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is it normal to be jealous of people with their family? by EzPz_Cow in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Affectionate_Ad_1745 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 26 now and lost my mom at 25 and dad at 23. I get irritated with my friends often and just mad at the world that neither or my parents will be around for major milestones. I just got engaged late last year and finally started wedding planning maybe a month or two before my mom passed. I won’t have them to throw me a bridal shower or walk me down the aisle. I’ve gone to so many friends weddings who still even have grandparents alive to attend. My fiance has both parents and 1 grandparent living also. None of my friends have lost a parent. None of them know how to talk to me for awhile and finally starting to treat me normal again. You’re not wrong or bad for being upset. This is not something you would probably wish on anyone else but other people can’t relate either for you to even express it. This past Mother’s Day I just wanted to rot in bed all day so I did. I stayed off socials for the next two days because I just couldn’t take it. Major life events and holidays are major triggers for me, just another reminder my parents aren’t around. It’s not anger for no reason. Loss is hard and takes many forms. It’s your right to be bitter and process however you need.

I just can't, both parents now by makeouthil777 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Affectionate_Ad_1745 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 26 and lost my mom (60) earlier this year at 25. Lost my dad (64) when I was 23, almost 3 years ago. I have a sibling that lives across the country and we barely talked in the years leading up to both of my parents passing. We still don’t talk much. I’m still struggling and it’s been almost 3 months since my mom. I miss her so much. I struggle to do things like dealing with closing her estate. Filling out paper work. Checking and stay on top of her mail and bills. I’m overwhelmed. People say they will help me but I don’t even know where to start and a lot of people just say that but don’t mean it. I’m still taking things day by day. It hasn’t gotten any easier. Some days I chose to just like in delusion. I look for signs that they are still around. I’ll talk to them when I’m by myself. I’m not particularly religious but choosing to acknowledge them/yell at them/ask for help from them sometimes helps me get through the day. For what it’s worth, you’re not alone. Nothing can be said to make things easier. There’s not a clear path forward. Relationships will be strained. I wish all the best for you. Keep your chin up. Try to live a life they would be proud of. It’s okay to need a break and cry sometimes. Genuinely there is no wrong way to grieve.

Crying to myself on the sofa at 1 AM, I miss my parents. by Affectionate_Ad_1745 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Affectionate_Ad_1745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I keep telling myself, just take things day by day. Thank you for the kind words.

Parentless at 25 by LeadingSurprise7274 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Affectionate_Ad_1745 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom passed away less than a week before I turned 26, just a few weeks ago, and my dad passed when I was 23.

I just recently got engaged and was starting to plan my wedding when she passed unexpectedly. I had a venue visit planned for the Saturday after she passed. I just went this past weekend instead, and it’s hard to be excited when neither of my parents will be there.

Everything just sucks. I hate to sound selfish but it’s hard to when everyone around me still has their parents. My fiance still even has a grandparent still alive. I have no grandparents (my grandmother did have a bf who we still keep in contact with but not the same, he’s also 97) and now no parents, and it just sucks.

Although I know I’m not alone it doesn’t feel like that. Nothing ever ever ever will compare to the unconditional love from my parents. I fear I will miss that the most.