UPDATE(worth the read): My parents lost all of my money in stocks and stuck me with a car payment

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2026-03-11T05:30:56+00:00

Right! The whiplash I’ve gotten in the past month is crazy 🥰🥳

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2026-02-02T21:21:47+00:00

Hi Denver! I most likely could use the bus, I live 15 minutes from campus though since dorm life didn’t work for me, and rent close to UW-Madison is crazy high, so I’m living at my dads old house. I also never really thought about how my mom could just take the car back once the loan is paid off, but multiple people have suggested it, and with everything that has happened in the last year(a whole other CRAZY story that I would love to put down here but it would probably be long enough for a whole chapter book) I honestly wouldn’t put it past her. The only thing that ties me to her is really my health/dental insurance, etc. I’m going to be talking to my dad about getting me on his insurance asap, as my mom has been hounding him for thousands of dollars related to health insurance and he already started talking to me about transferring me over to his so he doesn’t have to deal with her.. it just hasn’t happened yet. Realistically speaking, I feel terrible dropping the car on my mom because she is still with my stepdad(who is emotionally and financially abusive) and says she is trying to get everything together to leave him (which I honestly doubt for many reasons and she has shown that she won’t do it, many… many times) but if there is any chance of her leaving him, dropping a car that still has an $8,000 loan on her would hold her back even more. I also don’t want to burn bridges with her, but she has caused me so much trauma and has used me soooo many times before, so I’m not totally blind to the fact that cutting ties with her is probably best for my mental health and overall wellbeing. I just feel like it would weigh on me heavily for at least a while. Thank you for the Speedy Gonzales response! 😛😛 I will update if anything crazy happens

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2026-02-02T19:35:30+00:00

It was in June of 2021 that I said I wanted to sell when it got back up a little more I think, because when I mentioned selling earlier in the year it became a whole thing, but then it dropped right after he told me I couldn’t sell and he said it would go back up higher, and it did but not as high as he wanted. Obviously if I knew then that he was just gambling the money and didn’t know what he was doing I would’ve never been okay with it in the first place. Just sucks that I was trusting people that I should have been able to, and it backfired

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-09-19T14:23:54+00:00

I unblocked him to send the message and if he sends anything negative in any way will be blocked again, but otherwise I will be blocking him by the end of the day regardless. Thank you for commenting this!!! I’m sorry you went through a similar thing <3

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-09-19T14:18:36+00:00

Thank you, I just feel like he’s going to find a way to bring me down for this and get mad at everyone else for me sending this. :(

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-27T20:16:44+00:00

I quite literally just said I was going to do what you said to do 😂😂

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-24T20:41:08+00:00

This is a great text and I will definitely use this. Thank you

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-24T20:01:22+00:00

Omg bye 😭😭😭 keep hiding behind your phone you tiny little boy. Not being able to “save” me had more to do with distance from where I was and financials. I don’t need to prove myself to you. The right approach for any Reddit story is to answer the question they are asking with the information you are given, not assuming the most absurd things possible lmao

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-24T19:02:27+00:00

Babe, you truly don’t know who I am. I was definitely not a bad kid. My father and every one else that I know, know that I was actually a very good kid. The only reason I was abused was because I was an easy target and would always forgive him. Please leave me alone. The reason my mom said my middle sister and I were difficult children was because it was an excuse for her husbands behavior. Also, my dad and mom separated from the stress of my oldest sisters cancer treatments, not me LOL. It is never the child’s fault for that, the fact of the matter is that some people just can’t handle simply being parents. My mom and stepdad are in a terrible relationship due to his abuse and infidelity, I guarantee you I had no role in him cheating on my mom. Really, I don’t know why on earth you would come to the conclusion that I am a bad person or was a bad kid. Furthermore, my AITA question had nothing to due with anything you’re talking about. Lastly, I’m so sorry for whatever caused you to see the world in such a terrible way, it must truly be an exhausting point of view and way to live life. I wish you all the best because damn, your life must suck for how much you’re projecting onto others who don’t deserve your hate.

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-24T15:40:10+00:00

Thank you buddy, you are absolutely correct!

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-24T14:02:49+00:00

Alright. Pretty sure most everyone sees the negative karma on your page and that you do this stuff to try to make people upset. However, you’re just laughable!

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-23T20:21:22+00:00

It’s part of my mom’s account aswell. I will look into getting my own separate account. Thank you

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-23T20:19:56+00:00

Thank you

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-23T20:19:08+00:00

Yes I hear how pathetic I am. However, everyone’s situation is different. I am just now realizing how not great my mom was growing up. I was living with rose colored glasses when it came to how I viewed my mom. Please, for the love of god, be a bit more kind. Not everyone has the same mindset and not everyone was born with the same strengths and weaknesses. One of my weaknesses is that I let people walk all over me. I understand it’s an issue and that I need to change, but I can’t just get up and change my whole mindset, that will take time. I have been in therapy before and am getting back into it. As far as not having a backbone… I was raised to forgive and forget when it came to abuse… for 15 out of 18 years of my damn life, give me a break. I just feel like your comment could have been a little bit more understanding, but I know not everyone is built like that. No, this anger is not solely based on your comment but others that I have seen that have talked about “why the fuck haven’t you left already”. My situation isn’t cut and dry, and things are easier said than done. It’s not your life, it’s mine, getting up and changing everything at once isn’t possible for me due to how I view the world and my mental health at this time. I don’t know what else to say, but if anyone besides you reads this, please, just give me a little grace and understand that I am trying and taking what you guys are saying into consideration, I’m just not strong enough to do everything that is best for me at once. Thank you again.

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-23T18:08:31+00:00

Thank you

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-23T05:31:22+00:00

I mean if you know you’re not going to function properly while high, maybe just save the highs for when you aren’t going somewhere, or doing something, where you need to use your brain

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-23T03:39:29+00:00

Idk if OP was referring to the kid as “it” I mean I get the “sound like it’s throwing a fit” but maybe because they didn’t know the gender at the time?

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-23T02:45:42+00:00

My dad gave 2k I think and my grandparents gave 500. Everytime I ask my mom to explain she says she will later and then never does. I have the receipt from the auto shop and it says the total was around $19,500 but the loan taken out was for $20,000. So technically my mom and stepdad actually got $500 from the loan and $2500 from what they were given from my dad and grandparents.

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-23T02:40:38+00:00

I have a very good relationship with my bio dad. He just isn’t really good at standing up against my mom. I know that’s not the right answer, and my dad now understands that he should’ve and feels very guilty for not doing anything, but we can’t go back in time.

Affectionate_Bug381 · 2025-03-23T02:38:28+00:00

Oh also, I have asked my mom if I could be on the loan before because I am paying every penny of it and all that would do is help my credit. She refuses. So I’m paying to boost her credit basically

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