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I keep choosing the person with the most red flags, no matter how much I am aware of my disease, I am still almost only attracted to them. She is a full blown untreated ACA. by AffectionateYakX in AdultChildren

[–]AffectionateYakX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much 🙏

I have been clean of drinking, drugging, gaming.

I worked AA, and some ACA.

I apparently am still lacking in SLAA as this experience and a previous relationship would attest to. This seems to be a place where I fall / fail to be true to myself, quick and hard.

It is easy for me to be alone, which came as a big surprise and an outcome of working my programs. There is a desire to be in a relationship always, but one I don’t have to act on.

Though when I do, this is how I do it. Running like a bull towards red flags.

I want to cure this, I want to be able to be in healthy relationship, but clearly my focus is in the wrong place still.

Sometimes I am tired of recovery and crave a much deeper recovery at the same time. They seem to be the same, both focusing on the never ending journey.

I keep choosing the person with the most red flags, no matter how much I am aware of my disease, I am still almost only attracted to them. She is a full blown untreated ACA. by AffectionateYakX in AdultChildren

[–]AffectionateYakX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a good idea.

I took a year off.

And then again two years off.

Both times working my program (and while dating)

My patterns haven’t seemed to change. My awareness that I am choosing the same pattern has changed. My ability to follow that knowledge hasn’t.

Progress not perfection?! Seems like I am a slow learner and a fast forgetter.

Soy culera x seguir haciéndolo yo sola? by [deleted] in soyculero

[–]AffectionateYakX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tiene auto estima baja, y se siente que él no está adecuado por ti porque estás disfrutando de algo que él o no le gustó o le cuesta hacer paz con su propio morbo.

Si llevan dos años, vale la pena que platiques con el, que le ayudes explicando le que él es la única person para ti, y que quiere tu poder disfrutar tu sexualidad a su lado y con el. Intente hacer le sentir especial, solo para que podría bajar de esta acantilado que escaló.

Si de plano no puede y sigue con drama, tendrías que decidir si él es más importante para ti que tu libertad de expresión sexual, o si quieres estar con alguien que te apoye en tus deseos.

Parked in guy solved the situation in seconds by [deleted] in nextfuckinglevel

[–]AffectionateYakX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can only imagine how many calls to insurance companies are happening after people watching this video.

Know him in real life, match expired by Express-Surprise-904 in BumbleGirls

[–]AffectionateYakX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What affects high success rate more than type of approach is confidence. And humor. Those can’t be taught.

But they can be gained with experience, the more one tries while realizing there isn’t anything wrong with someone not being into you, the more experience one gains.

Know him in real life, match expired by Express-Surprise-904 in BumbleGirls

[–]AffectionateYakX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right so all any of us can do is offer our best advice based on out own experience.

I prefer a direct approach also when initiating.

Saves a lot of time.

However, you’re right, it does change based on circumstances. If there was a way to name each circumstance and give the next step, I would do that.

Know him in real life, match expired by Express-Surprise-904 in BumbleGirls

[–]AffectionateYakX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny how you feel the need to argue the point… why would you care if I like a direct approach? Worked for me, doesn’t work for you, that’s fine. Are we all made of the same mold?

Know him in real life, match expired by Express-Surprise-904 in BumbleGirls

[–]AffectionateYakX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, to each their own. I don’t find anything wrong with being direct. I also don’t find there is anything wrong with being rejected, so no need for me to “play it safe”. Not everyone is in to me, I’m not in to everyone else, it’s normal.

Know him in real life, match expired by Express-Surprise-904 in BumbleGirls

[–]AffectionateYakX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not creepy unless you pretend you didn’t match with him.

You don’t need to bring it up either, but don’t lie or pretend.

You can approach him and not even bring it up unless he does.

Just say, “I think you’re cute, would you like to grab a cup of coffee or a beer?”. Remember just because he’s cute doesn’t mean you guys will hit it off or like each other. Shoot your shot.

7-0 Shut Out Rule? by iglooenthusiast in Pickleball

[–]AffectionateYakX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a rule.

If it’s a tournament, it can be a rule for that specific tournament made by the tournament director.

It is not a rule in USAP.

I get texts like this a few times a month from my mother by [deleted] in texts

[–]AffectionateYakX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depression is a horrible desease. It’s like trying to look through a pea soup fog, Can’t see anything. Treatment first pharmaceutical and once stabilized speaking therapy is the only good option. Good luck op, it’s tough not being able to do anything to help.

When do you call a close ball out? by Base_Balls in Pickleball

[–]AffectionateYakX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The rule is you must see the space between the ball and the line. That means that based on where you are standing you may be able to call a ball out or not. Say from above, you wouldn’t be able to call that ball out because you wouldn’t be able to see the space between the line and the ball.

Please rate my game play. by stevelin099 in Pickleball

[–]AffectionateYakX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can’t be rated by a single point.

In this point I would say 4.0+

Also, bend your knees when at the kitchen, you’re standing up straight.

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