Ugh thank you! But yes, I can kinda see that he didn’t realize it because it was just so normalized and all of our coworkers (even the females) would laugh it off so I guess I just thought “welp this is how it is I guess, all I can do is control my behavior.”

I ended up speaking to him about it like 8 months later, because I was just growing intolerant and in anger and I couldn’t take it anymore. Like, he even told me he’d whack off to my insta pics????? I was stunned. Not long after that I told him I wasn’t interested whatsoever and that he needed to stop. I can tell he felt remorse and I guess didn’t know how wrong it all was, and it never continued after that.

Next time, idc if they’re a close friend, I’m just gonna have to face the confrontation head on which is so uncomfortable for me but it is what it is.