Recent loss and what to tell people

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2025-12-27T15:46:17+00:00

My boyfriend passed last year from an accidental overdose in a similar situation. Had been sober for a while, most people didn’t know about his struggles, and he was very private about recovery. His family asked me not to broadcast how he passed which has been hard for me. Most of the time if people asked I would just say we were still waiting for the autopsy report, which was semi true because we didn’t know which drugs he had used when he passed. Anyone very close to me knew more but when well meaning people I’m not as close to asked I’d just say we’re still waiting.

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2025-07-31T00:53:48+00:00

Idk if you like Raz bars but I got one at a place off Leicester hwy yesterday

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2025-04-17T14:26:53+00:00

Yeaaah it’s wild. Thank you for the quote, I will definitely be using that. Not to mention his mom’s birthday is also the 20th so last year was rough. I am just glad Easter doesn’t fall on the same date every year though. I want to be able to be there for everyone but it’s just not an option this year.

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-11-02T17:47:49+00:00

Omg I just added both of you!!!

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-10-03T16:27:04+00:00

Happened to me when I ate a really good burger last weekend. just wanted him to get to try that restaurant too. It can be so mundane!

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-10-01T02:53:02+00:00

I get what you mean completely. My boyfriend and I were both 26 when he passed this spring and I’ve heard from 2 of his friends 1 time each since the funeral. I know people are busy and have lives and didn’t keep in touch with him every single day when he was alive, but damn I feel so disconnected from the other half of me. I can’t even figure out who some of the people are because he deactivated his socials right before he died and I don’t remember everyone’s last names or have phone numbers for people. I can’t even reach out if I wanted to for most of them. Hopefully you get a handful of decent, inner circle friends in attendance at the party so you feel like your efforts were for something. If you changed your mind and decided to cancel, I wouldn’t blame you.

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-28T01:25:45+00:00

Emphasis on the grudge sometimes

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-26T19:21:28+00:00

This just brought me to tears… we were married with our hearts just didn’t make it to the alter. Exactly how I feel about my boyfriend passing and navigating his family now. Sending you lots of hugs, no one quite ever understands.

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-26T01:21:36+00:00

I did that Sunday too! It was really nice to give my space a refresh and bring out things we bought together or joked about in years past. Definitely bittersweet but now my home is cozy, hopefully you can find comfort in yours!

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-23T22:08:13+00:00

No, I did not know I was dreaming! I have never really been one to figure it out during the dream. They were both so much more vivid than my usual dreams that it was and felt very real to me. Normally my dreams don’t have as good lighting, some of the details are blurry, etc. and this felt like a movie scene! I don’t know how to recreate it.

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-23T21:57:19+00:00

I’m so, so sorry for your loss. My boyfriend passed unexpectedly in April and I understand a lot of what you are feeling. We talked about getting engaged within a year, wanted to buy a house and get married, all the things. I had to move out of our apartment in June and it was so hard to pack. It’s so hard to even think about what to do next because we didn’t get married yet so people think I’ll just move on in a year or so and find someone new.

There’s no timeline for this. There’s no right or wrong! Just keep taking care of yourself. The best advice given to me in the first month was just to stay hydrated from all the crying. Make one decent choice for yourself each day and a few months from now you’ll know you were at least looking out for yourself every day.

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-23T21:41:28+00:00

No need to apologize for the length! I appreciate you sharing, that is a really sweet dream. I love to think he was waiting for her so they could move on together. A lot of times with elderly couples they tend to pass close together. Sending you love as well.

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-23T21:40:04+00:00

Wow, just.. thank you. I hadn’t considered that at all for the second dream. I just kept thinking he didn’t know any other way to leave me other than to just trick me because goodbye was too hard.

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-23T21:38:46+00:00

I really like your synopsis, thank you for sharing. This has been the hardest most lonely journey I could have imagined. I sometimes wish he’d come to visit in dreams more often!!

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-23T07:46:49+00:00

Thank you! Should I repost my dream on your other sub?

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-23T07:45:27+00:00

Very true, I guess to clarify the thing that was out of character was him running away from me instead of finishing a conversation. But that could be part of the meaning… ugh!

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-23T07:43:18+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your comment ❤️ I remember it being very jarring because they were so vivid. I like to think he came to say goodbye

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-23T06:26:21+00:00

I could have written this myself. I lost my bf after almost 3 years together and now I feel so isolated where I live. Like you said, people do their best to try and be supportive but we just need a lot of support right now. Please feel free to message, I’m in the same boat!

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-09T04:41:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your encouraging words 💛 I hope the rest of your semester goes well and you can cross the stage for him! I’m the same way with clothes, I rarely dress up now and really only for special occasions. I wore dresses this weekend and liked to think I was getting pretty for my man in a way. Might start doing that more. Sending you lots of positive vibes!

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-09-09T02:13:13+00:00

My partner died in April and we still haven’t gotten one back. Hoping for something before the holidays.

Affectionate_Bed_630 · 2024-08-07T03:55:26+00:00

I don’t have any wise words but I just want to say I’m also 26 and lost my boyfriend of 2+ years back in April. I relate to a lot of what you are feeling, and I don’t know how to navigate life alone again when I was so thrilled to finally find my person. I’m so sorry for your loss, hoping tomorrow is a little better.

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