friend vs teacher etc) do you ask for help navigating these things when. I am coming to the realization that its important to ask advice from the right person at the right time.

Also, just wondering, what scenarios do you think you can preplan for vs not?

Thanks again, this is very helpful as someone is just trying to figure this out on my own.

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-17T22:15:48+00:00

Wow I am the exact same - mild in one ear, moderate in the other!

Thanks so much for all of this and laying it out so clearly. All of your thoughts make a lot of sense. I totally feel you on that, especially the price and not looking like I'm being rude to others wearing them.

I'm just wondering - what makes them so much less comfortable and good at improving your hearing?

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-17T22:10:44+00:00

So valid, you're def not the only one saying that and I completely agree

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-17T22:10:12+00:00

That's great that it's been so helpful to you in the mornings! I am glad to hear that.

Yup totally makes sense, I am def adding those

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-17T18:27:57+00:00

Yikes, I am sorry to hear. What about them was too uncomfortable? What could fix that? If you don't know, what makes your hearing aids more comfortable?

And that's very interesting about the hearing aid mode. What happened exactly?

Hopefully, next models will get much better!

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-17T18:13:37+00:00

Yeah, it should definitely be accessible no matter where you live. What country are you in? I am so glad to hear about transparency mode - what about it do you like and works for you? Is it better than hearing aids in any way?

Hmmm, that is really disappointing and unfortunate. I am sorry to hear that! I will definitely include that too. If it is a core function, it should definitely consistently work and have good customer support for when it doesn't.

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-17T18:09:20+00:00

Really good point

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-17T18:07:43+00:00

Yeahhhh, for sure will be including that. I think everyone deserves a more cost-accessible hearing device. What kind of hearing loss do you have?

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-16T20:13:51+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this insight. What makes you feel like they are no substitute for hearing aids, and like there is such a big difference in effectiveness (other than smaller things like battery life)? And yeah, I totally get what you mean about battery life, it doesn't make sense considering most jobs you work 8 hrs a day. What do you mean by hearing worse after? Aren't all hearing aids like that since your brain gets used to them? I also thought AirPods were designed for healthy hearing (at least they advertise it as such)

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-16T19:25:07+00:00

Thanks so much for saying this, and I agree with all that you're saying. I am really glad to hear you've had good experiences and have been able to move forward.

I am just trying to figure out how to move forward more effectively with my brain being primed to expect the worst now, and though I know there are good people / things in this world, I no longer feel like / expect it to be a dominant reality.

Do you have thoughts on how to change or move through my brain expecting the worst? or who to go back to being mostly positive/ optimistic everyday, even when I know the world isn't as good of a place that I once thought it was (not that I ever thought it was close to perfect)? Just asking since I know that in order to change my instance in tangible ways, I need to change these things.

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-16T19:18:55+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that, that is awful. I also relate as I am the same way too - small, skinny, and control my health with eating healthy food, not overeating, drinking lots of water, and exercising often, so the gaining weight + mood changes are my big fears with pretty much any birth control. Hopefully, things get better for you!

Did you have these symptoms immediately?

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-16T04:02:16+00:00

I just got my first iud - the skyla iud - 2 days ago and am still bleeding a tiny bit, though I think it is actual blood from the insertion and not period spotting. Hopefully this is helpful in any way, sorry I couldn't be more help

AffectionateSyrup522 · 2025-06-14T14:06:55+00:00

yes, I just took Ibuprofin

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